Does your partner text you?

[Littlelolly2727]

Weird one perhaps, but do you hear from your partner throughout the day if you're apart?
Me and my oh both go out to work all day everyday so don't see each other from 8-5 most days. In the early days we would text constantly through the day. Now I don't hear a peep! It's annoying because I always find time to drop him a quick message just to see how he is or tell him I'm thinking of him.
He never texts first and if I don't get in touch we just won't speak until we get home.
It's not a big deal but I do think it shows a lack of effort. Even if he's busy, it takes 10 seconds to type a text!
I've stopped getting in touch now because it annoys me that he doesn't make the effort. If I do text he will reply so it's not like he has no access to his phone.
Do other people's partners do this?

We have a quick chat at lunchtime...what time we’ll be home, if anything interesting has happened etc. That’s every day.
On a night out we’re totally different.,.we could go most of the evening chatting to other people and hardly see each other.

No, we've been together since before texting had been invented and phone calls were landlines - I only call/text if I need something that cannot wait. Work is for work

Ps he doesn't call when he's away on business either but he does upload photos to Facebook messenger to make me jealous of the gorgeous hotel and scenery!

We text throughout the day most days but he works away so is different.

No we don't text at work. I don't much see the point of pretending I'm thinking about him, I'm too busy to be day dreaming. I don't think about him when I'm not with him. I used to. But I'm inclined to fill my head and my time quite effectively and I may at times take it for granted that he's fine, we're fine and don't need reassurance.

@Drogosnextwife ha ha ha! There should be a phone invented for the sole purpose of internet browsing, and possibly WhatsApp in case there is desperate need to speak to DH or immediate family lol 😂

Not really. We live in the same house so there really isn't any need to constantly be in communication with one another.

And I'm damn busy at work, I don't really want to waste time with pointless texts.

I don't think you are needy at all.

Me and DH have been married 39 years and most days speak on the phone or text each other.

I don't work now but when I did he would phone the office (before mobile phones) to check I had got to work ok. I thought that was lovely. He was a paramedic and saw so many horrible accidents he wanted to know I had made it safely.

I tend mainly to phone or text him if I need to speak to him as there are times he can't use his phone due to being tied up with work. He will phone or text me when he can though.

He sometimes goes away with work and will always phone and text me. He phones or texts when he gets there to let me know he got there safely and, if not during the day, always in the evening, often a couple of times.

We are not needy or insecure. I agree with the poster who said about phone calls and texts after a while becoming just about buying milk or collecting children from school.

I think it is nice to keep in touch during the day. Sometimes we want to chat - we always seem to have a lot to talk about! Sometimes it is just to say "I love you".

We don't take it for granted that the other is fine but we don't think you should. People have accidents every day. I am often at home on my own and DH works, most of the time, on his own. Anything could happen

Indeed. If DH kept texting me when I was at work, and/or expecting me to text him, I'd be really irritated!

We will if we need one another for something or if one or the other of us is at home with the dc we might send a cute picture or something.

We're both too busy at work just to generally chat to each other via text all day though.

Also, I'm NOT sat thinking about my partner when I'm at work. I'd have thought that to be quite normal.

The only times we text during the day is if it’s really important. He’s working so I don’t expect him to be on his phone to me, plus it means we have more to chat about in the evenings. Maybe if we had kids I’d expect a “how are they” kinda message but right now, no

I work nights so once he’s home we will text a couple of times.

No.
We’re nit that old but when we met, neither if us had a personal mobile phone. So we just carried in like this.

Tbh, when I’m at work, I concentrate on work. I’m not on my phone checking if someone has sent a text. So even if H sends me a text, it’s likely I won’t see it for hours....

My dh texts all the time. He also calls. It’s as though he’s never left my side

No. We only contact each other at work if the train is late, or similar.

No, unless there is something specific to say. My DH have been married over 30 years & when we met he worked overseas a lot, obviously this was well before texting & emailing was common, I still have the air mail letters he wrote me . He still works away once or twice a week & we can easily go a few days without texting or speaking. Shock - we even holiday separately by choice. If he wanted to text or speak every day I would consider that very ‘needy’ but appreciate that everyone’s relationship is different.

We used to in the oldun days, but now 10 years later it's mainly can you pick ds2 up or does ds1 have his key.
If ds2 has been Ill and one of us is at home with him, the other will normally check in, but we don't need to constantly text/call.
I can't use my phone at work, so everything would have to be squeezed into break times anyway.

@HugoBearsMummy

No that still wouldn't work for me because if dp can't get hold of me by the regular method of phoning he will immediately whatsapp call, as if I am more likely to answer that! Whatsapp messaging only please 😂

My DP works in a prison so isn't allowed his mobile but we have a quick chat during his lunch break every single day. About the DC and our day so far and plans for tea usually. I look forward to our quick lunch chats!

Yes, we WhatsApp but we don't live together and he works irregular hours in a dangerous job, military security

Where are all these jobs where you can sit and text your husband or ring them several times a day?!

@Drogosnextwife nooo please I can not abide WhatsApp calls as it always sounds like the person is in a goldfish bowl I can never hear them properly which just fuels my anger even more ha ha!! Luckily it's only my elderly mum that does this bless her!!

No not really, I I text him he usually doesn't reply. We ring if we need anything or to check in but not every day. If want to get hold of him when we're both at work we email. If either of us go away we message but that's about it. Doesn't bother me though? It's pretty much always been that way and we see each other every day at home so catch up when we get in.

@HugoBearsMummy

Oh yes, and it gets worse, he also video calls me sometimes! I should really just get rid of him, he just does not respect the no calls rule at all 😂

I must admit if I don't receive any messages I worry if I've upset him. We always have something to say to each other, not the same things every day! It is nice to be in touch when we are apart for so many hours. We used to work together & were used to being together all the time. How weird that some people find that needy.