I would have thought that if he was abusive, he would have made digs at me about my situation?
No. He really wouldn't. Very few abusive men would be stupid enough to already be making nasty comments this early.
Ideas like this are why you're getting so many recommendations to go on the Freedom Programme.
Abuse is about power and control.
It's not about nastiness or violence, although it obviously can and often does include those as a means to exert control over someone. It's all about power and control.
An abusive man will use a range of tactics to gradually take more and more control of your life and your decisions. In many cases these will be subtle and won't (initially, at least) be framed as put downs and digs.
An example would be isolating you from friends, family, and support networks. Some abusers do this by making it physically difficult for you to leave the house and see them, some do it by flying into a rage every time you try to spend time with somebody other than them, some do it by "coincidentally" planning a surprise romantic encounter every single time you have plans with friends, some do it by telling you your friend hit on them or that your friend is using you, and some do it by uprooting you and relocating you somewhere new. Very, very, very few of them do it by saying "I don't want you seeing your friends anymore."
Early warning signs of an abuser aren't him being nasty to you. They're him being too good to be true and rushing the relationship (and talking about relocating after 8 months is rushing things) so you don't have time to assess properly; they're him being full on from day one about how much he loves you; they're him gradually making you dependent on him; they're a multitude of subtle little ways to gradually take control of your choices ("are you sure you want to wear that outfit? Other men might look at you" or "I worry about you going out on your own, what if something happened?").
It's subtle and gradual.
He might not be saying "you have to move in with me or it's over" but you've only been together 8 months and he's telling you a timescale for when he wants you living with him. It might not be the overt pressure you were used to by the end of your previous relationship, but it is pressure.
Warning signs also include having a tale of woe about his "crazy" ex or her family, who made his life a nightmare. It's so incredibly common. Your ex is probably already telling people the same about you.
Rushing the speed of a relationship is one of the biggest red flags for abuse. Making nasty little digs isn't - as others have said, the outright nastiness tends (with most abusers) to come later. Otherwise you'd have run a mile, right? And if you'd run away he wouldn't be able to feel powerful over you - that's what abusers get off on, feeling powerful by having control of you. They won't get that from a few nasty words that make you run off.
In the early days they want to charm you, so that once they become more obviously abusive you'll look back on those halcyon early days and think "this must be me, if I change myself to do what he wants and stop annoying him/making him jealous/etc we can go back to how things were in the beginning". Except that was an act and you'll never get that version of him back no matter how obedient you become.
I am not saying this man is abusive, because I don't have enough information to be certain, but there are significant warning signs, and the method you're using to reassure yourself that he is not abusive is, I'm afraid, faulty. (Although understandable.)
The examples you've given do not show he is not abusive. They'd be perfectly in keeping with an abuser at the beginning.
If you can't get to a group for a while, there is an online version of the Freedom Programme you could do first, albeit there is a fee of £10 and you won't have the benefit of hearing the discussions and being able to ask questions. But it would be a helpful interim measure.