Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I have the option of a very hot FWB but as I’ve never experienced one before whatsvthe dos and donts? I’m worried I might get too attached, we dated 2 years ago and I called things off due his work. He’s a lovely guy but clear he just wants a FWB!

@whoknows, exciting ! Why not?
I'd say not too much chatting , so enough to be friends but not constant...no staying over...keep swiping and going on dates.

@coolcahuna thanks!

He’s been asking for what seems like ages but ive always declined. But then after having sex last week, 1st time in 2 years and feeling like I had really missed it and my date not really progressing as I’d like I’ve thought why not!

I’m actually out fri night and he’s planning on coming over when I’m home! Just not sure how it’s meant to go and feeling bit nervous about it! But also v excited!

Hey all, been off the OLD for a good few weeks and decided to give it another go. I've decided to get back onto Bumble and wondered if anyone would be willing to take a look at my profile to give me any suggestions and be brutally honest with my photos?

Yes Rich. I would.

I’ve been following your posts and so know your experiences of OLD.

Hi all, I have been lurking on this thread for a while and you guys are brilliant 

Quick question: what does a successful first OLD date look like in your opinion?

After a long string of awkward first dates that I never let progress into second dates, yesterday I went out with a man and it was kind of nice. I didn't really want to leave when I had to. He was interesting, funny and attractive. We laughed a lot, and we didn't even get hammered!

However, I can't say that I felt like jumping him, he still was a stranger after all.. I'd like to see him again though.

Do you think this sounds like a first date with potential?

Yep sounds like a good first date to me. I’ve 9 first dates his year, none of which left me feeling like seeing the person again. Still waiting for that. Did you snog?

A good first date for me has good conversation, or at least it's comfortable not awkward conversation, it leaves you wanting to see them again and find out more about them. And ideally there's a snog, or at least a hug. Wanting to rip their clothes off is good but not essential.

hello rich welcome back

I have a date tonight. A match on Tinder who actually messaged.
But his messages for the last couple of days have all said more or less the same thing - he can't wait to meet me, he thinks I'm gorgeous and he's been thinking about what it would be like to kiss me.
I'm thinking what excuse I can use to cancel or escape early!

Runsforcake14 It turns me right off when they get full on like that before meeting, like they think we're all so shallow. I'd tell him to cool it and see what response you get.

good luck runs. Sometimes those work out better than you think

I am seeing MrEmail tonight. We have spoken a lot, I just don't know if there's going to be a spark or whether these odd things he has (like telling me he's tight with cash etc.) are going to come to the fore!

likeridingabike I think he's using flattery because he's run out of things to chat about. Despite my profile having lots of info about me, he barely asked me anything.
Not sure why I agreed to meet him except that I haven't had a date in ages and he seems nice enough.

Daffo good luck with your date. Hopefully we'll both be pleasantly surprised.

@runs, you never know he might be ok? Its hard to keep the chat going sometimes before you've met someone. My FWB was over last night which was great, he was in a brilliant mood and we just had fun so all good there :-)

I've got a date at lunchtime, Mrtall -lets see. He looks different in each photo but has a great smile and good chat on text.

Seeing MrGeek on Sunday but I can feel my interest waning

Omg my lunch date was so bad. Ranks in my top ten. So bad. I'm going to sound like a right cow now but he was just dense, nothing there at all. Conversation was really difficult! Managed to string it out for 30 mins before making my excuses 😳😱

@daffo - stay strong sista & fingers crossed for Mr Email

@Cool - Oh christ, that's always the worst - no banter, nothing to say, carrying the convo.

I agree, the dim ones are the worst. It doesn't come across in the messaging because they can take their time to craft responses. My fave guys from OLD have all been lightning quick in responding to what I've said during text conversations.

Runs - don't back out, just go for it!

I think I should hang my head and leave the thread in shame.

I'm still hanging around for MrPB, who couldn't meet because he was working late every day and is now sick in bed. So, no second date arranged and I'm very frustrated, we'll have been talking for 4 weeks tomorrow.

Why do I do this, I get all involved ….. he's potential relationship material but we just can't get anything moving. I have been very clear I don't want a penpal and I've said the balls in his court I won't keep asking for a second date. I should put an end to this but he's poorly !!!

I have been swiping on Bumble and Match but I haven't seen anyone I'm particularly interested in. I am rubbish at this.

like please go and read super 's message to me! I TOTALLY get where you are and why you are there but the bottom line is that if they are not willing to make themselves available for you, the chances are they are not right in the first place. I do think when someone has been ill it is different and they should get a bit of another chance. But if it persists, you have to remember that you are the prize and if they aren't seeing you that way, chances are they are just not that into it or it's happening at a time in their life when they are just not emotionally available.

Either way, it is not your fault nor it is a sign of anything that you have done wrong.

This internet dating is tough.

And cool that is awful, the worst type of first date. I am really worried that both Mr6kids and MrBodyguard will be like that !

@likeridingabike - I'll join you. So much for my date with Mr Young today - his train got cancelled (it did, I checked online), the next one was 2 hrs later and which would only have given us a tiny window of time together before he needed to head back for dad duties- he has his child until next Tuesday now, so who knows if we'll ever meet. I've told him I don't want a relationship that's 95% WhatsApp and his answer is "We'll work something out babe".

So that's 2 dates arranged and cancelled. It shouldn't be this hard surely? I need to back off from him, I'm getting too over invested, I've not contacted him since he cancelled on me today (but neither has he contacted me), if he wants to make the effort the ball is firmly in his court now.

Still got hot MrHipster as an option, but he's all a bit deep and meaningful personality wise. Going to resurrect my POF profile and get back in the saddle.

@coolcahuna - at least your date turned up (even if you wish he hadn't)

DaffoDeffo I don't feel like I can do anything while he's poorly, but once he's better I'm going to have to put a short time limit on it and walk away. It's frustrating because we had a good first date, I was very comfortable with him, I like his chat, he's very open, just what I'm looking for really and no baggage.

JeSuisPrest I feel like I'm doing all the chasing as well, I won't ask MrPB about meeting again, I'd rather just end things that keep chasing. I don't mind maybe 30% WhatsApp, I don't want someone living in my pocket but the balance has to be right.

I’ve hd enough of Bumble and am going to delete my profile. I keep running out of men to swipe on. I’m waiting for Mr Divine to return from Europe. Shall I send him a message to say I’m leaving the app but here is my number if he wants to meet up? Or does that smack of desperation (which, as I have said previously, I definitely am!!). Fuck, I’m dying for a date.