Dating Thread 144: Jingle Bells, Dating Tales, Single All The Way

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@crappyday2018 I've already had that conversation with him a couple of days ago.
If he wants a new relationship he has to realise that things will be different, it's inevitable.
I don't think he has much of a filter tbh...

Ah. Perhaps he just needs to learn to be stimulated in a different way if he still thinks of it needing to be long and coke fuelled.

IndieTara while his honesty and reflectiveness are very refreshing I think his message puts YOU in the position of sorting out his libido problems ie it's all about him. He sounds damaged and I would be wishing him well and bye bye right now.

@Notcoolmum I'm not sure I'm willing to be teaching a 53 yr old man that tbh

@DogDayMorning yes I know what you mean. He has to take responsibility if he wants me.

I am glad he's thought about it tho

Fair enough. Thank you, next!

@IndieTara oh that would immediately turn me off 🤢 but I guess it's up to you where you go from here. He sounds very self absorbed when it comes to sex though, has he not considered how you would like to do things?
I think I'd have got bored of him by now

@wishywashy6 it hasn't turned me off exactly, I'm up for trying new things but agree completely about the self absorption.
It sounds like a lot of work so early on

@crappyday2018 there's nothing wrong with a fit distraction

Oh fucking hell, pof is recommending ex as my number one match. How do you hide someone? :(

coolcahuna sounds promising
minnie sorry to hear about your news
ohio welcome

@OhioOhioOhio I seem calm now but believe me I've not been calm.

The potential long term mcdreamy is really new only met him twice and as yet no further date arranged my strategy is to sit back and let him pursue me.

With Mr Grey 2 it was literally love or lust at first sight lol we met and ended up in bed on the first date 🙈🙈🙈 the sex is amazing!!! We have such a strong connection but he's in middle of divorce they still share the house part of the week so I'm reluctant to go all in. I'm seeing him on Saturday and will just see how it goes. I'm ignoring the red flags with him even if it's just sex I'm happy with that for now if things proceed with McDreamy I will stop seeing him.

Usually what happens is I see someone then I find myself having to write a long paragraph to find out what's happening now if I find myself needing to do that I bow out.

I have been on 43 first dates that's sounds mental when I say it out loud!!!

indietara, is he hot enough for how annoying he's being?

Wow focus you have been busy!!
6 first dates, 3 second, 2 third... and one has made it to 6! 😂😂

Koko12

Thank you. I think im going to stick around. But for inspiration. I really need to lose weight and get my head together before I put myself out there.

Focus

You seem to cope really well.
How do you manage to manage the roller coaster or it all? Last time I was dating I wanted marriage. Now I definitely don't want marriage. More company and fun. I'm worried im still too broken from my bastard stbxh to warrant putting myself back out there and putting myself through it. Again. I thought this dating stress was part of my past.

@coolcahuna I'm not sure, and even if he is on it's own it's not enough. ( I do find him attractive, I wouldnt have gone out with him if I didn't )
It will be interesting to see what he says when we talk later though.

And does anyone know anything about the parship dating website?

@OhioOhioOhio I've never heard of it

@IndieTara I'm up for trying most things sexually with a partner I trust, but coke fuelled binges are just a massive massive turn off for me. Seen enough people over the years coked off their face and it's just so unattractive to me, I find it really grim. Each to their own though if you're prepared to give him a chance, it will be interesting to see how your talk goes with him later

If someone is off their face on coke is that the same as being drunk? Would you be able to tell the difference?

I don't know @OhioOhioOhio but neither sounds much fun to me

@wishywashy6 I don't think he was suggesting a coke fuelled binge I took it as somthng he feels he needs to make it last

@IndieTara I think your guy is saying he realises he needs to do things different I think this is positive however you need to be open to the reality he may struggle sexually. I've found a lot of guys I've slept with have issues  of some description either getting or keeping or basically just shit 🤣🤣🤣 I'm not here to retrain happy to give hints though 😜😜😜

@OhioOhioOhio I'm now of the apps as they took up to much time. I'm just sitting back for now but I'm sure I'll be on here up to high do soon 🤣🤣🤣

@OhioOhioOhio yes definitely there's a difference. People on coke appear 'wired', agitated, sometimes aggressive, fidgety, and gurn a lot. Think it's kind of the opposite of drunk!
@IndieTara sorry, I read it as though he wanted to take the coke to have sex with you 😳