If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

.........closes eyes clairvoyant style...

....it’s hazy but I’m seeing no socks with loafers........very very tight jeans.........beard..........mass produced tattoos........soy latte.

Amiright??

"If I’m being brutally honest, the sex part is my main driver with a would-be life partner; so as you're not very good at it, we'd better part ways."

Ps I’m imagining this song the more that you post:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=lVmmYMwFj1I

Is he a failed actor, who lives with parents while he waits for his “big break?”

He sounds like a guy I dated. A narcissistic dickhead who tries to mess with people’s heads because he hates himself. (But maybe there are a quite few of them around, judging by the responses on this thread 😂)

Woah, run for your life OP! What a weirdo.

Send back "K, bye" and then block

Haha he's actually quite chav in appearance, probably not what you're imagining at all. Spends lots of time in the gym.

Also so weird that he brought up the sex issue. He wanted to talk quite intensely about sex on our second date; to the point where I felt quite uncomfortable. Really rated himself in bed and it wasn't awful but not amazing either. Maybe that was where I missed the cue to begin the 'meaningful conversation'.

"I think you've taken one tab too many babe? Did you double drop?"

Then block him

Just text back ‘k’ then submit it to @beammeup_softboi on instagram. What a prize wanker. My vag has sealed itself up reading that. Eww.

Btw I actually am very intelligent and reasonably successful and have never have anyone call me dull or shallow. But I genuinely cannot think of a time where he tried to start a philosophical conversation.

Omg tell him to jog on! How the hell did you manage 5 dates with him??

Stop giving him headspace. He's a dick.

O perhaps it’s the builder who did my extension.

He declared himself an amateur philosopher/psychologist and proceeded to psychoanalyse me uninvited.

Cases like these are indeed advanced mansplaining 😂

Run and share your thoughts on Socrates with someone less wanly

Laughable!! He needs to get a life!
He probably likes the sound of his own voice more than you... Run and don't look back!....
But I think you've got the message from all the comments!!

His text is just me me me me me me me. Dont send a reply.

And talking intensely about sex on the second date?! No. Just no. Avoid like the plague.

I've got a nineties dance anthem for him 'Set You Free'!

Please please please reply to him with a link to this thread.

@madameButterface
I absolutely loved your comment.

I'd love him to see this thread and to get the chance to have a deep conversation with him

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"
Eleanor Roosevelt.

Don't consent, OP!

He's sounds like a narcissistic nightmare. Congratulations on your escape

What a dick!

Hard work too. Run! (Towards somebody who doesn't think that sex will "take care of itself", and who isn't going to insult you)

He really fancies himself doesn't he

The best response is no response, so block and ignore. You asked if you'd been dumped and he said yes.

The reply is just an uber-twatty version of it's not you, it's me.

"How fascinating that your deep and philosophical personality is so well hidden under a rather bland and shallow facade. I'm sure not a single person you've met has guessed how deep those still waters run without it being explained by you. I do hope that you meet the right deep-thinking woman for you, and that you manage to make your cock work properly once you've found her."