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Found my knickers in stepdaughter's drawer

166 replies

Skiddaddleeeeo · 23/01/2019 14:50

So, our stepdaughter rarely puts clothes/undies in the wash. Common teenage habit perhaps. Today I'm at home tidying up and went into her drawers to hunt out dirty clothes. I found three pairs of my own g strings in there, all very visibly worn.
Do I say anything? Tell my partner?
V bizarre I know. I'm also now thinking I probably shouldn't have gone into her drawers in future...!

OP posts:
LadyDeadpool · 23/01/2019 15:56

Would you let a 10 year old wear them? What's the difference?

5 years? A third of their life? I wore thongs at 15 my DD wears thongs as she says they're more comfortable. She can make her own choices on what underwear she wants to wear it's not my business what's covering or not covering her butt.

LadyDeadpool · 23/01/2019 15:58

but it isn't the kind of thing parents should buy for their DD's or SDD's

So if your DD or SDD spends a lot of time in leggings and is worried about VPL you should still force them to wear the underwear giving them VPL? Underwear isn't a luxury don't be so stuck up. It's not going to turn her into a raging slut.

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:59

@Racecardriver Wed 23-Jan-19 15:55:15
Also why do you keep going on about children? 15 isn’t a child.

15 isn't adult either. 15 is a child in the eyes of the law and compared to grown women.

There are much more appropriate options if VPL is to be avoided.

MysweetAudrina · 23/01/2019 15:59

My sd always robbed my socks always no matter how many pairs I bought her. She is 25 now and bought me loads of socks for Xmas to make up for it.

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MysweetAudrina · 23/01/2019 16:00

Also what's wrong with buying thongs for your kids?

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/01/2019 16:01

There are much more appropriate options if VPL is to be avoided.

Yep. Commando. Or does that not meet with your rules either?

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Skiddaddleeeeo · 23/01/2019 16:02

Well, first of all thanks to those of you who offered genuine advice and have had similar experiences. It's nice to feel that this isn't as as outrageous as some are suggesting.
For those of you troll-hunting, I hope you know you've made me feel embarrassed, upset and somewhat angry. If you don't like the post, move on as opposed to watching and waiting with bated breath for your next dig.
The underwear bought at Xmas was CK cotton g strings (2018), or thongs. I think we can all imagine the type of underwear I was referring to rather than being sarcastic about my terminology.
I'd suggest a straw poll of any 15 year old girl will prove that they're not wearing cotton pants with days of the week on.

Again thanks for the sincere advice.
My post wasn't meant to be offensive, I posted based on the genuine practical parenting advice I've had before. Clearly I shouldn't have posted in this section, that was an error on my part.

I'll think twice before using this forum again

OP posts:
Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 16:05

@AnneLovesGilbert Wed 23-Jan-19 16:01:04
There are much more appropriate options if VPL is to be avoided.

Yep. Commando. Or does that not meet with your rules either?

You can get no vpl underwear in all shapes - knickers, shorts, and not just granny pant knickers, nice ones that aren't inappropriate for children.

LadyDeadpool · 23/01/2019 16:07

Underwear is not inappropriate unless it comes from a sex shop with no crotch in. FFS unclutch your pearls and grow up.

Original poster
Skiddaddleeeeo · 23/01/2019 16:09

@Perfectly1mperfect
If you find the post "disturbing" I'd suggest you don't read it and get back to your knitting

OP posts:
deydododatdodontdeydo · 23/01/2019 16:09

What world are people living in where some 15 yo girls don't wear thongs?
Weren't you ever 15?
And what world are people living in where their 15yos do their own laundry?

Pinkbells · 23/01/2019 16:12

Buy her a ton from Primark and put yours somewhere she won't easily find them. And have a word with her about putting dirty linen in the basket for the wash!

Oddsocksandmeatballs · 23/01/2019 16:17

It's just underwear. Some people find thongs/g-strings more comfortable although heaven's knows why, I really couldn't get uptight about it when my then 15yr old daughter wore thongs. I am pretty sure said daughter also raided my underwear from time to time, it is quite normal (or at least, that's what friends said when I was moaning about it at the time).

ErickBroch · 23/01/2019 16:18

When I was the same age and until now I have always preferred thong underwear, nobody saw it I just felt it was more comfy under clothes. Not sure why people are flipping out so much.

DaffoDeffo · 23/01/2019 16:19

my daughter was always nicking my knickers

shows she's comfortable with you OP so if there was anything positive to take out of this, I'd take that!

I would agree, buy her a shitload of new knickers and tell her she must put her dirty stuff in the basket - at 15 she is definitely old enough to know better!

SleepingStandingUp · 23/01/2019 16:21

Other than general concerns about thrush etc which isnt age limited, why should it matter what a 15 yo has on under her clothes or are we now siding with the judges that demand victims declare what underwear they were wearing when they were raped as evidence that they mus have wanted sex??

Personally at that age i liked skirts above the knee and I had no ladylike decorum so i'd have just flashed far too much bare flesh so a no go. Beyond public decency what the hell has it got to do with anyone else except OP because they hers?

MissSmiley · 23/01/2019 16:22

Hi OP, in answer to your original post I think she has been too shy/embarrassed to put her dirty pants in the laundry and has sought out extras from your draw. I wouldn't be cross, my own daughter finds putting her pants in a shared basket a bit embarrassing, she has four siblings, and always puts them underneath everything else, and it's her mum who is doing the laundry. Maybe she has thrown away some period stained pants and is afraid to admit she is short. Please be kind these things can be a bit difficult for teenagers

SleepingStandingUp · 23/01/2019 16:23

Other than general concerns about thrush etc which isnt age limited, why should it matter what a 15 yo has on under her clothes or are we now siding with the judges that demand victims declare what underwear they were wearing when they were raped as evidence that they mus have wanted sex??

Personally at that age i liked skirts above the knee and I had no ladylike decorum so i'd have just flashed far too much bare flesh so a no go. Beyond public decency what the hell has it got to do with anyone else except OP because they hers?

Biologifemini · 23/01/2019 16:25

Recurrent cystitis is a problem when you floss your bum with a thong. You get bacteria going from back to front. This causes unnecessary trips to the doctor while the GP pretends it has nothing to do with the thong.
She needs her own wash basket.

NerrSnerr · 23/01/2019 16:30

Recurrent cystitis is a problem when you floss your bum with a thong.

For some people maybe. I only wore thongs for about 15 years and didn't once get cystitis. (I also regularly used bath bombs, cheap bubble bath and I wash my bits!). The only thing that has ever caused me to have cystitis is pregnancy (and the only thing that has caused me to have thrush is IV antibiotics).

We're not all the same.

Biologifemini · 23/01/2019 16:36

Need- you are right.
But plenty of people get recurrent thrush and make their lives worse by wearing nylon/thongs/sleeping with an unhygienic partner. Makes life hell.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/01/2019 16:38

But if the indignation on DSD underwear choice is about health then OP also needs telling off. If it isn't then what exactly do we think will happen to DSD if she wears a thong?

ciderhouserules · 23/01/2019 16:39

Why should it matter what a 15 yo has on under her clothes or are we now siding with the judges that demand victims declare what underwear they were wearing when they were raped as evidence that they mus have wanted sex?? ok, aside from the frothing about thongs Hmm fgs the issue is that the Dsd has taken underwear from OPs room/drawer without asking, wore them and put them away in her own drawer dirty!

I think the idea that she might wear them again is more horrifying than the fact that they are thongs!

Buggerbuggerbuggerargh · 23/01/2019 16:41

And what world are people living in where their 15yos do their own laundry?

We were all brought up to do our own laundry. My 16yo brother has been doing his own since he was 12.

I work for a University and am always shocked at how many students are unable to wash their own clothes. Reading comments like that, I guess I shouldn't be.

Also I'm 28 and never wear thongs, now or then. They give me thrush. Horrid things.