Dating Thread 143 Can Anybody Find Meeeee Somebody to Love!

[DaffoDeffo]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

That'sthe thing catch I don't want to push him into a rash decision when he's not thinking straight. On paper he is my perfect match and obviously how he's feeling is out of his control. Its things like when he's so distant but constantly online, not engaging in conversation with me...

Shit giving space is so hard. Thanks for replying with experience, feel a little better.

@Ohjellybelly

Is there a reason you want only dating sites aimed at women?
All of the sites allow you to state preference and I'm wondering if they might have a better range of women rather than just women who are looking for a someone to join a threesome?

Could you give one a go and just see how it goes?

Another amazing date with MrMechanic. That was date 4 and can officially say I may be smitten!!

Have arranged for the next date to be a sleepover, and had a response of
"I'd love that, but only if you're ready! I don't want you to rush into anything"

Think this one may be a keeper, although from previous history I'm trying to find red flags and I can't 😳😳

Just back from my 2nd date with MrPara. He's a bit qwerky and a bit posh for me but we got on great. Whether this has legs, time will tell. Seeing him again on Weds and we'll prob DTD as there was quite a bit of sexual chemistry going on. He's just not my usual type but as my usual type hasn't worked then maybe this will?

@sortingitout I am using both tinder and Bumble also but ladies are few and far between. Though saying that, my first iron, Ms S was a tinder lass.
I now also have a set date with iron no. 2 Ms Wonderland for next Friday. We matched, chatted and arranged all very quickly. I'm very much looking forward to it.

@shitwithsugaron oh gosh sounds like an awful date. Wishing you better luck next time.
Keeping up with all the updates. Sounds like most of you are having fun and making progress. Well done

shitwithsugar - how tall was he in the end, not that it matters now!

bloody hell,i need a chocolate orange :(

Date from last night txt to say would come over today and walk my dog with me. Now,i know I looked good last night. Make up,skirt,black boots,hair straightened.
Today,jeans,little make up and doing housework. The normal me.Thought I looked reasonable.
We did the hand hold thing,had a laugh and then he went.
Just got the txt 'Sorry but I won't be seeing you again,i didn't 'feel' it like I did last night. Good luck.
I only knew him for a day so luckily didn't invest but feel a bit crushed!

rich, any chance I could see your profile as well (for tips!)?

Just catching up (my dating is going nowhere!). But wanted to say user - a lucky escape but as someone else said to me earlier his week - that still must have stung today. So, hugs x

Thanks mid. I'm just baffled.
I feel I just want to delete my pof account. But then he will see me gone in the messages and I don't want him thinking it got to me. I just messaged a brief ok that's cool and good luck x

Anyway,watched Elf for the first time and feel much better.
What a journey we are all on x

@Ohjellybelly

Good luck on Friday - I think matching, chatting and meeting should be done within a few weeks so you don't get overinvested if there is no spark in real life.

Evening folks, haven't been on for over a week as have been very busy with work (interview and training for promotion yay!!). I also didn't want to bore you all with Mr Italy lol.

We are still seeing each other but every time it is at his flat. We DTD but we also sit and chat/laugh for hours. I have mixed feelings still as he is chatty etc in person but is abominable on text, plus I'd like to maybe go out in public!! I'm trying to just take it as it comes and see if it develops.....it will be 3 weeks this week since we met so I'm not sure at what stage we should be and whether since we have DTD etc whether I should be asking the "what are we" question? Like I said in earlier posts, he is the one who said he is looking for a relationship and having read what moves he should be making to show he wants a relationship, well, there doesn't seem to be that much progression on that front. I deleted all my OLD profiles as have had enough and if nothing comes to fruition with Mr Italy i'll be taking a break from OLD until I feel mentally ready to handle it again.

@scotgal2017 im in a similar situation as we never go out! Just found to each others houses, chat, eat and have sex!

The guy I'm seeing isn't wanting a relationship he says he's not ready! So it's casual however he messages me everyday, tells me he misses me and is very cuddly donuts not just sex!!

I know I'm kidding myself but I do really like him! Hoping he'll want to go out when we next see eachother. However after a long day at work, midweek and it being so cold I must admit I like staying in!

Gosh lots to catch up on. Lots of dating busyness over the weekend.

I posted on here on tues in a complete flap about Mr Phd worried I'd scared him off after asking him for a kiss at the end of our second date on Monday.

We met for a coffee on Thurs. It was lovely to see him but all a bit awkward and we ended it with a couple of quite awkward hugs and plans for date on Mon.

Some messaging after, him saying sorry if I'd felt hugging in public close to my work was awkward and how he'd been super nervous about a presentation at work that avo....me saying similar as I'd had a huge deadline that avo. We had a few Whatsapp convos thurs pm and fri then he suddenly went silent on whatsapp. I decided he was def flakey and headed out to my work xmas do.

While I was out he started messaging via the dating app we met on and explained he'd killed his phone and couldn't access Whatsapp we ended up in a convo along the lines of 'I really like you and fancy the pants off you but haven't got a clue if you like me' ....'erm ditto' . Having cleared that up we basically ran to each other and spent the night at mine. We've been in comms ever since and are meeting for our date tomorrow as planned. Fingers crossed....

So all this dating talk has made me re-download Tinder. Gave up okcupid after just 2 days. Surprised how quick I've 'bagged' a date- going to meet MrTinder tomorrow evening. Lets hope there are no cancellations.

thelaststraw and tooold that all sounds great
shit sorry your date was crap
user definitely him not you-the right person will accept us for all versions of ourselves not just the ‘dolled up’ version.
jelly good luck for Friday’s date
scot and whoknows all sounds good and I’d just have the convo scot
cold did you dtd?
rich did you have the conversation with your date today?

As for me been chatting to a few (some of them a bit patchy on communication),various chats, and possibly a few dates with some this week-just want to get out there and meet people rather than spending endless time chatting!We shall see...

Quick work lannister! Good luck for tomorrow and let us know how you get on!

shit sometimes you’ve just got to scratch that itch ; )
Well I’ve just noticed that Mr Weekend has unfriended me on fb at some point today...perhaps he took offence to me posting a quote from Julia Roberts about women not needing a man who is a project and needs fixing...still not unmatched me on tinder or blocked me on WhatsApp though🤔
I know I shouldn’t care and I dodged a bullet but it still hurts😔 if only he could have been the amazing person he presented himself to be without all the other crap. Oh well onwards and upwards

keep your fingers crossed for me as I'm meant to be seeing MrMusic either tomorrow or the day after (depending on when I'm back from somewhere). He has been talking to me for hours every day. But it was like this before. I don't, this time, doubt his feelings for me. But I do doubt his ability to be in a relationship which was the problem last time.

I think we hit silly season with dating now so be careful everyone!

shit go for it, you might as well! Enjoy!

daffo, what happened with MrD, did you just fade away in the end or did you speak to him about it? Keeping everything crossed for MrMusic, how long is it since you last spoke to him?

MrEx and I had another long chat last night, just joking and laughing about all sorts. I find him so easy to chat to. I just really want to see him soon to see if there is anything there, its our locations which makes it so tricky. I think this might be one where you play the long game. I made a joke about other women and he got a bit serious and said he's not on any apps or chatting to anyone else and remembers every bit of our time together. So I think I might be in the same boat as Daffo with this one, in that I know he has feelings for me, whether we can make it work is another thing entirely and I swing from being massively hopeful and quite sceptical about it. Loads of flirting too, its quite nice that we know that side of each other already and it was AMAZING!

Not remotely helped by the time of year which is making me emotional and nostalgic. Roll on January!

Wildcard date who I met for coffee was drunk (I think/I hope)last night and was sending me very strange messages. Asked me for another date but then said he wasn't sure what I thought about him and he was talking above his station etc. Can't be arsed with that level of neediness after one coffee! And he went on a massive rant about how he hates the police but wouldn't explain why.

Where are the normal ones?! At least he showed it early doors.

daffo, sorry I meant when did you last see him