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Found my knickers in stepdaughter's drawer

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Skiddaddleeeeo · 23/01/2019 14:50

So, our stepdaughter rarely puts clothes/undies in the wash. Common teenage habit perhaps. Today I'm at home tidying up and went into her drawers to hunt out dirty clothes. I found three pairs of my own g strings in there, all very visibly worn.
Do I say anything? Tell my partner?
V bizarre I know. I'm also now thinking I probably shouldn't have gone into her drawers in future...!

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MitziK · 23/01/2019 15:34

'Visibly worn' as in ran out of her own and grabbed a pair on a few occasions but was too embarrassed/disorganised to put them in the wash afterwards?

Sounds like a gentle 'I saw you'd run out and wore mine. I'm not keen on that, you need to get into the routine of taking things off and putting them in the linen bin straight away' might be a good way of dealing with it. It gets across the 'don't wear my stuff' and 'put your dirty clothes into the wash' without turning into an argument (hopefully, teenagers can turn everything into a row, even without feeling embarrassed about something).

loobyloo1234 · 23/01/2019 15:35

Put a laundry basket in her room and stop going through her drawers

Juells · 23/01/2019 15:35

...as for going through a SD's drawers, I'd consider that an awful invasion of privacy for my own daughters, never mind for a SD.

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:37

She had a whole range of expensive designer g strings bought for her at Xmas

Who buys those for a 15 year old?

AutumnCrow · 23/01/2019 15:39

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Runbikeswim · 23/01/2019 15:40

Why shouldn't a 15 year old have thong pants (her own!!)? They prevent VPL. And designer could be Calvin Klein or whatever so what.

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:40

...as for going through a SD's drawers, I'd consider that an awful invasion of privacy for my own daughters, never mind for a SD.

The SD went through the OP's drawers to get the g-strings.

Racecardriver · 23/01/2019 15:41

Are they similar to ones she owns? When I lived with my SIL we constantly ended up with each other’s clothing/underwear. Or she may have run out of thongs and just decided to use yours? You really need to sort out her hygiene though. Buy a laundry basket, only wash things in the basket and stick to your guns.

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:42

Why shouldn't a 15 year old have thong pants (her own!!)? They prevent VPL. And designer could be Calvin Klein or whatever so what.

Because thongs and g-strings aren't really appropriate underwear for children, are they.

Would you let a 10 year old wear them? What's the difference?

SleepingStandingUp · 23/01/2019 15:42

Have you checked they're def yours? If they're generic ones could she just have some from her mums or her own that she's bought?

Perhaps a private word about her borrowing your stuff because she's run ut of her own is ok but she needs to ask first? And on X days a week send her up stairs to get dirty washing, offer to show her how to use it herself

Racecardriver · 23/01/2019 15:43

@eliza9917 when I was that age I/a lot of my friends wore designer underwear. It was common to stop of a victoria’s Secret while waiting for a flight or to get nice underwear for Christmas

RCohle · 23/01/2019 15:44

So you don't want her to go through your knicker drawer but it's fine for you to go through hers?

PepsiLola · 23/01/2019 15:44

Maybe you should lock your room and leave it at that?

cordiality · 23/01/2019 15:47

Why are you both wearing g-strings in the first place?! Where did you get them, 1997?

Put some proper underwear on your bums and maybe better habits will come from that.

twoheaped · 23/01/2019 15:47

Eh? G string not appropriate for a 15 year oldShock, why ever not?

Not being snarky, I genuinely don't see a problem.

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:49

@Racecardriver The issue isn't that its designer, it's more that thongs and g-strings aren't appropriate for children imo.

Neither is victoria's secret, come to think of it. Wtf pays that kind of money for children's underwear?

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Fairyflaps · 23/01/2019 15:52

Our DS did this at a similar, maybe slightly older age - DH's pants not mine - or that would be a whole other story. It is because he was going through the stage where his room was a pigsty, not putting his clothes in the wash etc.

When he ran out of clean pants, he then helped himself to DH's, and no he didn't put them in the wash when they had been worn, just went and helped himself to more until DH wondered where all his underwear had gone. A quick inspection of DS's room revealed DH's pants among the heaps of clean and dirty clothes.

DH was a bit creeped out. Nonetheless he had a word, told DS not to help himself to his clothes in future. This was a few years back so can't remember all the details. DS didn't take DH's pants again, though I'm afraid he still didn't get much better at taking care of his laundry, or wandering into our room and helping himself to stuff. Though now he's grown up and moved out, and probably doesn't even remember this.

Sorry, not much help. Just to let you know that you aren't alone. Some teenagers are just bone idle mingers, and they will eventually grow out of it/ leave home.

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HopeMumsnet · 23/01/2019 15:52

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Thanks to all those who reported and didn't post about it, we do appreciate it because it makes things much easier when investigating.

I think people should post about it as well as report to warn others who don't realise and they innocently start sharing any details of things in their own life. Who on earth posts stuff like this if it's real?

Juells · 23/01/2019 15:53

The SD went through the OP's drawers to get the g-strings.

Allegedly

Why are you both wearing g-strings in the first place?! Where did you get them, 1997?

More like 1980 Grin

Eliza9917 · 23/01/2019 15:53

@twoheaped This is the first image that comes up if you type g-string in to google. Do you think this is appropriate children's underwear? Confused

What do children need to be wearing underwear like that for?

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Racecardriver · 23/01/2019 15:54

@eliza9917 well that’s just your opinion isn’t it? There isn’t actually anything wrong with thongs. They’re not as good a pure cotton briefs but all no vpl options are less than brilliant.

Racecardriver · 23/01/2019 15:55

Also why do you keep going on about children? 15 isn’t a child.

Tinty · 23/01/2019 15:55

Why shouldn't a 15 year old have thong pants (her own!!)? They prevent VPL. And designer could be Calvin Klein or whatever so what.

Absolutely true, but I wouldn't be buying my DD thongs to wear at 15, if she wants to wear them that is up to her, but it isn't the kind of thing parents should buy for their DD's or SDD's. If they want to buy them they can use their own money for them.

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