Dating thread 142: love will tear us apart...again

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@scotgal2017 those you tube videos are great, a lot of conflicting advice though, should a guy mingle with lots of girls in a pub for instance? Bumble is great for me as it forces you lot to message first, big turn on for me lol

I like bumble for that reason girl likes you and have to message first which is good

@removalizer I hope you ladies don't mind a single guy joining in the conversation but I wondered if any of you make the first move when dating for example in a pub ?

No of course not, there's been a few single guys on and off here for a while now.

In answer to your question, I've not made the first move in real life since I was about 17 and never did on OLD but that's not to say I wouldn't if I'm ever in that position again, I've just usually been approached first

I was out in a late night bar last Friday night and was astonished when a very attractive lady in her mid forties introduce d herself, quick chat then she legged it 😤

shitwithsugar on Match I actually have 'has a child' in my search as I think for me it works so much better if the other person also has a child - they get it!

Mr Block not responded but didn't expect him too - he obviously thinks I am a psycho because I sent him a short message about my day!!! Also realise that I really really miss having someone to talk to in the evenings (DD is 6 and does not count). I think I do some interesting things in the day - I am in academia and sometimes I feel very proud of the work I do, or I want to talk to someone about my hobby or something DD has done.

No one cares, lol. I do have friends but it is the pillow talk I miss!!

Also with MrBlock, our conversation had turned quite sexual which was fine by me, on the same page etc. I have not had sex for ehem over a year, and he built me up into this frenzy where I was thinking 'oh finally the bat cave will be cleared out and it will be amzin' and then...a BIG FAT NOTHING, I think that is why I took his blocking so hard. Also kicking myself as in hindsight he probably just wanted his ego stroked and to get some kicks but then when we met and shit got real he obviously decided it wasn't for him.

Need to find someone who can talk the talk AND walk the walk.

Rant over!

@giggleshizz "fanny gallops 😳 PMSL 😂

@removalizer why were you astonished?

@giggleshizz totally agree, it's the little things isn't it? I was totally fine on my own, plenty to keep me busy, always doing something with someone etc but having that someone to share silly stuff with/ chat about your day etc is just nice isn't it? Didn't realise how much I'd missed it

@wishywashy6 it's very rare I get approached by women especially attractive ones, I'm no Brad Pitt just an average guy, I have approach anxiety big time, in fact I can go to pieces if a stunner talks to me, I've just started salsa classes which really helps

@giggleshizz
Need to find someone who can talk the talk AND walk the walk.

Love that. Seeing Mr5Kids on Friday (for the first time!) and after maybe 40+ messages per day (flirty banter but not sexting) for 3, 4 weeks I am soooo hoping I have not wasted my time.
I know this is going to sound snobby, but although we get along sooo well - similar interests etc he's not particularly educated etc. I don't think he's read a book in 10 years and I'm a book a week reader... Just worried he will be a bit chav.

Seeing MrBoris (don't ask, but if any of you have dated him you'll know! Sunday evening.

Does anyone else think that on Bumble they should implement a Brexit/Remain filter and have something to show on your profile what you voted?! So fed up of chatting to men then finding out their opinions are completely opposed to mine :)

@removalizer yes he gave me the fanny gallops big time, bastard for leaving me hanging!! FYI I never get approached either. I am also very tall which I think puts people off, however, have no issue dating a man slightly shorter.

I need to mark essays now and not lament my non existing love life. I am getting big fat zero matches on Match. I think I need to review my profile.

shit although them having children brings drama and baggage (horrible term) etc, it also means they understand the headspace our children take up because they are in the same boat. I've found dating someone without children just doesn't work for me - they can't understand my commitments and I have no idea how they fill they lives!

If anyone is interested in what I look like go into you tube and type "Stubbs removers storage" it's a Promotional video of me explaining what I do, just appreciate anyone's opinions ?

@removalizer
Hopefully the salsa classes will help your confidence grow!
For me I can't judge purely on how someone looks so viewing your YouTube would be pointless. I had some real hotties message me when I was on OLD only to be immediately turned off when they opened their gobs 😂
On the flip side I didn't find my now bf that attractive from his pics 🙈 but the chat was brilliant and we ended up on some weird and wonderful tangents, I looked forward to speaking to him every day. He's way better in real life than his pics anyway so as it happened the second I saw him I fancied him 😍
I need someone who can stimulate my mind and make me laugh so don't get so caught up in how you look or indeed on how someone else looks, especially online

@wishywashy6 that's the trouble with OLD you don't get a chance to get to first base most of the time

@removalizer
Just had a quick look, sound off.
How old are you? (nosy)

@removalizer I suppose it depends on the sites you're using as to how much it's judged purely on looks.
I'm not denying that being a Brad Pitt/ Tom Hardy lookalike probably helps but I'm just meaning there's got to be some personality to back it up too.
How long have you been on OLD? Have you had much success?

@wishywashy6 I've been on OLD since June, had 2 successful dates but didn't last long, had 2 natural dates from customers using my storage units but they fizzled out

@Uniique1986 I'm 57

removalizer I've had a look at your video, love a good storage container! What feedback do you want exactly?

You look good for 57 and you come across well on those videos. Wishing you the best of luck!

I'm loving the fanny gallops reference! So good when you meet someone who ticks that box. My chat with Mr Music has got really flirty but I'm fine with that as I've met him and know I like him.

Can't wait to hear about Mr5kids, can go either way after that amount of chat!

Mr Ex is confusing me a bit with his messages of missing me, regret, thinking of me all the time. Just need to remind myself that its actions not words and all his actions say the opposite to what he is saying!