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Great first date but I've not heard from him since

153 replies

lostindreams · 09/01/2019 21:29

Met up on Saturday. Thought it would just be a quick coffee in the afternoon but we stayed out for 7 hours and had dinner. He had vague plans with his friends that evening but stayed out with me instead. No kiss at the end of the night but I did send him a message after saying I had a great time and we should do it again soon. He replied straightaway agreeing but now nothing! There was definitely chemistry.

Why stay out so long with someone if you're not that bothered?! Some of my friends think I should just text him but I feel like I've made it obvious I'm keen already.

OP posts:
Felicia3 · 13/01/2019 15:10

Maybe I'm just different. I tackle life head on and don't live with any "what if"s. Text him, be upfront in your question. Either way, you'll then know where you stand. Easy.

pineapplebryanbrown · 13/01/2019 15:21

FGS he texted Friday for a potential morning date on Sunday. He's hard work, go if you can be bothered.

springydaff · 13/01/2019 15:26

Fuck that. He's squeezing you into a morning date? He can fuck off.

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 13/01/2019 15:33

Fuck that. He's squeezing you into a morning date? He can fuck off

This with bells on! I'm betting he's got lots of irons lined up. Yeah, nope.

pineapplebryanbrown · 13/01/2019 15:51

He's acting like he's the King of Siam. Next.

Ruddygreattiger2016 · 13/01/2019 15:56

Hardly beating at your door is he. Possibly in the morning? Sounds like he expects you to drop everything when he can be bothered. Please block and move on op, this is so half arsed it's pitiful.

moredoll · 13/01/2019 16:00

Who goes on a date in the morning?

Someone who's seeing someone else?

IamIwas · 13/01/2019 16:02

What next Sunday? Over a week away for potentially a morning?

katekat383 · 13/01/2019 16:09

You liked him, OP. Meet him when he suggests. Who cares whether it’s morning, noon or night if you see him again.

AFistfulofDolores1 · 13/01/2019 16:27

Don't go. As a seasoned OLD veteran, your self-esteem is worth far more than a man who does this.

Teaandtoastie · 13/01/2019 16:33

The thing is at this stage you just don’t know. He could be dating multiple people (but by the sounds of it so are you!) He could just have something else on in the afternoon and be trying to squeeze you in because he really likes you. He could be not that interested or he could just not be much of a texter.

Bottom line is if you like him it might be worth one more date. If you’re not that fussed then leave it.

Honeyroar · 13/01/2019 16:36

For me, it is swaying towards a no. He took forever to contact you, it's been difficult texting him (if I understood it correctly?) and your meet up for Sunday has to now be in the morning because he has (more important) plans later. After one date it's already very in special.

Either go for a quick coffee and make a final decision or bin and move on now.

BaeBae · 13/01/2019 16:38

Reply saying you’d prefer an evening date... start as you mean to go on.

Honeyroar · 13/01/2019 16:39

And as AFistful says, your self esteem is more important. Will it make you feel down if he then doesn't contact you for a week, or will you be ok and happy enough to say that's that and move forward positively?

bigchris · 13/01/2019 16:56

He's blown you out for an afternoon plan , that's sucks

moredoll · 13/01/2019 17:06

Kids?

PicassoWouldBeProud · 13/01/2019 17:12

Yeah I wouldn't meet someone for a morning date. If he can't find a free evening that's a concern I'd just let it go.

PouchofDouglas · 13/01/2019 17:15

agree. He needs to make an effort

empa · 13/01/2019 17:16

Perhaps he thought it would be nice to attend church together.

Hiphopopotamous · 13/01/2019 17:17

I quite like brunch 😬 I'd go for it. Not as if you have other plans on a Sunday morning?

BlancheM · 13/01/2019 18:15

You could look at it both ways but you might as well give it a go. Morning suits me better than evening, nothing worse than waiting all day to see someone, dressing up, looking forward to it ect if you think it's a non-starter anyway. Gets it out the way and includes coffee 👍

Wrapandroll · 13/01/2019 18:58

Yep, time to move on.

expatinspain · 13/01/2019 19:12

Maybe he's suggesting a morning date as you're not drinking at the moment? If he cancels or the date doesn't go well, then sack him off. Maybe he's just being really casual at the moment. Not everyone falls head over heels to start with. At the moment he's met you once and you aren't a priority, which is normal. He might be super busy. I was the same when I did OLD and it didn't mean I didn't like the person. It would have been a bit different if you'd kissed, but at the moment you are just two people who met each other once and had a nice time. See where it goes and don't read into things at this stage.

Notcoolmum · 13/01/2019 19:29

ID say you are busy Sunday morning and see what he comes back with. Was it today or next Sunday? IF today then it sounds like he was keen to see you and fit you into a busy weekend. If it was next Sunday it’s a bit poor.

NOTthepinkranger · 13/01/2019 19:35

Op I’m sorry but it sounds like he’s benching you, you deserve better.

Bin him

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