If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

'I agree I have been unappreciative of your profound thinking and the depths of your character. I also agree the sex is awful but can't see it getting better and it is important to me in a relationship, as are kindness, positivity, generosity of spirit, emotional intelligence and self-awareness and, unfortunately, I find you lacking in these qualities too. You are not for me. Short but not every relationship is significant. Good luck finding someone to plumb your depths in the future. '

I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things

OMG how old is he????
He sounds like every serious, self-absorbed twat I tolerated at uni when I was too young to know better.

Sounds like a prize wanker

Oh, he's a hipster druggy...shock.

He sounds pretty thick, OP. You should have interrogated him with questions about utilitarianism etc and watched him squirm.

Also, he sounds like Elaf from love island.

What a tit.... swerve completely.

“This is the same guy that makes us listen to 90s trance anthems whilst eating dinner, likes to go on about the amazing 'experiences' he's had after taking ecstasy and has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates.”

And yet you went out with him five times and have just sent him a text asking if he wants to continue dating you because he’s gone off you?!

What the hell, OP? Where is your self respect? Why are you dating this loser and worse, you’re actually chasing him after he’s shown he’s lost interest?

You need your twat radar readjusted and your self esteem raised before you pick another twat to date.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things

AKA

I'm a twat.

Tbh he sounds like many, many guys I came across at university in the 90s - completely narcissistic and up themselves because they're into the right kind of music, and are so so so deep and cooool. Most of them smoked too much weed.

They're to be avoided.

'I'm like, totally deep. I'm like, into real deep stuff like...deep things'

at "You ok hun?"

The man is trash. Bullet dodged!

Im exaggerating but that sort of intensity after 5 dates is borderline pathological. What's wrong with "no spark" as a reason. What does he want you to respond with? Submit your 3000 word essay on Hegel?

You've no ''depth'' but he'd be happy with the sex with somebody he feels has no depth. He's so deeeep. Hmm.

Woah! He sounds way too much! Lucky escape x

I'd just text 'OK huni 🤣🤣🤣.' if you can find a way to dot the I with a heart, even better. What a cockend.

He sounds like the many guys I met travelling. They are so so deep man 🙄🙄

In reality they are twats and should be avoided

Oh, he uses MDMA (ecstasy). That explains a lot. Side effect from even moderate use can last a week and include irritability, impulsiveness and reduced libido.

Unless you want to spend the rest of your relationship watching telly, drinking and being mansplained to he's done you a good turn.

I think there actually was a spark but I wasn't taking it too seriously as you know, we'd only had 5 dates. The spark is probably out now though.

After a month? I dated someone like that. You had a lucky escape. Move on.

Run

lol at ''you ok hun?'' That's hilarious given how seriously he takes himself.

Ok send lulu’s message it’s most excellent

I'd reply, "I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I find you a bit of a twat."

at these responses! My immediate thought was Eyal from Love Island too - who even massively irritated my young teen daughter with his profound 'deeepnesss'

You know when people say "Oh, I'm mad me, totally cray-zeeeee" - and they never are at all?

Seems to work for intellectuals too.

What a total fud

I would be tempted to type something along the lines of ‘you’re right, I’m quite shallow really and probably suited to someone a bit less sensitive. I wish you well’

What a tit he sounds.

Is his name Eyal?