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Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 28/01/2019 12:29

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Auba14 · 05/02/2019 20:45

I'm convinced that when this rarely happened on Tinder it was because the person had deleted their profile and started again? There was one person and every time I went on Tinder the profile appeared every day, and I'm pretty sure you can only do that by deleting and then creating a new account.

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WarIsPeace · 05/02/2019 20:55

I saw one this evening which was solely pictures with the ex wife. Including the wedding photo. I mean WTAF are they thinking?

Auba14 · 05/02/2019 21:03

Are you sure that's a man 😂 From the limited stuff he has on there he's got longer hair than me!

Auba14 · 05/02/2019 21:03

Are you sure that's a man 😂 From the limited stuff he has on there he's got longer hair than me!

Leatherandsilk · 05/02/2019 21:38

Well I tried the adult friend finder, I lasted around 1hrbefore deleting it’s scary! Did speak to one man who phone called me, from Belgium but happy to fly here, stay at my house WITH my kids (I shouldn’t be so precious) practice various BDSM and have me use my intelligence and beauty (yeah right) to seduce other women for him.

He asked me to delete all his details when I eventually said no. Wonder if Interpol would like to know Shock

FML I attract some freaks.

supercali77 · 05/02/2019 21:51

I've completed tinder. Ffs

ccgirr · 05/02/2019 21:57

Batshit- I keep looking at those bangles and rings all the time! Love
Shit with sugar- that hair?!? No from me 🤣

TheSheepHaveEyes · 05/02/2019 22:08

@supercali77 That happened with Bumble and Tinder with me.

I redid my Tinder profile about an hour or so ago, kept it similar to the one that I had a few of you look over, but did change a couple of things. I still don't have a full length photo, but will add one when I do. I left it for about an hour, then started swiping, and the first three profiles that I swiped right on were a match, which I thought was a positive sign. We'll just have to see if anything comes of them now.

I did lower the age down slightly, at someones suggestion, but just out of curiosity, I'm just wondering how low would you go? I originally had it set to 39 (I'm 43), but I've just changed it to 37. Would you go lower than that? I'd not thought to before, but don't know how low to go.

WarIsPeace · 05/02/2019 22:18

Mine is 30-54 but I don't really look twice at any under 35 unless they look very interesting. I started with a lower minimum Blush until I saw DS's sports teacher. Who is 25 Grin awkward

TooOldForThis67 · 06/02/2019 00:04

I had a very confusing night. An old iron came roud. We are just freinds now. He left his all his home brew.
I can't do this. I have a date tomz. I must get myself together. Shit.
MrYoung wanted to see me after 10.pm after he'd been to the gym, ffs.
MrBE tried to call me. I ignored. I don't do phone calls.
I am feeling very low.

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helpmeoutout · 06/02/2019 07:19

@TooOldForThis67 are you alright? What do you mean left his home brew? Your post is confusing me. Sounds like you have some fun irons on the go or have I missed something?

supercali77 · 06/02/2019 07:27

tooold I'm assuming you're a bit drunk from the post?
the sheep yeah I don't go much lower than about 38 tbh. It just slightly weird me out matching with people loads younger. (I'm almost 42)

wishywashy6 · 06/02/2019 07:27

@TooOldForThis67 is everything ok? Your post is a little confusing
Who is your date with tonight?

BatshitCrazyWoman · 06/02/2019 07:40

TooOld are you okay?

ccgirr I love them too - just found them through a random ad on Instagram. We all need some positive affirmations.

I'm 54 and did have my age range as 35 to 56 but am thinking of changing the lower age. Not really relationship materal if they are nearly 20 years younger than me😂

BatshitCrazyWoman · 06/02/2019 07:45

TheSheep good luck with your tweaked profile. I'm happy to share mine but I can't get a link that actually takes you to my profile Confused I did google it but it seems like everyone this issue.

Notcoolmum · 06/02/2019 08:13

Hope you are feeling better today tooold. I don’t do phone calls either. But I’ve started to like it when Mr S calls me.

shitwithsugaron ugh to the hair!!

I think it means they have paid and chosen an area to search. Someone in another thread about her husband being in tinder said you could do that. Best avoided for sure!

Hump day. I hope everyone’s weeks are improving as we head towards the weekend x

unique1986 · 06/02/2019 09:59

Well I have a 3rd meet with someone who hadn't been in contact for over two weeks..
He said sorry and that's just what he is like.
I said well it would just be friends and nothing more in that case.

Anyhow we are going to see Tears for Fears and Alison Moyet tonight wooo lol
Bit random, but what the hell Smile
( a relative had unwanted tickets)

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 06/02/2019 10:57

TooOld hope you're ok.

TheSheep have PM'd you.

I'm having yet another break from the apps. I just can't seem to attract the type of men I like.
I've made a note of the FWB websites but I'm a bit too scared to look at the moment.

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WarIsPeace · 06/02/2019 11:15

I don't blame you myoldbrain I'm quite fearless but they sound like another level altogether. I suspect there's enough hookup opportunities with the usual sources tbh, perhaps just making it clear you're open to casual dating as well as a relationship would be enough?

I've made it clear to all my matches /chats that I'm not looking for a serious relationship and it was only a deal breaker for one, everyone else was happy to see how it goes.

Am looking forward to my new Friday date, I know he lives quite close to the venue where we're meeting so am in two minds how it will go (if it goes well) I suspect that if he takes the initiative I might audition him Grin I don't do spontaneous

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 06/02/2019 12:03

WarlsPeace I think you're right, they should be enough opportunities for something casual on Tinder etc.

However, I'm struggling to attract any men that I find remotely fanciable. The ones that like me are the complete opposite of what I'm looking for - usually overweight, bad teeth, no interests apart from watching TV. I'm active, sporty with quite a few different interests. Yet men who seem to be similar to me don't want to know.

So I doubt I'll find anything better on the alternative sites, which is why a need a break to think about what I should do.

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