Dating Thread 144: Jingle Bells, Dating Tales, Single All The Way

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@crappyday2018 it's called Get The Guy, it was recommended by someone on here. They also recommended another one "Why Men Love Bitches" which i have bought but not read yet.

I'm now in the mindset that I was with one (shitty) man for 20 years so why shouldn't I get out there and let loose a little. i spent all of my adult life married and bringing up kids, it's time for a little bit of fun and adventure!

Slight change of plan I think for me, I'm still matched on an app with the (apparently keen) one I've seen a few times. However on the 'feed' bit I see that he has updated /added extra photos to his profile 2 days ago so I think I will file him under 'never mind' and move on.

Good on you for moving on warls,it's happened to me a few times and hurts like hell if you've had a few good dates

@scotgal2017 thanks, I might check that out. I've watched a few of his videos on Youtube today.

@user1466783975 luckily I'm not invested at this point, so it's fine but I am a little irritated I just thought how rude. Thick skin still in place so marching on

Does anyone else get offended by men with profiles that say 'no drama queens' or 'no drama please'? It seriously boils my pi**.

Update on my 2 dates this evening. First, Mr Chatty for coffee, really enjoyed his company and was attracted to him but although he was friendly I didn't get the feeling he felt the same. He sent a nice message afterwards saying it was lovely to meet me but no mention of meeting up again. Will see if the messages continue tomorrow!
Then on to dinner with Mr Sales. I feel like I've been through a whole relationship with him in 2 dates and, horrible to say, was feeling a bit bored by the end. He is a nice chap but lots of talk about his DIY projects and I felt a bit like I was out with my Dad! As we said goodbye I was thinking please don't make a move...I'm guessing this is not a good sign.
Feel a bit deflated now...

Agreed crappy! I'm not a drama queen but that would put me off.

Good evening, and a very Happy New Year to all my fellow daters!

I've just started chatting to a guy in the past day or so. Old school gentleman type, but just seems a bit intense and over keen. Can I ask what you make of this message? It had been preceded by 2 or 3 others that I had been too busy to reply to It just seems a bit odd to me, but not sure if I'm being cynical or unkind (which in fairness isn't how I usually am):

^Dieu ! I do hope I am not being terribly forward and please forgive me if I am but do you use WhatsApp ? It’s just that I am having problems on here connecting and sending messages (it may be an Offshore problem).
You can trust me 100% and you can also block me at any time should you wish.
My mobile is ......., if you feel comfortable with that.
Again, You can totally and absolutely trust me !

XX.^

Evening all just catching up on your going ons @NanBoleyn glad at least one of your dates went well Dutch the boring diy guy.

@WarIsPeace I wouldn't give up on the guy just yet some guys take longer to figure out how they feel but don't chase him.

@crappyday2018 Agreed these guys have as much drama as us!

Well I've been messaging with my guys tonight mainly Mr Grey No2 who is coming over tomorrow was night but he's asked to come over at lunchtime now so we will go out then get take away later. He says I've awakened something in him so we will see 🤣🤣🤣

@NanBoleyn firstly congrats on 2 dates in 1 day!! Sounds like Mr Sales is definitely not for you but wait and see if Mr Chatty gets back in touch. You never know!

An italics fail there, for his message! Anyway, would appreciate what you make of it. To raise the blocking thing seems a bit strange to me!

@Dieu hi welcome I'm new too!!

Most guys want to move to WhatsApp it is much easier unless you're talking to multiple guys like me then it becomes a pain. It's up to you if you want to move to WhatsApp guys generally won't phone you they will just message and you can block them anytime you want to.

It sounds like you're not comfortable so I'd just say no - I usually do t move to WhatsApp unless I'm meeting them.

One word of caution I've chatted to guys offshore and sometimes they want to do sexy chat as they are bored so be prepared not saying they are all like that but some are.

@Focus2019 I'm just surprised because I'm fairly neutral about him but he seemed super keen. Verging on soppy. And there's a compatibility issue anyway tbh, it was never going to be a Big Deal.

I just don't like surprises and I was surprised I guess.

Thanks crappy and focus. 2 dates in one evening is certainly efficient but not sure I'd do it again!! Looking forward to hearing the update on Mr Grey no. 2...

@Dieu I think the only thing I find a bit weird is the 'you can absolutely trust me' part. What does that even mean? Trust him about what?

@Focus2019 I'm loving your updates. Way more exciting that mine. I hope tomorrow goes well with Mr Grey no2. I can't even find a Mr Grey no1!!

I was thinking the same thing crappy!!

Thanks. I just get an odd vibe off the guy, and my gut is generally always spot on, in these situations.
So in (yet) another message, he said something like 'oh, I don't know how you do it, being a single mum, holding down a responsible job, having the pets, etc). I'm going to have some extra time off soon, so you could put me down for babysitting and pet minding duties!'

Mate, I've been on the dating scene for 2 years and haven't yet once introduced my kids to a bloke, so I'm not sure why I'd start with you!

dieu have you met this guy before?that last message is just creepy-I wouldn’t give him my number and would unmatch him

@dieu STBXH works offshore and has done for many years. All I would say is avoid the offshore pool if you can.....

@Dieu sounds a tad odd. A while back, someone wrote similar to me, along the lines of 'I just want to look after you ' and 'can I babysit for you '. We hadn't even swapped numbers. Weird.

dieu those messages have red flags posted all over them - a catfish/scamster I reckon

@nanboleyn - sorry that the second didn’t feel right! Hopefully the first guy that you liked is just a bit coy.

I have found these threads so helpful over the months!

Had my date last night with Mr Dog. When I got there I knew that I wasn’t physically attracted to him but I thought that I’d see how the date went and see if it developed as that’s happened before. He seemed nice, and he was funny in person, but a few things made me realise that it wasn’t going to move forward. He went for a kiss at the end and I physically moved my head pretty far and kissed his cheek! Then he messaged me saying that he’d had an amazing time and wanted to see me again. My heart sank a bit as I really don’t like hurting people’s feelings. I messaged him back saying that it had been good to meet him and that I’d message today. I am going to tell him today that he seems lovely and that I think that we’d make good friends but that’d be the extent of it.

Date tonight with Mr Rail (pretty sure that’s what I called him?!) which I’m looking forward to...

Messaged Mr Dog. I’m meant to have a date on Monday as well with Mr Bike but I’m fairly sure that I’m going to cancel it.