Moffa - mine hates constant reminders (one of the few times I've had straight apology off him was after he blew up after I checked a time with him once too often). But he does need reassurance from me, even though he would deny it. It's as though I'm his comfort blanket. Whenever we go to parties together he might go and socialise to begin with, but invariably will end up by my side like a lost puppy, regardless of who we are with.
I almost feel guilty for saying that things this end are going really well. Then again, this comes after 4 or 5 years of things being ok to utterly shite, so it's sort of deserved. The problem is, I can't relax and enjoy it, as I'm scared things will go downhill again soon, but c'est la vie. He has said some really, really nice things lately, though. Things which have almost turned what I think he thinks upside down. Like the lost-puppy act, though, I suspect that, were I to repeat them to him in the cold light of day (and when he's sober) he'd deny saying any of it. Not that I don't think that at some level he doesn't mean it, but the thought that I know that much about his thoughts would freak him out. It's too close to things he doesn't want to think about, like the relationship between the pair of us.