Dating thread 142: love will tear us apart...again

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I officially have no irons, MrPB took the "let's cool it" conversation well, he still wants to meet when he's got himself sorted (whatever that involves) but at least it's clear I'm not waiting around. We're still talking, still friends but that's it. I've got some matches on Bumble but none are inspiring me. So I think my plan to take a break until the new year is still on.

I think removalizer has had a skin full 😁

I'm finding really hard not knowing when I'm going to see Mr red (that's what I'll call him) again. Still haven't any mention in our brief texting since having our mini heart to heart. I'm not going to back down though... So hard!

push I've concluded that waiting around for a man to be ready to date is frustrating and very bad for self esteem. One issue once resolved can lead to another and so on.

Nope still at work, just one of those days 😀

Yeah *like this isn't even waiting to hear about next date this is literally if he's going to come round again. I can't bring myself to even hint after having the questions skirted last time!

Sorry push but can you give us a summary where are you with him?

Have had more messages today from the one who wants to just be friends "at the fucking moment". I inserted the fucking! It's exactly as it was before we met, messages throughout the day just talking about what we're up to (he's filling teeth and I'm rubbing rugby players thighs ).

Had coffee with a couple of old friends who have both done online dating and they say that I'm mad and he's just put me on the back burner, that he's a commitmentphobe, I'm wasting my time. I know all of that but then I remember that date and how he smiled at me and held my hand and the nice hugs and kiss at the end of the night and I message him back.

Was going to try bumble but I don't think I'm in a good place about any of this at the moment. I couldn't cope with another rejection.

Leigh There are a lot of time wasters, we should be able to tag them somehow.

Leigh your friends are right, as you know, and you should probably pull back. Easier said than done - but at least then you can just remember the smile and the hug and the kiss in the past without constantly questioning whether they're going to happen again.

I would have thought rubbing the thighs of rugby players would be excellent distraction!!!

removalizer 'mental health girl text saying she's had enough of life' - is this something you're proud of in itself, or that you were there to listen and help a fellow human being?

I wondered that also, @MovemberBlues. I'm a bit concerned that you see speaking to a "girl" as an an achievement in itself, @removalizer.

@removalizer do you need a new kitchen table? 🤨

I was hoping removalizer was drunk, I'm not sure Nympho Girl would appreciate the nickname either.

like been seeing him about 7 weeks now, things have been going amazingly well. He got ill last week, things have been getting on top of him and I suddenly heard less. Last saw him Sunday.... Asked in txt when I'd see him again no reply to that question just diverted it. He said he was really down... I've haven't asked again. Still been in touch every day just not as much.

@removalizer if that was an attempt to impress us laydeez I think you may have failed epically pal.

shit sorry to hear your date wasn't great, onwards and upwards!

removalizer some of the things you've said give me the heeby geebies.. I wouldn't engage in convo with you in the OLD world either I'm afraid.

Eh ! After some of the stuff you lot come out with, ?

Mental health girl is a nurse specialist in that field, nympho girl just likes to talk about it and she wouldn't mind at all me calling her that,

There's no way I'd talk like this on OLD just thought I could speak freely and have a laugh with you lot

Obviously I was wrong

Not trying to impress anyone

Wounded now 😢

removalizer I think you've misread the tone of the thread.

@removalizer I think the thing I'm struggling with, and possibly many of 'us lot' are, is that one minute you're a shy guy who 'falls to pieces' when a woman speaks to him but then here you are chatting up girls at a conference and being pursued by nymphomaniac women 🧐
You also claim other men 'think with their dicks' with the exception of you, yet earlier posted a question that suggested you intended on chatting up women in pubs with a view to it leading to sex although I think most on here made it clear that would be of no interest.
How you get your kicks is entirely up to you but I can't quite figure out what you're doing here?

push, I feel for you. Mr Ex who I have been posting about earlier, did exactly the same to me.

6 weeks of dating then went really quiet and said he didn't know when he could see me and he needed some time etc. I hung on for ages. And he's popped up now literally months later and I'm still not sure he's ready to date again. It's all about the actions not the words.

push I really think the only thing you can do is step back and protect yourself.

I can be shy and extrovert depending on mood

I'm on here to get an insight as to how women think which will hopefully get me better results with the ladies not on this site

I don't mean to cause offence and I know I can push the boundaries a bit, you all know who I am by now I'm not a raving nutter