Does your partner text you?

[Littlelolly2727]

Weird one perhaps, but do you hear from your partner throughout the day if you're apart?
Me and my oh both go out to work all day everyday so don't see each other from 8-5 most days. In the early days we would text constantly through the day. Now I don't hear a peep! It's annoying because I always find time to drop him a quick message just to see how he is or tell him I'm thinking of him.
He never texts first and if I don't get in touch we just won't speak until we get home.
It's not a big deal but I do think it shows a lack of effort. Even if he's busy, it takes 10 seconds to type a text!
I've stopped getting in touch now because it annoys me that he doesn't make the effort. If I do text he will reply so it's not like he has no access to his phone.
Do other people's partners do this?

Not really, unless there's a proper reason - but if I check my phone and he has messaged I get an excited tummy flip! That's tragic.

Only when absolutely necessary ie next to never. We don't even contact each other when he's away with work.

Not just to chit chat. We exchange texts when we need to, or sometimes a joke or if something has happened/one of us has had something nice for lunch maybe! But not everyday. I don't pine if he doesn't text me.

Needy... really a text here there.
It depends on your relationship too. My dp doesn't text him because he's insecure or needy I'm at home all day with a lo. Some opinions are so negative.
The hate people give to other women is ridiculous, why can't he simply be that the OP feels like she's like more effect made occasionally.
Why do all the good things only happened at the beginning, when a couple becomes to use to each other the excitement goes and issues occur of feeling bored and mundane

To be honest I was more curious about how other people operate than eager to slag off my oh. I can live without a daily text from him, I don't expect or instruct him to be in contact, and the comment about people either not reading my original post or just choosing to be a bit catty (probably the latter) is bang on.

Why do all the good things only happened at the beginning, when a couple becomes to use to each other the excitement goes and issues occur of feeling bored and mundane

Exactly, like its some sort of badge of honour to get to a point in your relationship where you only talk about who's going to pick up milk and you both leave the bathroom door open to shit in front of each other, as if somehow having a bit of mystery and romance is a bad thing.

How about trying to keep the spark alive by flirting with each other, sending messages saying "I'm thinking about last night ;) " or "Morning beautiful, missing your lovely face this morning" instead of "your turn to pick up milk/children"

...and people wonder why their relationships go sour!

We'll text if we need to but i ring him most lunchtimes anyway (he gets lonely as he works from home!)

Married 20 years and we txt each other through the day sometimes just to say 'love you'

Yes we text throughout the day. I'm at home with the kids and he's at work but we stay in contact.

In response to the bitchy 'needy' remarks, at no point have I ever instructed him to text me

Jesus wept. Giving your opinion is bitch? Yeah ok op.

You, also, have changed your posts to wanting a text everyday to ocxassionally.

Wanting it Occasionally, I am with you. Daily, is needy. Not being bitchy. Giving my opinion....Which is what you asked for, is it not?

I hope all you people who admit to texting your partners through the day realise how needy you are 😂😂😂😂😂

@Boysandbuses where did I say everyday? At no point have I specified when or how often, in fact I've repeatedly said I DONT expect constant communication throughout the day. We're both busy. I'm just saying an occasional text would be nice.

I don't think it's too much to ask that your loved one spares 3 seconds to send "Thinking of you xx"

Good God how would anyone one today have survived in the days when mobiles didn't exist. No one needs to keep in contact throughout the day, for absolutely no reason.

You say twice in your OP that you find it annoying not to receive a text, and that you "always" find time to send a thinking-of-you text. Sorry, but that does come across as needy – or at least that you're not that busy, so you have time to faff around on your phone and get the hump about it.

@Drogosnextwife I don't EVER answer the phone if it's a number I don't know and I only very very occasionally answer someone who's listed in my phone book, most the time I wait for the call to end then I text them and say what's up lol 😂

@burritofan I do find it annoying in the sense that it requires very little effort and would brighten my day.
By 'always' I meant regularly, I'm clearly not permanently glued to my phone sending manic texts about how much I adore him 🙄

I don't look at my phone much when at work as I'm busy and occupied. If I just saw a 'thinking of you' 'hi' message i think I'd find that seriously annoying after a while. I do understand what you're saying but if he's not a prolific texter anyway then he isn't the type to enter into mindless chat. Everyone is different at the beginning of a relationship - it's new and exciting.

*How about trying to keep the spark alive by flirting with each other, sending messages saying "I'm thinking about last night ;) " or "Morning beautiful, missing your lovely face this morning" instead of "your turn to pick up milk/children"

...and people wonder why their relationships go sour!*

Hmm my relationship is fine and we've been together 8 years 2 kids and still happy, just don't feel the need to chat about how good the sex the night before was 😂. I work with kids so I'm generally never thinking about the shagging I've done the previous night.

Generally no. Sometimes dh will message to say when he's leaving work but unless it's something out of the ordinary, we don't speak or message.

@HugoBearsMummy

That's exactly what I do. I might get rid of the phone, that way no one can contact me ever, Bliss!

I text him to say when I'm leaving work so he can warm the bathroom up for me in winter - does that count? 😂

I don't see the point otherwise, we live together and see each other every morning and evening! We'd have nothing to talk about if we text during the day too.

I send my fiance the funny parts from the paper but not necessarily every day. We don't text for no reason though

just think it's nice to check in once a day while we are apart for 9 hours lol

So you didn't say this then op?

Once a day is daily.

How about trying to keep the spark alive by flirting with each other, sending messages saying "I'm thinking about last night ;) " or "Morning beautiful, missing your lovely face this morning" instead of "your turn to pick up milk/children

...and people wonder why their relationships go sour!

Well, we've managed almost 29 years without needing to do this! (Although admittedly for some of that time texting didn't exist, but whatevs ...)

Why do all the good things only happened at the beginning, when a couple becomes to use to each other the excitement goes and issues occur of feeling bored and mundane

Surely it's because at the beginning you don't live together or see each other daily? At the beginning of my relationship we had long text chats every evenings and spoke on the phone at least three times a week - doing that when we live together and see each other everyday would be a bit odd, no?

Personally I prefer the contentment and security of a long-term relationship. I don't need to have someone text me to show me they love me. I know DH loves because he makes me coffee every single morning, because he warms my towels up for me before my shower, and because he lets the dog out so I can stay warm in bed.

That's love to me. Not constant text messages for no reason other than to seemingly prove that you're thinking about/care about someone.