Catching my husband cheating?

[dontpointatme]

I can go into the back story later if needed, I just need to know if I need to get this set up quickly…

In a nutshell, I'm 99% certain my "D"H is up to something. I've found out from the wife of his friend that he cheated a while ago and he's been behaving so suspiciously recently that I'm sure he's up to something again. I'm not kicking him out though until I have proof, as he'd just go for the wounded party thing, and I'm not having that. He denies everything when confronted.

So, he's away apparently visiting a friend this weekend... I can't follow him to see where he goes as I have commitments that I can't get out of, so my (psycho wife) idea is to send my old phone with a PAYG sim hidden in in his car, so I can see where he (or at least his car) actually is...

Forget the rights and wrongs, will this work to track him assuming the phone is on silent and Bluetooth etc turned off so the car doesn't link to the phone? Am I completely insane?

@spinningworld I've had a look and am either on the wrong website or can't figure it out...

Definitely go for it! As far as I know you can find quite cheap tracking devices too which I believe it would be more reliable

I put the Life360 app to keep an eye on my DS and I've just looked now and seen all dh driving trips this week. Do it. Though I hope he's innocent.

Hang on, I need to work out how to use it again.

Sorry it's iplogger not tracker

I think it's a great idea. Personally I'd have left as soon as I found out he'd cheated once, but I understand why you want solid proof. Good luck op

Do whatever you can to find out for certain. It's not going to hurt anyone if he isn't cheating because he won't know.

Good luck. I hope you find out one way or another soon. Please keep us up to date.

Under the seat? Parcel tape it so it stays put!

bubble wrap it the stick it to something

I use life 360 to track my ds. If his phone is in a car it even says how fast they are going!

Another idea nir specifically for this weekend...is to buy a VAR (voice activated recorder) and place in his car .
Cheaters often call the AP from their car.

What a brilliant idea! Good luck, I hope all works out ok xx

Good luck!

Good luck OP I hope your suspicions are wrong

I would do it too! I really hope he isn't cheating op

I know you want to but it will make you miserable. Knowing he's in a certain town isn't going to give you proof of an affair, only proof he's lied and it's sounds like he'll just make something up anyway. It could become obsessive and that's no good for your mental health.

Good luck OP, I love how sleuthy MN is

I don't think allowing her DH to carry on with an affair, if he is having one, would be a great move either for her mental health.

I assumed the OP would use his location over the weekend as a starting ooung. Gather evidence and then confront.

ooung...? Sorry, should be 'point'

Love this idea 💡

You can track using what's app just add the other phone as a friend then in the conversation box go to the paperclip and share my location live, it only shared for an hour if I remember right.

If only Dr Foster has thought of that...

Yes, definitely a starting ooung

Where he's going is approx 3 hours away, so whatapp thing wouldn't work. Good idea though!

Ooh, just remembered the snapchat map! Might download that to the phone too as backup...

Is it wrong that I'm quite excited about him going? I hope this hasn't been a whole load of wasted effort in a way... I don't know myself what I want the outcome to be!! I think I'd rather he went where he wasn't supposed to, just so I can get in with it all...

Great idea op!!!

Good luck OP I was in your shoes earlier in the year. Managed to get in to the usual "glued to him" phone and bingo.

Agree you need concrete proof for your own sanity. Then proceed from there as you see fit.

Keep in touch

If you can access his phone you can turn on location sharing in Google Maps. You choose who to share with (you) and then you can see where he is more or less live by looking at the Google Maps app on your phone.