If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

Yikes! Too intense and weird Move on!

I would text this quote from Jaen Paul Sartre

You and me are real people, operating in a real world. We are not figments of each other’s imagination. I am the architect of my own self, my own character and destiny. It is no use whingeing about what I might have been, I am the things I have done and nothing more. We are all free, completely free. We can each do any damn thing we want. Which is more than most of us dare to imagine. Now do fuck off dear.

I'd send either;

"Wooooah! You've used "to be honest" four times, it's goodbye from me"

Or

"Deep?! Ive seen deeper saucers 😂"

Or

"2/10"

Then block immediately (the last one will irritate him as he will want an explanation)
Does he have erectile dysfunction? Sounds like he's minimising if he does, he needs to stop the ecstasy

Pretentious, pompous arsehole. Nothing less attractive than people who think they're more clever than they are. Run for the hills!

Oh my god, sounds like my ex husband. Run run as fast as you can. He actually sounds controlling. You’ve hardly started out yet it’s all your fault already?!!!
Very intense with iron rod shoved right up his bottie with both buttocks tightly clenched.

Amazing experiences on MDMA? Of what? The race horse piss after, or vibing music a lot more than usual? Seems a bizarre drug to reference "experiences" (like existential stuff) on. Send him off for a Peruvian experience, the sad act.

Nb: I'm not saying taking other drugs is better just that it seems especially pathetic to use whatever he is saying to presumably just stealth boast about drug use so he seems cool. And ironic when he's talking about party drugs.

Mr Mybug

“At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet”. (Plato)

His touch was obviously uninspiring!

Is he Eyal off of Love Island?

You’re well rid IMO

Apart from the self-absorption I'd also be put off by the lukewarm sex talk. One month in is underwear ripping off time surely?

Oh dear. He sounds rather self-involved. I'd reply 'best of luck with finding someone as fascinating as you think you are'

Philosophers don't use the word 'coz'

The only justification I can find for this, is if you have been completely self-absorbed on the dates, or if you're on a completely different wavelength conversation wise.

But even then ...!

Please send hm the Sartre text

Although in reality I'd probably send "WTF are doing sending me that load of old crap? Who do you think you are - Sartre? Fuck off"

No fucker is gonna 'neg' me.

“Sorry, mate, I’m well past my angsty years.”

Hahahahaha. Wanker! Lol. Hahahahaha.

Thank you op, I was having a really shite day. Now I'm grateful for being me. At least I'm not deluded hipster man with his head rammed DEEP up his own arse! Or his wife, if he every manages to sucker some poor woman!

Laugh. Block. Laugh again.

Don't reply! Let him think he's too deep (hahahaha) for you. And happily get on with your life knowing you're not a twat!

Say OK, bye then!

Why is he making the perceived lack of connection all your fault? Takes two to tango.

Please don't be hurt.

His words are designed to mess with your head.

If you walk away, he's the deep guy that you were too shallow for. If you stay, he can really get to work with messing with with.

I wouldn't walk away - I would run.

Geees run run run!

Not seen this before but i knew it must exsist. This is the test to see how interested the OP actually is because he's clearly not sure.

If you look at his message, there are no words in there about her. This suggests it's a common copy pasta he uses when...yeah...he's not sure hes got it on the hook yet.

Which indeed is borne out by the OP saying...yeah, not interested.

Good work, OP!

has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates.

Why are you going out with him? At this stage, you want to be finding interesting things to do together mainly shagging like rabbits

Text back "Et tu, Brute?" and then block.

Please, please send LuckyLou7’s reply😁

I think he's a snobby, prize oik pseudo intellectual, and not worth a moment of your time.
I don't trust anyone who calls themselves a philosopher or deep thinker. Oftentimes they are not.

He is a jackass of the highest order. You're well rid.

For you,

How many times does he want to say 'to be honest...'

To be honest mate, you're a massive douche.

'the sex will take care of itself? Does that mean you never intend on putting the effort in once you're over your nerves?'

Seriously though, he's a bit of a self absorbed cock. Self proclaimed deep thinkers always are.