Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@shit enjoy drinks....loo update if you can!

@batshit we're going bowling then drinks!

Quick question....is Brazilian wax the norm these days? I have always been a trimmer and wax the bikini line but I'm wondering what others do

Lovemusic33 My new fbw has been a bit rough a few times, I just told him consistently that I don't like it, and he seems to have got the idea now. He's probably old enough to be Mryoung's dad though which maybe helps. It's definitely a porn thing and I've been clear this is fwb only and I will go home if he takes things too far. That should be the beauty of this type of arrangement, as soon as it's not fun anymore it's over.

That'll be fun supercali. I'm a Brazilian type of woman - I do it myself because my skin won't tolerate wax and I hate any kind of regrowth. I don't know what is fashionable, I just do what I prefer!

Hi all, didn’t come back on yesterday as I was too busy hanging my head in shame! I caved and tried to call him 😳 Yep, you guessed it, he didn’t answer and he also hasn’t got back to me, this was at 4pm yesterday afternoon.

I am glad I tried because I think the thing that I hadn’t even tried contact since leaving his last week was driving me crazy, but now today, yep, I’m feeling like shite again! Lol!

But packing ready to go on a mini break with my daughter and parents tomorrow from Monday to Friday!

Hope everyone is ok! I did listen to all your advise...I’m just super weak! Xx

Well Friday night was a success, only left at 7pm yesterday as I'd arranged to meet friends, otherwise I think I'd still be there now. AND I came on yesterday morning so it's not even all just sex.

"Officially" it's being called sort of fwb (slash go slow and see where it goes), but I'm really not getting that vibe at all. I really like her and I'm pretty sure it's mutual

@batshit yeah I do myself. I was kinda wondering about taking more off because...easier? Cleaner?

Just a point @supercali77 you're going to @ people on this thread, please can you use the full username, otherwise another user gets a notification. TY

Ahhh didn't think of that shall do!

Thanks

Good luck with the non date shitwithsugaron

Oh dear confused. I do hope it’s shown you he’s really not bothered about you and you can stop investing your emotion in him.

So Mr S is coming the house tomorrow to do a job for me and will meet my kids (teenagers). They are both ok with it!

Go in shit - he's not gonna stand you up!

Shall we have a “signs it’s dead/never going to meet you” chat?

For me - reading and not replying to messages for hours/days, sending very bland messages with no response required “have a good day”, not confirming a date/time and changing subject instead, having a reason why they can’t meet that covers their arse for a while “my car is broken getting a new one next month”

Just
Go
Away

Why can’t men just say they are out, I’m so bored of calling it out, hazard of being a straight forward blunt bitch I guess

Enjoy the non date shit!

Hi all. So I joined Match yesterday. Hundreds of views etc, but actual messages are quite thin on the ground.
Anyway, got chatting with a nice guy, and the conversation is going well. However he is viewing my profile a LOT, and I find this a bit creepy and offputting.
I remember an old flame telling me that every time someone sends a message on Match, a view of the recipient's profile is registered, if that makes sense.
Anyone happen to know if this is true?

@notcoolmum
Oh yes, it’s shown me that!
Weirdly I had a text off a number I don’t know this morning saying ‘who is this?’
No idea who it is! X

Dieu no that’s not true, they have to go into your profile to register. He could be checking for interesting things to talk about?

I meant to ask, who fancies doing some psychoanalysis...

As I said it's officially being called sort of fwb at the mo, but that's not the vibe I'm getting. For instance messages this morning saying she woke up forgetting I wasn't there and that she is missing me but specifically not just the sex. And there have been hints at exclusivity. I'm getting the impression that she's really wary because of something in the past (especially as bff said as much in our earlier conversation) and calling it fwb "for now" is a protective thing rather than the actual position.

Now, if this was a bloke I wouldn't even be asking as I'd be fairly sure I'm reading stuff that's not there, but I've done fwb with men and this isn't that (obviously). So, many women of the thread, could you see yourself doing this?

BeyondShattered I may be in a good place to answer as I'm gay, but I don't quite get your question and what you want to know?!

Excellent, shitwith

Beyond - I can be similar - it's a self-preservation thing for me, until I'm sure of someone. So that could be why she's like that. Play it by ear, and see how it goes.

Sorry that happened Confused but forget him and enjoy your mini break.

Auba - I guess, is it vaguely plausible for a woman to purposely call something ‘fwb for now’ as a protective thing, following rule #3 maybe?

It doesn’t really matter either way, I enjoy her company a lot and something less relationship-y would fit in my life a great deal easier atm, so I’m happy to go with the flow and see what does happen. I’m just intrigued!

@Confusedlady21 enjoy your break, use the time away to try and forget about him!!

I think it's absolutely feasible that someone would call it that if they were protecting themselves. And if that was the case, I'd really want to know what they were protecting themselves from and what their fears are.

She may also be saying it because she believes that FWB is what you want and she's trying to mould herself into your perfect type of person.

It sounds like you have a really nice girl there, so I would try not to overinvest (although I get the impression that's already happened!) and just take it day by day.

shitwithsugar - Yey! Cant wait for further update.
beyond - sounds like she's just being cautious and really likes you.
batshit - Brazilian - I do it myself, using shaving foam but it soon gets prickly. Never had it waxed, would be too scared of the pain!

My date with MrYoung went very well. Despite me telling him I wouldn't sleep with him on a 1st date, I did and boy has he got stamina. He has a Prince Albert - never been with a guy with one before and I can totally recommend! He is well fit and so cute! He is the same height as me, which would normally put me off but he's so goddam lovely. Turns out he was more concerned with me not wanting to date him cos of the age. He said he'd be proud to walk down the street holding my hand, bless.
I cancelled my dog walk date for 11am as was in bed with MrYoung. told him simply that I'd met someone.
MrBirdsEye finally msg me to explain that he had driven to his sisters last night and was just hoping for a chat but bad line meant it all went wrong.
So, I am not going to get over invested with either guy and just enjoy it.