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I KNOW SOMETHING I DONT WANT TO KNOW.

173 replies

WOMANTALK · 28/10/2018 18:39

I know a close person to me is having an affair on their husband (it's my partner's aunt and uncle) the uncle is my partner's mums brother.. so the auntie is by marriage. We will call them Susan and John Well.... I know that Susan is having an affair on her husband who is my partner's uncle by blood. We are both close to them , nearly more so me than my partner even is. There has been several things to suggest for CERTAIN she is.. several people have also heard of it even some of their neighbours. I don't agree with this sort of behaviour atall clearly, they have a family oldest son is 19, he could even hear this out and about.
I don't want this to happen and I don't want news to travel back in an even more hurtful way. So ... I asked Susan to my home when I was by myself, and I confronted her about it. I told her that several people have been talking about it and she denied it? I told her that maybe she should still say to her husband that there are rumours so he doesn't hear it from someone else and maybe get the wrong end of the stick. She was looking me right in the face and really didn't seem put out by what I told her.. at the beginning I thought maybe everything is blown out of proportion maybe all the details are wrong.... But nah... She was TOOOOOO calm. There deff can't be any other explanation for the goings on. So I'm gutted she lied to my face. I said im just giving her the opportunity to beable to tell her husband before someone else did and she said oh absolutely and hugged me and then said "I will go straight up to the house now and tell him". .. well she never went straight to the house? She never came bk until several hours later... She didn't tell him!! So now.... Do you think the information should be passed on to John? It's really going to devastate him, but then... She should've thought about that before she done this.

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WitchesWeb · 29/10/2018 16:16

Well the thing is I don't even need anything answered anymore and people are still sending their comments in
What's the point? Serves no purpose.

It's an open, public forum. Posters can comment on any thread they like, within the guidelines. You aren't the thread police.

Gingerlover2 · 29/10/2018 16:18

NO Witches, you are WRONG.

Other peoples opinions are only required IF, and only IF you agree with the OP and tell her what a wonderful person she is, otherwise you're just a sad troll with no life

Grin
WOMANTALK · 29/10/2018 16:20

@DBN1 Yeah he's absolutely devastated, he is gutted for his children aswell that this would happen. He's upset that I knew and never said to him, even though clearly I was considering on doing so in a way were he might consider listening to Susan instead of everyone attacking her at once about the situation.
Hopefully they can work through it!

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WOMANTALK · 29/10/2018 16:21

Yeah well sorry to tell you they weren't in the guidelines were they, hence why alot of comments were removed .

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wrongendofthisdick · 29/10/2018 16:25

Well the thing is I don't even need anything answered anymore and people are still sending their comments in..

The thread might die if you stopped posting? Or got it pulled? Or we could fill it up and there'd be no room for more comments? Grin

wrongendofthisdick · 29/10/2018 16:27

Plus, you are posting the aftermath of the situation and people seem interested?

SillySallySingsSongs · 29/10/2018 16:29

@Gingerlover2 Grin

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wrongendofthisdick · 29/10/2018 16:31

Yeah well fill all you like.. you clearly have plenty of time on your hands. Goodbye Dick

Thanks, OP, you are a generous person. It doesn't surprise me that you want to be a good friend IRL.

IsItMe5 · 29/10/2018 16:40

Hi I think you are bring given a hard time on here. You obviously care very much about both of them and until someone else mentioned it to the family you were in a bit of a position as far as I can see and you were only asking for advice. Take no notice, not everyone has the same opinion as you, and obviously that's their right, but as I said you came across to me as someone who cares, bit looking for drama as someone else said x

PinkAvocado · 29/10/2018 16:44

OP, I think some posters come here just to be nasty.

I’ve seen your update but I would have been inclined to tell John too. I’d want to know if someone was potentially compromising my sexual health!

Jux · 29/10/2018 16:58

Just thought I'd distract you all with this rather impressive window. I must mention, though, that I think the curtains are vile, but luckily they hadn't been rehung when the photo was taken.

Who'd like to see my cat?

I KNOW SOMETHING I DONT WANT TO KNOW.
thenightsky · 29/10/2018 17:00

'Have and affair on'. Just heard it used on The Real Housewives of Orange County!

wrongendofthisdick · 29/10/2018 17:02

Who'd like to see my cat?

Waves hand...ooh me, please! Grin

wrongendofthisdick · 29/10/2018 17:03

'Have and affair on'. Just heard it used on The Real Housewives of Orange County!

This has been educational for me. I didn't know the phrase before. Makes sense in a way, I guess. Although, underneath could work too Wink

Mishappening · 29/10/2018 17:07

I have been in a situation where I knew of an affair, and both the partners were good friends of mine. It is very uncomfortable indeed. If you say nothing it might appear as if you are condoning it; say something and you are interfering in someone else's problem.

I said nothing. When it all came out I was indeed on the receiving end of flak for not telling.

You can't win in this situation.

EmmaGhostGhoul · 29/10/2018 18:24

@Jux

Love the window but the curtains are shite

I'd love to see your cat that sounds like a sexual euphemism

LornaMumsnet · 29/10/2018 18:31

Can we play nicely, please?

SugarandVinegar · 29/10/2018 18:47

So they all lived happily ever after then or do I need more Wine?

Jux · 29/10/2018 19:02

Emma !! Really!!! Grin

Here

I couldn't find a pic of the cat on this device but you can this for free

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EmmaGhostGhoul · 29/10/2018 19:06

Nooooooooooooooooooooo! Not Terry's trouser snake. Not now.

Jux · 29/10/2018 21:22

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Japanesejazz · 30/10/2018 22:13

Terry!

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