Does your partner text you?

[Littlelolly2727]

Weird one perhaps, but do you hear from your partner throughout the day if you're apart?
Me and my oh both go out to work all day everyday so don't see each other from 8-5 most days. In the early days we would text constantly through the day. Now I don't hear a peep! It's annoying because I always find time to drop him a quick message just to see how he is or tell him I'm thinking of him.
He never texts first and if I don't get in touch we just won't speak until we get home.
It's not a big deal but I do think it shows a lack of effort. Even if he's busy, it takes 10 seconds to type a text!
I've stopped getting in touch now because it annoys me that he doesn't make the effort. If I do text he will reply so it's not like he has no access to his phone.
Do other people's partners do this?

Nope. We work in the same building one floor away from each other and we don't travel in together or see each other at all in the working day.

Do you live together?
From the day we moved in, I do what your OH does. Most days anyway. Sometimes he'll text or call and I'll not notice til the end of the day. In a way it's a compliment - a sign of security? I do text ocassionally though. About tea or if it was a particilarly good shag last night. I think its quite normal to not be in touch if you're going home to someone anyway

Yes, we have a few WhatsApp exchanges through the day, if I am working nights I let him know I have arrived safely or that I am safely home. If I am on days it's often just general chat during breaks, I will also let him know when I am on the way home (my working day is almost twice as long as his so he cooks if I am at work).

Yep.

I try to use my phone as little as possible and he knows this, but he'll usually drop me a note every few hours – something funny he's seen that reminds him of me, or an update of what he's doing.

He doesn't expect a response, and neither do I if I message him, but we do keep each other in the loop.

Does he make you feel loved in other ways?

Yes. And we usually speak too.

Not really, the odd ‘what time you finishing’ or ‘how you feeling’ if one of us has felt a bit ropey before work. We can talk in the evening!

We only text or call if it can't wait until we are both home. We both make a point of telling each other if we are running late. It's not lack of effort from either of us.

We do live together so it's not like we don't talk or see each other at all. I guess I just like to let him know I'm thinking of him. I don't expect constant text conversation throughout the day but one small text can go a long way. I've told him this before and the fact he still can't manage a quick 'hi hope you're having a good day' is quite annoying :/

Before mobiles people would have had to wait to talk to each other! This constant need to be connected is annoying at times.

No. He works in a school though, they aren't allowed to have phones on for safeguarding reasons. It doesn't bother me. I worked in call centre/banking environment previously, we weren't allowed phones in the office area, for DPA reasons.

How long have you been with your OH? It sounds a bit clingy, to have to text each other throughout the day for reassurance, TBH. Presumably if there was a problem, he'd let you know? Maybe he's just busy?

No, why would they - unless there's some information that needs to be shared in a timely manner?

Not always; I try to make the effort but I’m so busy at work and focused i don’t always think. We do speak on the phone on the way home though as once we’re home there’s lots to do

Sometimes, but not for the sake of it, usually only if there's a question or something that can't wait.

He texts me when he leaves for work.

Then calls me about five minutes later and we have a gab whilst he drives to wherever he has to be that day.

We then text all day.

Then he rings me on his way home and we have a gab.

I know. We make everyone sick but he really is my best mate and we are still loved up all these years later.

Not really unless he is running late or he needs to ask me something plant related (we were both head gardeners, now I’m a SAHM).

I only really txt him when he’s at work if it’s urgent (I.e. when I had reduced movement during pregnancy) or if I’m asking him to pick up something from the shop on the way home but this is rare as I usually just go myself.
Occasionally a funny photo of DS.

No he phones me about lunch time and I find that really irritating because I'm usually pretty busy and he wants a chat about fuck all. When we first me we text all the time, now I don't want to hear from him through the day, I live with him. If we text through the day there would be nothing left to say at night 😂. I am not the most sociable person though. Maybe I'm just weird!

We talk throughout the day via LinkedIn. However, we don't live together yet so this may change when we are together all the time!

We're both working from home today and I've had 5 WhatsApp messages from her already.

So yes, we definitely message each other multiple times a day.

OH hates texting, doesn't mind a chat on the phone, but I CAN'T STAND chit chat on the phone I find it annoying and pointless, so I'll send a text saying have a good day etc, sometimes he replies sometimes he doesn't! We used to text ALOT when we first got together but like most aspects of the honeymoon period of a relationship, that first flush doesn't last.. and as long as you are conversing when you are home from work I wouldn't be worried...Do you have children, we struggle to converse before 7:30pm due to DS (3) constant chatting and need for our attention lol.

I've told him this before and the fact he still can't manage a quick 'hi hope you're having a good day' is quite annoying :/

Sorry but this sounds really needy to me. Why do you want to get messages like that every day? Just the same thing everyday?

Live together and 1/2 messages through the day just to say hey but I’d be annoyed if DP was a constant texter. He’s text more than usual today but I’ve been too busy to reply until now. He knows that and is fine. Same other way around.

Yep. He'd already whatsapped me by the time I got to the bus stop this morning. And we exchange messages as and when we can throughout the day. Often just an emoji.

My DH and I are in our 60s and often spend the odd day or two apart. It wouldn't cross his mind to text or call me, and it's a standing joke in the family that any text sent to him rarely gets more than an 'ok' in response. He perfectly tech savvy but just doesn't see the need for it.

@Drogosnextwife then I am also a weirdo. I hate mindless chit chat during the day, there'd be nothing to tell each other that night if we talked all day long. I'm a bit antisocial too haha!

Been together 5 years, living together for 4, he texts me 3 hearts when he gets to work (as will I if I'm up and out before him) and he always checks in during the day. Will actually be worried if we don't hear from each other, but it's not worth a phone call :)