I haven’t posted on these threads for a while, though I’ve been lurking!
Went on a first date recently with a very intelligent, well read, funny guy. I’ll call him Mr Gent. We have planned in a date to see each other early in the new year as I went on holiday with the kids a few days after our date and he went back home for Christmas the day that we got back. He’s told me some fairly personal things in the interest of candour, which were appropriate for him to tell me and aren’t deal breakers at all. We’ve kept in touch, just a brief few texts each day, so I’ll see how about that goes...
I also went on a bit of a spontaneous first date yesterday. We’d only been chatting since the day before, normally I’d chat for a couple of days to get a bit of a feel for someone, not too long though! He seemed lovely - funny, kind etc. We spent several hours just chatting over coffee. However, he sort of delved into some personal stuff quickly, which was not really appropriate unlike Mr Gent, and also told me that he has been diagnosed with BPD in the last few years. He’s been very open and candid which I appreciate, but in all honesty I just don’t think that it’s a goer. He seems like a lovely bloke and I’m more than happy to potentially be friends with him, but a relationship isn’t where I’m pitching things.