Catching my husband cheating?

[dontpointatme]

I can go into the back story later if needed, I just need to know if I need to get this set up quickly…

In a nutshell, I'm 99% certain my "D"H is up to something. I've found out from the wife of his friend that he cheated a while ago and he's been behaving so suspiciously recently that I'm sure he's up to something again. I'm not kicking him out though until I have proof, as he'd just go for the wounded party thing, and I'm not having that. He denies everything when confronted.

So, he's away apparently visiting a friend this weekend... I can't follow him to see where he goes as I have commitments that I can't get out of, so my (psycho wife) idea is to send my old phone with a PAYG sim hidden in in his car, so I can see where he (or at least his car) actually is...

Forget the rights and wrongs, will this work to track him assuming the phone is on silent and Bluetooth etc turned off so the car doesn't link to the phone? Am I completely insane?

I think if I could access his phone it would all be very clear very quickly, but I just can't (unless I send him out to get shit faced one night). I don't think he has any nights out planned soon that I know of. So annoying!!

Following on from what 6demandingchildren said about WhatsApp, it can be used for up to 8 hours so a possible back up? Just add your number to your contacts and you share your live location in the same way as you would a photo or contact (from an android phone anyways)
I think snapchat maps only works if the account is actually sending snaps I'm afraid, it doesn't act as a tracker.
I really hope you find out what you want from this, whichever scenario that is.
Good luck!

The snap chat map does work even if chats aren't being sent, but only if the person you are looking for has enabled that feature within the app. Just checked on my snap chat contacts.

Totally understand why you're doing this op go for it.

My dimwit ex made it much easier for me by using a crap password for his email and leaving incriminating text messages on the phone and not guarding it initially.

It's amazing the way they'll steadfastly deny even in the face of clear evidence anyway.

In my case even the baby that was produced was supposedly "premature" despite being a decent weight and mum & baby going home next day even dd didn't buy that one when she got old enough to work out the maths!

And yet even despite all that when he FINALLY admitted it (several years later and only done in an attempt to get back into MY knickers - the day before THEIR wedding!) it still was a genuine relief to have it confirmed I was right!

Did you do it Op? How are you getting on? Xx

He's not going until tomorrow, and the battery is a bit crap on the phone so am leaving it until tonight to put it in...

girls play too many games

I can understand why you would feel the need for proof. However whatever the outcome of this is I think you should ask him to leave. He has cheated before. He will do it again.

Hope you get the information you want!

So tracking him won't tell you that he's cheated but he might lie about where he's been, so are you going to keep digging after Sunday until you get proof?

SnApchat does work like that. My friend uses it to track her son (he is aware)

Genius.

Good luck op, I knew my exh was cheating but I needed solid proof as I knew he’d never admit it. Took me two weeks to get it but I’m glad I did

Oh op what a horrible situation to be in. I would do exactly the same as you though.
Good luck.
However, if it turns out he is where he says he is then I would consider having a think about your relationship as the trust is simply not there.

Snapchat map only works if you go onto Snapchat. If the app isn’t opened it’s won’t update map.

@dontpointatme I was in the same situation. I'd had my suspicions for a while and ended up hiring a PI ( I charged it to now ex husband's credit card). Best thing I ever did. No squirming his way out of it... it was traumatic to see the pictures and footage of him with her though, so be prepared, but it have me the leverage I felt I needed to get rid of him. We have a DS who was two at the time.

I'm still not over it by any means, and I've had a nightmare on the dating scene. But I'm so much better off and stronger in other ways. Good luck and trust your instincts.

All details will be in his phone.

You probably know his passwords so check his email too.

Be sure to check the archived / deleted part of whatsapp too as that is where hidden stuff ends up.

If his phone is locked and you can't open it. Then you know what's going on.

Try the old "can I borrow your phone mine is dead" trick.

Any update on this?

Put the phone in the boot as it will get a signal there.

Snapchat map only works if you go onto Snapchat. If the app isn’t opened it’s won’t update map.

That's only true if you've overridden the standard settings and only allowed location data to be accessed when the app is in use. Otherwise, by default, it tracks you without you opening the app.

Signs of cheating

Sudden change in appearance, working out etc

Phone locked down

Happy all the time or cruel all the time

Way he looks at you is different

Avoids or wants more intimacy

Gifts and love texts to you to alleviate his guilt

He no longer cares what you do

Hides his phone

Spends far too long in the bathroom (texting)

Body grooming more than usual

Any man planning to cheat on his partner would want to look on Mumsnet find out what the tell tale signs are and plan his strategy accordingly

not that im suggesting women ought not to discuss it!
it's great that there is a platform or we can share knowledge and experience
after all the old sexual double standard is in part an attempt to stop women from understanding how men manipulate them.
In order to understand how relationships work and in order to pick a good partner you need experience of lots of different relationships, if it's ok for men to play the field but not for women that means that men get to understand how to make things work to their own advantage but women don't.

A pp suggested a power bank if the battery is not good. You can get some that will last ages now.

Did you manage to do it OP?

Good luck OP for tomorrow!