Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Anyone ever do the myers briggs personality test? I saw someone on tinder put themselves as an ENTP so I looked it up. Turns out i'm an ENFP (We wouldn't be a good match hahaha)

I have a date on Friday with Mr South African, he text me this morning, asked when we could meet, arranged the date and then vanished 🤣

@supercali77 I have. I'm INFJ which is Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging, so pretty much introverted, caring and gentle. Which probably doesn't bode well for OLD!

Thesheep I am INJF too, I like my own company and don’t have many friends 😁

ISTJ here, but mostly feel it's a load of bollocks so perhaps that's why

I am ISFJ too.

Introvert(19%) Sensing(9%) Feeling(34%) Judging(1%)

Auba yeah it's not looking good.

Thanks TooOld I drink too but only really socially and I want someone ideally the same in that respect. My Ex-H was a heavy drinker and it never ended well.

I think I'll draw a line under this one even though he's being completely sweet and chatting a lot again today. I guess I have to let him know we're not a good fit?

I'm, not enjoying Tinder at all though, loads of good looking matches my own age but zero of them message.. I even did what I prefer not to do and messaged a couple first and still nadda! I prefer POF but feel guilty logging in until I've let Mr,Lawyer know its a no go.

singlecheese - I've had the same from Tinder and those who do msg me, well it goes no where. POF and Badoo for me, works.

MrBirdsEye has now conf a date for Weds eve, taking me to a local restuarant (date 2) and also Fri for breakfast (date 3). So, seems keen and he's even suggested taking me out on his boat in the summer! But, I have to hide that I'm smoking. I am cutting down with a view to giving up so maybe this isn't a bad thing.
MrYoung has been in touch asking how I am but hasn't suggested another date. Not too bothered as although it helps having 2 on the go to not over-invest, I am terrible at juggling my time.
I have another iron who has suggest a coffee later in the week.

shit what a prince he sounds. I'd be very tempted to have some fun messaging him ...

single I'm exactly the same about drinking. It's a firm boundary for me, and that's okay. It doesn't matter what other people think.

Slightly off topic, but I'm going to buy myself this
soulanalyse.com/shop/i-am-enough-affirmation-bracelet-gold/
as a reminder to myself ....

@TooOld am I missing something about the coffee date? And it sounds like things with Mr BE are progressing.

I had a long (long!) chat on the phone last night with Mr Irish. Hmmm he has a lovely voice and seems very nice but not sure if we will hit it off in person. He's keen to meet and has said that he likes to have a couple of dates to see how he feels about someone. Which is fine, but sometimes I just clap eyes on someone and think 'nope ...' We can't meet for a couple of weeks now as he's away with work or has adult DC visiting. Will meet him I think.

Have Mr Caring messaging still - I have a free day this weekend and would like a quick daytime date to fill it!

I've just done that test but my results are pretty much 50/50 on all fronts 🤷🏼‍♀️ does that mean I'm a EISNTFJP??

batshit - I am seriously tempted to get the silver version. It'd be great to wear on dates, lol! The coffee date is someone I've been msg on and off for a while. Am 99.9% sure he's seeing someone and is keeping me on the back burner. Little does he know I'm doing the same.
Do you think you might fancy MrIrish from the pics that you've seen? I love an Irish accent and their sense of humour. I dated an Irish guy once who was so funny that it put me off him! No pleasing me, lol.

I think I might have a penchant for human time-bombs. Crazy makers. I mean.....possibly a reaction to seeing someone very predictable for a few months there. It's kinda exciting.

TooOld he's Irish/Spanish ... if he looks like his profile pics then yes, I fancy him!

batshit - that combination sounds super sexy! Defo meet him.
supercali - I get you!

We are sorting something for the week after next. He seems quite ... restrained, I suppose. We'll see.

FWB and I will be meeting for a drink to chat and stuff in a couple of weeks. Hopefully an actual meet soon after ...

Does anyone know how to link to an OK Cupid profile ... can't work out how to do it !

So, after accumulation of around eight months of on and off talking, ramped up now are both single since Christmas - we seem to get to a point of one of us suggesting a date and then we end up having to cancel.

My date is in the same profession as me, however is giving it up to do something completely different and setting up her own business along with per parents. So at the moment she's doing her normal job plus the new one so it's really difficult as things can change at a moments notice with the new business. On Sunday night she suggested tonight for a Starbucks after I'd finished work, I was toying with the idea and finally messaged this morning saying I could - but then she couldn't get away from work.

I feel quite bad, as I know she's overinvested and has admitted as much. Both of us aren't on any apps because if this didn't work out I'm not that bothered about a relationship right now. She already said to me that she hopes I don't think she's just messaging me for someone to message as it's not like that. I don't know what's wrong with me! There's this lovely person with so much going for her, pretty, fun, the conversations we have are brilliant and we have the same sense of humour I'm just not that bothered?! And I'm also terrified of hurting her too, so trying to limit contact and not be messaging constantly as I don't want to let her down. Plus we've never met but I feel like I've known her forever!

I've no idea what I'm writing, I'm just trying to get down how I feel, so apologies for using the thread as a sounding board. It's so confusing!!

auba if I were you i’d meet her ASAP - if there’s a spark when you meet in person then you WILL be bothered and will make the time for her moving forwards, and if not you can both go your separate ways or stay as pen pals - this limbo land is not fair on either of you.

single the Stains guide to etiquette says that stopping to have a pint in a country pub mid hike is acceptable, whereas pulling a can of Stella out of your rucksack would ring alarm bells. Which was it?That's what my etiquette guide says, but then among all the terrible men I've been out with, none has been a serious alcoholic.

(sigh) Looks like I might be iron free right now . Mr Urbanite hasn't been in touch for 4 days. Been blown off by a couple of Bumble matches. Pffffffffffffffft.

Don't you hate it when you see a fairly tempting profile on tinder but swipe left because you CBA. Then they come round again a few hours later and think Ahh they must have swiped me. So you swipe right... And they hadn't oh well

I had another match earlier, they swiped 2nd but haven't messaged. I'm not going first, they look nice but I'm sticking to my new plan. And my dance card is currently full with ongoing iron Sat and newbie on Fri for the weekend

If they are outside the mileage shit they tend to be matches I've found.
But I set my mileage for a reason, so rarely make exceptions