Dating Thread 144: Jingle Bells, Dating Tales, Single All The Way

[DaffoDeffo]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

[richdeniro]

Just wanted to come on here and say a thank you to all your advice and support this year, honestly it does mean a lot.

Great to read about so many success stories and to those of you still going through a hard time, don't worry it is all just temporary. You all deserve the best so don't settle for anything less than that.

Merry Christmas to you all.

[midcenturylegs]

Haven't read through all the latest messages but wanted to apologise if my last message came across as being smug. Sorry if it did.
@lannister - hope things ok with you and all those who might be on their Tod tomorrow
@richdeniro lovely message

[richdeniro]

@midcenturylegs It wasn't smug at all, wow a Christmas Eve date sounds lovely, I hope you have an amazing time. Don't feel pressured tonight, if you're not ready just tell him that and he'll understand. I've had a few dates where I've 'slept' with someone but not done anything if that makes sense, sometimes just falling asleep cuddling is the best.

[Lovemusic33]

It’s that time of year when all the people that ghoasted you or screwed you over decide to send a “Merry Christmas” text 😁, so I got a text from Mr Kayak who I was seeing and who vanished into thin air 4 months ago, he wished me a marry Christmas and asked why I stopped messaging him , he was the one who vanished.

I hope you all have a lovely Christmas and that the new year brings us some good luck on the dating front. I have a good feeling that next year will be the year 😁

[subspace]

@coldlocation yes you can have a tiny big hooray! Hooray! Xxx

@lovemusic I remember mr kayak. How weird. Are you going to reply?!

I'm thrown by having received a reply from Mr Sporadic, just over 24 hours after I text him a desperate last ditch pretend cool message to see if I was really being sacked off Have spent the day silently seething at him for ghosting me, he's written a perfectly nice and newsy text about being busy and talks all the things he's been up to, which he had actually told me all about on our last date. I've gone from "Right! Even if he replies now he's sacked! I deserve somebody who actually replies the same day to messages dammit!" To "oh... yeah it IS Christmas and his first one sharing custody of the kids and he did tell me he was working/at a party etc those days now I come to think about it" .... shit, somebody tell me what do I do now?! if I reply soon and don't get a reply I'll feel even more annoyed, but it's a bit mean not to wish him happy Christmas today or tomorrow!? stupid overthinking subspace

[Koko12]

subspace is just message ‘happy Christmas x’ and leave it at that - try not to overthink it.
rich lovely message
mid good luck with Xmas eve date - just go with the flow.
As for me had 3rd date in 3 days today and have been invited to his family’s on Boxing Day for a few hours.
Think this could be the real thing but scared to get my hopes up and don’t want to get my heart broken!

[Lovemusic33]

subspace I don’t think I’m going to reply, he was the guy who broke my bed and then disappeared. I think I had a easy escape, he wasn’t that great and had baggage.

I’m over invested in Mr Hippe, I’m trying hard to rain it in, I know I’m probably going to get hurt. I haven’t even met him yet. I don’t have any other irons to keep me busy.

[stubbornstains]

wotcher I've PMed you.

[Leatherandsilk]

I think Mr SY has gone ghost, read a message this morning and no reply, my friend made me send a question about if this was just all talk or we were going to meet and I think it looked a bit needy, which it wasn’t I just wanted to be clear. Ah well I’m a bit disappointed but had a lovely Christmas Eve with me kids so luckily not the invested.

Onwards and upwards! Merry Christmas all.

[VixenSixen]

@scotgal2017 - I'm so pleased you have ordered the books for your escape to the cabin... New year new mindset!

I had so many Ah-Ha! Moments when reading them..... X

[NikiFree]

Hello

I matched with a guy on tinder a couple of weeks ago. Very promising. Message every day and have huge long conversations. We have lots in common.

He is away for Xmas at the moment at his folks quite some distance away.

Have messaged every day. He asked for my number and deletedhis tinder account after we started talking.

Now a bit he hasn't messaged today.

Need a healthy dose of reality check from you entirely level headed and helpful posters. This could go nowhere. But I'm lonely.

[coolcahuna]

lovemusic yes all the randoms are coming out . I've just had 2 messages, one from the loopy guy sending me random messages and one from a guy who I think we swopped numbers but I never replied as he said he wanted to flirt outrageously with me and that's not my bag at all before a first date.
Not sure I can be arsed to reply to either.

[WotcherHarry]

Stubborn - PMd you back but I have no idea if it sent!

[stubbornstains]

Yes, I just got it wotcher, and replied- wow, I can't thank you enough, you've just helped me dodge a massive bullet there. Don't fuck with a MNer if you're at all easily identifiable, hey xx

[Koko12]

lovemusic forgot about the broken bed debacle and can’t believe it was 4 months ago already!Happy Christmas to all and hope you all have a lovely day tomorrow.x

[WotcherHarry]

Sorry Stubborn - wasn’t showing on my phone! I feel like I’ve done my festive duty! :)

Merry Christmas to you all!

[stubbornstains]

Yeah, if he texts me tomorrow, he'll get a festive heave- ho!

(I'll just say I "heard it on the grapevine"- entirely believable in these parts )

[stubbornstains]

shit yes, wotcher's just given me the best Christmas present a girl could have - a timely warning .

[WotcherHarry]

Haha! @shitwithsugaron could say the same for you with that username

Some of his more unsavoury behaviours have given me some good dating anecdotes though, so it wasn’t a complete waste of time

[CharleeFarley]

I've had a few dates with a new guy over the past few months, although it's been a while in between them, because I was 34 weeks pregnant when we met! (I'm polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous with my long term partner, who's the baby's father). Have seen Mr. Canada four times now, and have another date booked for between Christmas and New Year...and since reading this thread, I'm now wondering if he'll be expecting to exchange gifts - eek! I'd have no clue what to get him, but what if he turns up with a present for me? Ugh, awkward!

[NorthernFlowerHouse]

Merry Christmas one and all!!

So, early this year I had a date with a guy who ticked all of my boxes, I got on brilliantly with and who promptly disappeared on me after a couple.of weeks despite having a second date partly arranged. I haven't forgotten him even though I have dated loads. I have just had a 'happy Christmas x' text. Just that. Is it likely he's sent it to everyone in his contacts list? I can feel my hopes rising. Should i text back? Help!