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Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 28/01/2019 12:29

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

OP posts:
TooOldForThis67 · 04/02/2019 22:11

rich - sorry to hear that. Very confusing. Maybe the drink did play a part, going from zero to a hundred in a short space of time.

FWB/FB Searchers - IllicitEncounters is worth a try. The profiles are very honest about what people are looking for and I never had any hassle or ads. I would add that I signed up for research purposes (honestly - psychology degree) and I did put this in my profile.

singlecheese - Glad you got back safe. Doesn't sound promising though. Who'd have a beer in the middle of a hike and I'm saying that as a person who loves a drink. That's a bit odd.

leather - I remember your story and it's shocking, so I understand how you feel about 1st dates at home etc. Sorry.

Coco - I have pm'd you.

shitwithsugaron · 04/02/2019 22:11

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supercali77 · 04/02/2019 22:54

rich ah ok. A ghosting after 3 months is rough. My first thought is she's not over it but trying to move on by seeing other people. Not always a good strategy....Right person, wrong time?

Amazonfromkent · 05/02/2019 05:49

Quick question. With POF, do you wait to be contacted by men or is it advisable to approach men first as well? Would be interesting to hear your stories.

TheSheepHaveEyes · 05/02/2019 06:06

Would anyone else be willing to have a look at my dating profile before I delete it? I'm not having an awful lot of luck on any of the dating apps, so I'm going to delete everything, have some time out, and then completely overhaul my profiles with new pics etc. I just wondered if I could have some feedback on the current one so I know what to change. Or maybe someone would be kind enough to share their profile with me, so I can see where I'm going wrong. I wish I could pay someone to write it for me!

I'm not having much luck, very few promising leads, and those I do have end up in nothing. I went on one date with a guy who I had quite a bit in common with, and although it seemed to go okay and he said he wanted to meet up again he blocked me on WA. There was one guy who was lovely but all he ended up wanting was to sext, and after I kept trying to steer him away from it he disappeared. One guy I met on bumble I'm still talking to regularly on WA, but I think he just wants a friend (which is fine, I like him as a person, but I'm not sure anything will come of it),and one guy who I thought wanted a FWB type thing (which I'd also be okay with) blocked me on WA yesterday.

I live in a difficult area, with a low-ish population, so I feel like I'm seeing the same old faces constantly. So I thought a break and a fresh start might help.

supercali77 · 05/02/2019 06:17

amazon personally I found any of those I contacted first fell dead in the water....just my experience. My approach on there was just to view them. If they liked my profile enough they'd message

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MyOldBrainStoppedWorking · 05/02/2019 06:45

TheSheep I'm happy to look at your profile for you.
And I'll share mine. Although I don't have a lot of success so I might not be the best person.
Have PM'd you

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 05/02/2019 07:01

TheSheep I'm happy to look at your profile if you like? Will PM you.

Auba14 · 05/02/2019 07:11

TheSheep I’ll also happily look at your profile too. It’s always good there’s people on here around to help!

Chocolate123 · 05/02/2019 07:34

@TheSheepHaveEyes all your experiences seem normal unfortunately there's a lot of frogs before you find a prince. I'm happy to look at your profile. I don't have one anymore as I'm lucky that I finally found a great guy. So don't give up Smile

TheSheepHaveEyes · 05/02/2019 07:59

Thanks all. Just getting the kids ready for and onto their respective school buses, and then I'll send my (rubbish) profile out to those of you who've offered, and don my hard hat ready for the verdict!

WarIsPeace · 05/02/2019 08:52

You can add me to the list for pms TheSheep, if you like

shitwithsugaron · 05/02/2019 09:06

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shitwithsugaron · 05/02/2019 09:07

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wishywashy6 · 05/02/2019 09:11

@shitwithsugaron he sounds like a great catch! 😳🤦🏼‍♀️

Notcoolmum · 05/02/2019 09:14

shitwithsugaron what a catch. I assume you’ve messaged him...!

rich sorry you’ve had that experience. I just ended things with someone I’d been seeing for a while and felt rubbish about it. Multi dating makes things complicated. Blocking you was a bit off though!

So. A quick update from me. Mr S came over to do an odd job for me and met my kids (teens) they liked him. I like him. So now I’m just scared about feelings and vulnerability and being hurt. I’ve closed myself off from this for so long and didn’t expect to be here. He is lovely though!

supercali77 · 05/02/2019 09:18

And "InsipirationSunlight" is his handle....the irony is palpable

shitwithsugaron · 05/02/2019 09:21

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TooOldForThis67 · 05/02/2019 09:24

thesheep - I'll have a look and am happy to share mine if you tell me how I do that!
shitwithsugar - Sounds like a rant at one particular person who probably blocked him, so seeking revenge that way?
notcool - Enjoy, sounds promising.

wishywashy6 · 05/02/2019 09:25

I'm surprised he's single in the first place, how's someone not snapped him up already?!

Notcoolmum · 05/02/2019 09:34

Ha ha shitwithsugaron. I’ll get a hat!!

Thanks tooold. It does sound promising. I’m surprised to be here. And utterly terrified. I hadn’t realised what a wall I’d built up around myself until now.

TheSheepHaveEyes · 05/02/2019 09:50

PM's sent. Please be gentle Blush

Chocolate123 · 05/02/2019 10:18

@TheSheepHaveEyes PM sent Smile

WarIsPeace · 05/02/2019 10:32

Pm sent too, you seem lovely BTW Flowers

WarIsPeace · 05/02/2019 10:35

Omg shit that's really impressive. I can't think why he isn't getting laid morning noon and night.
I would totally match him for torture purposes, FYI

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