Dating thread 142: love will tear us apart...again

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Having a bit of a wobble, I've had two dates with someone and been in regular contact, the sparks there and we're really enjoying each other's company.

The only issue I'm having is he's not much of a txter (comes in waves) and he's very busy! I'm not used to this slow pace seeing each other once a week thing. However I do really like him and do see potential! When he does text it's lovely and very loving. I just need to suck it up and get on with it.. it's just hard when you have those butterflies and want it to go a million miles at pace!

I'm in a large city but very little choice of men on Lumen and the ones that were there I wasn't interested in ,

Plus it seems very basic with few features and I don't want to limit myself to only over 50's

@SortingItOut You're right I've always had women in my life, married for 22 years then straight into a 7 year relationship followed by 3 day flings

Thay doesn't sound great. I am in London though. I apparently look younger than I am so I don't really want to narrow myself down to over 50s either, that's a good point.

*apparently" my iron is the same with the texting, I find it very frustrating... He's chatty in person, and texts when I text but not great with in taking that incentive, I think that it makes the shine wear off tbh.

You have to do what's right for you

waitingformrhardy exactly! And I don't want the shine to wear off as I really like him and see potential! He's exactly what I'm after

apparently maybe have a chat with him about the texting?

I don't really think I have the right too after two dates and I know it's because he's busy working as he's on call this week etc. I'm just being needy 😂😂

I think we are at similar stages apparently this dating game sure is stressful!

Certainly is waiting!!

So I've tried to put another two irons in the fire, one Mr S seems keen, but is concerned about being unwell he is sweet though.

Mr J, is playing it cooler, but we have a great banter going on which I like; why do always like the distant ones

Mr E. Who I went out with yesterday is still in the background, I cant decide really...

I get that people hold back at the early stages to stop themselves getting hurt, but it's nice to be flirted with... Sigh

So Mr Ego told me he doesn’t see himself getting serious with anyone for a while (we have been on off dating for 7 months) I’m not stupid I know that’s code for I’m ever gonna be serious with you ugh feel crap

Ohh sigghh that's so frustrating! Surely he knew that 7months ago??

I agree with @Sorting. You shouldn't be reliant on somebody else for your happiness! A relationship should ENHANCE your own life, not make it! @removalizer, perhaps consider a hobby or working on yourself in some other way to build your confidence up

@RollsEyes I tried to stay single a month ago it just depressed me, I believe in doing what makes you happy I have plenty of hobbies and mates, I am preparing to sail round the world and need a shipmate, I love meeting women making them feel special and getting the same back

removalizer please tell me you don't use expressions like "I love meeting women making them feel special and getting the same back" on OLD sites.

Loo update. Omg we are going to dinner!! Going really well.

@giggle fantastic news!!

@likeridingabike no course not, why do prefer a half a mild down the pub and a bag of chips for afters ?

@removalizer With the right partner, yes!

removalizer Women just want really conversations and for men to be themselves, not endless compliments and platitudes. I see so many profiles with comments like that, it's so cheesy and "hallmark".

Further update. We've snogged.

giggle 😁😁😁