Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

What the actual.... Once you moved his hand once he should have respected that. Sorry, shit but that sounds traumatic.

What an ahole

@azzizam @shit feeling sad reading your experiences. I haven’t had sex in about 3 years (lost count it’s been so long ) and I am really looking forward to meeting someone I’d like to have that experience with again. I have often wondered what it will be like given the widespread use of porn.

I'm sorry shitwithsugaron, that sounds absolutely awful. I hope you're OK

Crikey shit and azziz that sounds horrific. Sorry you both suffered like this

@Azzizam that's very frightening I'm horrified

Hello Ladies,
I have been divorced two years now and have been online dating for around 6 months.
I have met a lovely man that Iv had around
6 dates with. I have 3 young children and not much child free time.
I am just wondering when it will if it will move into more of a relationship than just dates?
Also, when does it become more serious, him enter grating into our family life?

Hi all - some great vibes on dating this weekend - that's so lovely!

@Azzizam and others who've written about "porn sex".

I've had that.. it was like a Michelin man banging me - hurtful and just so not sexy. It was a one night stand but we've mutual friends and I asked him one night why it happened and he actually admitted that he thought that's what women wanted.
He'd been single for a long time and had basically been watching porn and he admitted that that's where his "moves" had come from.

Do we need to do something about this, maybe not for us but for our sons and daughters?

Hi shit yes it was me x it's a horrible feeling but it does happen. And at least you know it's quite normal :).

Bloody dating! It's such a minefield.

One of the people I saw v early on has also sent me a message about seeing me again. I said fine, he suggested next Sunday, I said great and now I've heard nothing! Arghhh!

Out with my son and friends today. Thank goodness!

shit he is deffently a porn watcher, the fact he kept losing his erection and didn’t finish indicates he wanks a lot over porn. I don’t understand why men assume women like it rough, do they not realise that porn is not reality? Hope you are ok. I wouldn’t even bother messaging him, I would block and forget about him. Such a shame we can’t leave reviews for people on dating sites to warn others.

One of the first guys I slept with after joining Cupid in August just kept slapping my bum really hard and I was so pathetic I didn't feel I could say anything to him - it was the crappest sex ever - it went on for hours as he'd wanked 3 times that day before he saw me and so he couldn't come, coupled with a small penis I ended up with thrush.

One of my longer term FB's is into BDSM and all that sort of stuff but we had a discussion at the start and he knows I don't like that stuff so he's lovely and gentle with me.

I find its the younger men - under 35 who think women like to be slapped and have their boobs twisted(!) and stuff, now I'm more confident I tell them I don't like it and make them stop.

One guy kept squeezing my boobs so hard and I made him stop and like the poster up there the next day I noticed finger print yellow bruises on both boobs - does anyone actually get turned on by that?

With bumble am I right in thinking I have to decide to swipe one way or the other before I can look at the next one? I don’t mean in the “liked me” section I mean on the bit where you see a random one and it looks like there is no way to view the next one without a decision. I’ve got a “not sure” I want to get past lol

@shit and @azzizam, I'm really sorry to hear you've had some ropey sexual experiences. Its really bloody awful when that happens and when you get to the point of telling them to stop, you just feel dreadful :-(.

I've only had one experience of that when a guy decided he was MrGrey without any discussion with me. And lets just say he was 0 shades not 50 shades. It went on forever and he was just a bit of a brute all round! I felt really upset after and he did apologise but it was a bit late by then. Its one of the reasons I've stuck with my FWB for so long, hes considerate and good in bed, always enjoyable, he's never put a foot wrong.

@daffo, your FWB situation with old flame sounds promising! When are you seeing him?

Not much to update from me, can't seem to find a time to see my FWB this week. MrGeek has gone quiet on me so I'm not chasing that up, I've not heard from him since Friday so will delete his number I think. My new chat with MrMusic is going really well, he's really making me laugh which is always a good start. All the chat has been about music, tv etc, no sleaze. So refreshing!

I wish I could say that I was shocked by all these stories but I know that almost every woman in my life whether they've been a previous partner or just a friend has treated badly in the past by men. For some reason A LOT of guys have this kind of toxic entitled mentality and definitely need to be called out on this kind of bullshit behavior.

Florencerex Unless you change your distance or age restrictions so they are excluded they will keep coming up (unless they hide their profile of course). What makes you unsure? You could always swipe left for now as chances are they will come around again at some point.

Florencerex if you swipe left and he likes you he will come back round.

Or swipe right and if you are a match you don't have to message or even reply to him if he messages you until you know what you want.

I actually mentioned to someone else that there should be a maybe option on bumble...can you tell I'm not very decisive

Hi all just wanted to check in with an update.Firstly,sorry to hear about somes horrendous sex stories!the mind boggles.i don’t want to go in to too much detail as don’t like oversharing when I like someone but I’m 6 dates and various sleepovers in with Mr Weekend.Having a lovely time with him, although he seems to have a lower sex drive than me - although my ex was somewhat of a sex pest so I guess it’s not a bad thing that we enjoy doing other things together and he’s not constantly pestering me for sex.Finding it difficult not to overly emotionally invest but that being said he referred to me as his gf,we’re both off the apps,we have a city break booked for next month,and he’s met my friend and I’ve met one of his family members.Fingers crossed.

OMG some of these stories are awful. I'm wondering if it's worth it and I shouldn't just buy shares in Love Honey. The only thing I can't get from there is a nice cuddle . I'd literally freeze if a guy did any of that stuff.

Nice to hear about MrRoses and MrWeekend though, together with kind FWBs. Normal and kind. Is it too much to ask???!

I can highly recommend love honey 😁

Thanks for the help. I’m not sure because he looks a bit too posh, he is at least in my county though!

I often think I should have love honey shares :)

The situation with ex fwb won't be anything. We are just friends now which is fine.

I am chatting to a guy who matched with me before who is spending his day picking up his ex girlfriends child from his dad because she is ill. He doesn't want anything with her but still adores her son. He seems like the nicest bloke alive but only wants sex lol! What is it with these men?! I am past just seeing a man for sex now and these stories just put me off even more now. Thank god for the vibrator!

@shitwithsugaron a sliding bolt near the top of your bedroom door is very easy to fit... treat yourself