Message from someone claiming to be sleeping with my DH

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I received a FB message a couple of days ago from someone who is claiming to have slept with my DH.

I’m pretty sure it’s nonsense but I guess it’s niggling at me a little bit - she knows my name, named DH and our children, so I don’t think it’s mistaken identity

She’s given me 4 dates when they’re supposed to have been together.

3 of the dates are impossible - 1st date we were abroad on a family holiday, 2nd date we were 200 miles away at SiL’s wedding, 3rd date my brother was visiting us for the weekend and DH was around the whole time. The 4th date we were at home, I can’t remember what, if anything we were doing but I don’t remember anything out of the ordinary.

I don’t know her, I’ve looked her up on Facebook but her profile is locked down - I don’t recognise her from her profile pic and we don’t seem to have any mutual friends.

DH and I work together, he’s not secretive with his phone or anything like that - I use it quite often and there’s no pin code on it, his FB is connected to our business page so I regularly use it and have seen nothing suspicious, I use his laptop sometimes, etc, etc. He doesn’t have WhatsApp or anything like that. I don’t doubt him, I think, but at the same time, isn’t it a bit weird to send someone a message like that if it’s not true?

I do trust him and the rational part of my brain says it’s not true, it can’t be - it’s mistaken identity or someone being weird, but at the same time the message is sitting in my inbox and every time I see it I do wonder.

Both DDs FB and instagram pages are private. They use Snapchat as well, not too sure how that works though, I don’t use it myself

No reply from her

Oh this happened to my Mum! She got a text one night saying my stepdad was cheating on her (he did years later and he’s history now but that’s another story) and that the woman was with him right now, and had been with him on X nights. This was before smart phones/social media so no idea how they got her number. The person told her that stepdad was with her ‘right now’ and he was actually with me in Tesco at the time!

Agree you should tighten up all internet privacy, get each family member to make a list of any social media accounts they use, and games that can access them, facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest etc, and make sure everything is private, and all friends are either people you know irl, or if not, what they see is limited/don't give out identifying info on that account. You really don't need some weirdo stalker type being able to suss out what your house looks like, what school dc go to, etc. And make sure everyone has proper passwords, not their name, or the word password or whatever.

Ignore her now and just forget it

Another one with a similar story - got a FB message from a girl saying my DH had got her 17yr old sister pregnant on a night out. My stomach dropped but I asked him about it straight away, he showed me a similar message on his phone. After some digging - luckily I'm quite FB savvy - it turned out to be a friend of a friend who we barely know (a middle aged man!) who had changed his FB name and not for the first time. Still no idea why he did it, but he has been in prison for fraud (related to something else) and had apparently tried to scam people for money on FB before. So maybe he was trying to get CSA money from DH for a made up child DH knew couldn't possibly exist! Not very clever!

I know a woman who constantly does crap like this.

She tried saying my bf was seen leaving another womans house and made up all sorts of stuff to the womans husband.

The womans teenage son had come home unbeknownst to anyone but his parents so was with her all day anyway, and my bf was constantly on the phone to me, with me or messaging me from work as i was in hospital.

Shes done it to loads of people.

What a sad unhappy life this person must have.

It could well be someone doing a nasty hoax on you and your DH OP, but, at this point you're not certain.

Sorry to say, but for all you know, your DH could have played away (wrong dates given as a warning to him, as a pp said) and when she messaged you she may have also contacted him to tell him what she's done.

He could've then threatened her not to reply to any messages you might send to her. The above is just another scenario, and, as I've said, it is possibly a hoaxer, but nevertheless, my advice would be to keep an eye on things for a while.

This has been picked up by The Mirror op....

OMG I read this last night and now it's in the Daily Mirror 😂😂

What? Really? Erm...

It’s not the most exciting thread in the world

https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/relationships/mum-baffled-bizarre-message-mystery-13521765?utmsource=facebook.com&utmmmedium=social&utmcampaign=mirrorrmain

I think it's out of order personally. This other (crazy) woman will probably know it's her if she reads it. Perhaps that's a good thing 🧐

Maybe it was a Mirror journalist who sent you the FB message, trying to drum up some content.

It's hardly as if it's a slow news day today is it!?

Paper's getting slammed fir the cut and paste job.

Lazy fuckers. Only slightly less lazy than the Mail who screen shot.

Yes, I just saw it.

I’m at work so hadn’t checked any news until now - but yes, really not a slow news day

WTAF

Can the Mirror do this?!? I'm in shock how they've made a news report from
This?!?! Is this common? Iv only recently joined MumsNet so never knew this can happen

Wow

It's possible that she's just an internet troll who has too much time on her hands, and enjoys stirring up trouble. It would be a good idea to be open about this with your DH, though, as it could be someone he knows who is stirring up trouble for him because of a grudge against him.

His reaction will tell you a lot.

Sorry, just seen your update. Yes, it's definitely a hoax, she's probably done that lots of times.