How do you all deal with those flakey ones that just ask how you are but it never goes any further after one/zero dates?
I get rid, 1st. I expect to interest someone as well as be interested in them. I’m looking for a LTR not casual though, so I have pretty defined boundaries and expectations.
I don't feel comfortable with blocking them as it just went quiet or they showed little interest. Seems harsh as they are nice but just... uninterested. I've been told blocking is highly offensive!
But if they’re not interested in you then why should offending them (and let’s be realistic; OLD isn’t exactly the pinnacle of social etiquette 
) bother you? If they're not interested why on earth would they matter?
Do you bother sending a courteous message when it's gone quiet for like, a week??
Depends what comms have been like prior. I’ve just unmatched if things have gone quiet/they ask nothing about me or it feels like I’m making way more effort to chat prior to a date.
I have sent a message post first date when a second wasn’t suggested and things had slowed right down (which I interpreted as breadcrumbing; keeping their options open but not really “Hell yeah!”) and just said there didn’t seem to be any momentum between us so nice to meet you/good luck.
I think politeness is really important, but if you worry about the feelings of strangers who clearly aren’t at all arsed about you then I think you’re gonna find OLD really exhausting 
101 erm not mice, no and sorry I do tend to lapse into shorthand that hasn’t been used for a while in the thread as people dip in and out. It basically means can I imagine shagging them. Sex is really important to me in a relationship (though it’s not something I talk about with dates/potential dates right off the bat) and whilst I absolutely believe in the slow burn, where something amazing grows if there’s not an immediate white hot attraction, I haven’t really got time to persuade myself I might fancy possibly someone. maybe. In a few weeks. I did try to over 6 dates earlier in the year and that was a lesson learned.
So the Looming Test is testing my gut instinct and hasn’t failed me yet touches all wood within reach (fnar)
Lannister doesn’t sound great, no.If you were “hell yeah” about someone you'd want to make sure they were thinking about you, IMO. So even if there’s interes there, it’s definitely not enough. This happens all the time in OLD, just gotta chalk it up to a lucky escape that frees you up for someone who is interested enough.
War why wouldn’t you be picky? Although again, depends what you’re after. There’s a whole range of expectations on the part of posters here from casual/ONS to FB to FWB to holding out for a LTR. I’d say be clear on what you want (and appreciate that may well change over time as you’re still going to be processing the end of your marriage), set your boundaries/expectations and stick to them while they support what you want. And always focus on how you’re feeling, don’t worry about what the other person is thinking. And Rule 8 is important too. Take breaks, you’ll probably need them
Eesha if you’ve not yet met it’s not really “ghosting”; it’s just one of those bad timing things. Momentum (clearly my word of the moment 😀) is important and things are fragile before you’ve even met; the momentum can easily wither to nothing. I expect that every man I speak to is speaking to/meeting plenty of others and could easily meet up with someone they want to get to know better/not have time to pursue anything with me. It’s fine, I can’t take it personally as it’s not about me at all. They’re just not right.
Maybe taking a break is a good idea for a while and this is God’s/the Universe’s/Satan’s/delete as applicable way of telling you to. The ratio of mannerless twats to polite normal blokes ( let alone not right for you to right for you) is about a million to one; they’re out there but you have to encounter a lot of of the former to find the latter. Big hugs x