I KNOW SOMETHING I DONT WANT TO KNOW.

[WOMANTALK]

I know a close person to me is having an affair on their husband (it's my partner's aunt and uncle) the uncle is my partner's mums brother.. so the auntie is by marriage. We will call them Susan and John Well.... I know that Susan is having an affair on her husband who is my partner's uncle by blood. We are both close to them , nearly more so me than my partner even is. There has been several things to suggest for CERTAIN she is.. several people have also heard of it even some of their neighbours. I don't agree with this sort of behaviour atall clearly, they have a family oldest son is 19, he could even hear this out and about.
I don't want this to happen and I don't want news to travel back in an even more hurtful way. So ... I asked Susan to my home when I was by myself, and I confronted her about it. I told her that several people have been talking about it and she denied it? I told her that maybe she should still say to her husband that there are rumours so he doesn't hear it from someone else and maybe get the wrong end of the stick. She was looking me right in the face and really didn't seem put out by what I told her.. at the beginning I thought maybe everything is blown out of proportion maybe all the details are wrong.... But nah... She was TOOOOOO calm. There deff can't be any other explanation for the goings on. So I'm gutted she lied to my face. I said im just giving her the opportunity to beable to tell her husband before someone else did and she said oh absolutely and hugged me and then said "I will go straight up to the house now and tell him". .. well she never went straight to the house? She never came bk until several hours later... She didn't tell him!! So now.... Do you think the information should be passed on to John? It's really going to devastate him, but then... She should've thought about that before she done this.

I shouldnt have got so worked up *

Wow this thread if full of women thinking to have an affair or done so already and are intimidated that if this did/would do, someone like OP would be feeling sorry for their DP

I see loads of people doing things I have no interest in, but it still doesn't mean I want to get involved.

THESE ARE VERY CLOSE FRIENDS AND MY PARTNERS UNCLE

They are not as close as you thought then, since none of them chose to confide in you.

They are not as close as you thought then, since none of them chose to confide in you.

This is probably what's winding the OP up most of all tbh.

I've reported the spammer.

No proof so she can deny it and he will believe her.Youve given her the chance to come clean so your conscience is clear should someone accuse you if it all comes out..

wrong does that include you seeing OP needing to process her thoughts about a complex situation and you not feeling any need to jump at her throat ?

wrong does that include you seeing OP needing to process her thoughts about a complex situation and you not feeling any need to jump at her throat?

Amazed that out of all the comments on this thread, you feel mine in particular are so mean they are worthy of comment? I could accuse you of "jumping at MY throat", but I won't

wrong glad you are amazed to see me reply to a post where you have replied to my comment.Takes very little to impress you.

Also glad you acknowledge that there is an element of mean in many posts here. Except I wish you acknowledged that out of empathy to OP and not as part of your “witty”-not self defence.

Japanesejazz Life’s a bastard and if you are stupid you get married and have to divorce one
The truest thing I've read on here.

Lol at this talk of empathy and associated excuses for judgeypants pseudo-moralistic shite...

Hands up, the internet, who would like to have their nephew's girlfriend advise them on their personal, private, adult life?

Omg I swear, "Nephews girlfriend" IM ONE OF THEIR FUCKING CLOSEST FRIENDS OF 17YEARS. I'm his WIFE not his girlfriend for a start! And mother of 3 children, I'm not a child trying to interfere randomly in a Randomers business fucking deluded people. Try tell me you wouldn't want to tell one of your closest friends that there are alot of reports of them cheating, you must be all pretty shite friends.

WOMANTALK I am not your pretend friend at all, and I am telling you you are a modern-day net-curtain twitcher. A holier-than-thou judgeypants. And you actually ASKED us for advice.

Are you grateful? Amazingly, it seems not. Will you learn anything from this? Apparently not that, either.

Try tell me you wouldn't want to tell one of your closest friends that there are alot of reports of them cheating, you must be all pretty shite friends

That's all I would do and then butt out. I wouldn't be gossiping IRL or post a thread about it on the internet. If my friends asked what I thought, I would tell them.

If you are their friend then just be one. It's none of your business, just be there if they need you.

ILoveHumanity

glad you are amazed to see me reply to a post where you have replied to my comment

I didn't say I was amazed to see you reply.

I said I was amazed you'd singled me out for your "jumping at OP's throat" comment, when what I actually posted was: I see loads of people doing things I have no interest in, but it still doesn't mean I want to get involved

Takes very little to impress you

Again, I made no mention of being impressed.

Also glad you acknowledge that there is an element of mean in many posts here

Well, I'm glad you're glad, I guess...

Except I wish you acknowledged that out of empathy to OP and not as part of your “witty”-not self defence

Well, I wish you'd spent the time you spent on this post supporting the OP a bit more I wasn't defending myself so much as making a statement of fact. Certainly wasn't trying to be witty, so not surprised you have had to put it in inverted commas, since it was never my intention in the first place!

I said I appreciate the advice that say keep out of it or tell him ... Anything more that seems to judge my character is just not welcomed obviously, I asked a question. A lot seemed to avoid the answer to the question and go on about other things. Other things that have no interest to me than the man on the moon and no I'm not willing to listen to that shit.

Wow this thread if full of women thinking to have an affair or done so already and are intimidated that if this did/would do, someone like OP would be feeling sorry for their DP

Wow, that's quite a reach

Fabulous Sock puppetry on here!!

Even the vernacular is the same!!

I'm not a child trying to interfere randomly in a Randomers business fucking deluded people

I'm with you, OP. Never, ever fuck deluded people. It never ends well!

I find very odd that Mumsnet Admin has removed several comments under this post because of bully language and trolling but then I'm the bad one, I'm the drama queen, I'm the one in the wrong?
Give me a break.. it's the same people writing over and over and replying even to someone who says the opposite to them. You said your piece move on.

'wrongendofthisdick" .. need i say anymore. Hilarious you're even trying to grief anyone. Catch a grip.

Op hang in there.

It’s not your fault. I remember making my first post at mumsnet to be completely horrified with how everyone picked up on my “non mumsnetty” style and completely started throwing personal insults- and when offended they claimed I’m the one being rude.

Tell you what, these are mums who don’t have a punching bag, frustrates from their lives, and saw an opportunity in your post.

Let’s pray for them. Must be so sad to be them

They don't have an "open marriage" I think I would know this by now. It's me who they come to regarding their problems with eachother. IM ONE OF THEIR FUCKING CLOSEST FRIENDS OF 17YEARS

Yeah, the closer the friends, the more likely it is they are left out of important stuff like this, it seems.

you must be all pretty shite friends

Yes, and you're such a good friend that your friends haven't bothered to confide in you about all these awful revelations