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How would you feel about this? A bit on the long side....

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Yorkiegirl · 03/09/2004 19:22

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ggglimpopo · 16/04/2005 14:45

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bubbly1973 · 16/04/2005 14:45

yorkiegirl, i hope you are right...are there times that he says he is in work, or course for work, and theres a chance he isnt (called in sick?) and since you ring him on his mobile, he could always pretend he is in work

i am only planting thoughts into your head so that you can answering them crossing them off your list to confirm that he isnt having an affair and she is just a flippin bunny boiler who has no respect for you and your husbands marriage

incognito1 · 16/04/2005 14:45

I think you are right to be suspicious Confront him once and for all with her there just tell him how stressed it is making you in the hope he'll see sense Do you have children?How is your relationship apart from this?

cod · 16/04/2005 14:46

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Yorkiegirl · 16/04/2005 14:48

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Yorkiegirl · 16/04/2005 14:48

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bubbly1973 · 16/04/2005 14:49

yg...what incoming calls does he have...does he delete them all or are they there on the phone?

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Yorkiegirl · 16/04/2005 14:49

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bubbly1973 · 16/04/2005 14:50

cod me thinks you and i have a same sort of mind. only you are typing way to faster than me thus making it look like im repeating what you are saying

cod · 16/04/2005 14:50

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incognito1 · 16/04/2005 14:51

Where is he today?Can't you talk to him about it this weekend She is so selfish to try and muscle in on a relationship with young children Why does he find it so hard to tell her to get lost.I assume she is single

munz · 16/04/2005 14:52

cod there's no need to be like that! lol, I can't be arsed today with typing 101 thingys have gone wrong in the house and DH is home on monday so i'm chilling!

anyhow back to it - so she works with ur DH as well? the fact it was a rocky patch shouldn't matter unless he instigated (sp) it.

cod · 16/04/2005 14:53

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Yorkiegirl · 16/04/2005 14:53

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bubbly1973 · 16/04/2005 14:54

yg how far away does she live from you, do you know where she lives?

cod · 16/04/2005 14:54

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Yorkiegirl · 16/04/2005 14:54

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snafu · 16/04/2005 14:54

will you be able to have a look at his phone when he gets back? god, sorry, such a horrible thing to have to do. but agree the timing of the last text is a bit suss - a few days after you asked...hmmmmmm.

incognito1 · 16/04/2005 14:55

If you see her face to face you will probably be able to tell what is going on just by body language etc If he won't go with you go alone otherwise it will drive you mad

bubbly1973 · 16/04/2005 14:56

agree with cod, get some proof if theres any first, in that way he cant worm out of it...if you cant get any proof, then talk to dh and find out how she got that number

i would personally bite my tongue, do some digging, be suspicious and then if no outcome, give my dh the benefit of doubt

munz · 16/04/2005 14:56

cod - normal? I'm assuming u mean me? - i'm not normal I resent that comment!

any how the issue at hand, i'd be weary of checking is phone too much incase he gets sus, and goes all defensive. if ur sure he's not having an affair, and he's not done anything to encourage her in any way then he neds to be a lot firmer with telling her things. I'm confused thou as to why he would talk to her when he's at work if she rings up? is it a regular thing she does that? she seems v dolusional to me if things are as you say.