Dating thread 141 - fun and games

[Koko12]

Hope not stepping in anyone’s toes but thought I’d start the new thread as old one was full and I wanted to post!

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@shitwithsugaron ewwwwww

Eurgh. Trying to get you to ridicule his small penis is not a hugely desirable trait.

I am delighted to say I have received precisely zero dick pics in my life. I plan to keep it that way. 😁

@runsforcake14 I would maybe give him a wide berth ...... Sounds very pushy for pictures,. I had that with a guy and I ended up having to pull him up on it because he started asking for more than I was comfortable with sending....... Long story short I called him out of it, he had a hissy fit and then I just ignored him for a week before he came creeping back apologising. Needless to say I didn't bother entertaining him a second time as he had shown me his true colours the first time....

Omg dick pics... never had one thankfully. Not exactly pretty....

So had my coffee date today. Wow... he was great. So funny and lovely. Brought me flowers too

runs he sounds very full on, and if you've run out of stuff to talk about I'd say he's not worth bothering with

shit eew that's creepy.

My date with my Iron is tomorrow afternoon, bless him he's on a long shift at work and he's going to meet me straight after he finishes. Poor guy will be tired, not sure it's the best timing but he was keen so I agreed. We've spent all evening chatting, I get on so well with him I can't imagine not liking him... but I'm scared I just won't fancy him.

He's just told me he's excited about our date as I'm the best prospect he's found on POF by a massive country mile. Bless.

Eeeeek wish me luck!

inmy awww he brought flowers, that's so sweet. There are some good ones out there

cold I was worried I wouldn't fancy my date, was worried meeting would ruin it. But he is as funny in real life and just really lovely. Good luck tmrw

@inmyshoos How lovely - I had heard that there are still men out there like that, but was beginning to think they were like mythical unicorns. You've given me hope to carry on with my quest

That is lovely @inmyshoos. I’m so pleased it went well.

I hope your date goes well too @ColdNeverBotheredMeAnyway. It’s nice when you’re pretty sure you like someone. So at least you should have a nice time regardless how the fancying him goes.

I'm loving all the positive vibes on the thread and the dates with normal sounding men - who knew?!

@shit, grim 're the tiny penis comparing. Maybe I could get a photo of my delightful experience with carrot cock for him to compare.

I've been missing in action mainly due to work which is annoying, getting in the way of my social life!

I'm still chatting to Mr Geek after our disastrous attempt at kissing. No mention either side 're date 4 so will see what happened there but I suspect nothing.

Had a totally full on March on Tinder. Couldn't get enough of me etc. Unmatched me over night. Weirdo must have been married I reckon.

However I have a new iron in the fire...He's a bit older than me (50) and I must have changed my settings as I thought they were called at 47. But I'm glad we matched...so far very funny, interesting, loads of chat about music and family. And date set up (Not for 2 weeks due to kids and work but it's arranged). He commented last night that I seem normal and fun and how rare that is to find so I think guys find it hard too!

inmyshoos Great to hear it went well!

ColdNeverBotheredMeAnyway Sounds like he's really into you. Good luck!

On the topic of flowers, what's everyones opinions on bringing them on a first date? I really like the idea of bringing flowers for my date but understand it's not always practical/wanted.

@eraser, I'm not sure on flowers! Only one date did this and he got chocolates too. It kind of threw me when he arrived. He did get a second date though!

What are you doing for your date ?

Eraser Unfortunately while some women will find flowers romantic others will find any gift on a first date awkward so unless you're picking her up from home maybe it's more of a second date thing.

@eraser I would say no to flowers. On a first date ideally what you want is a low pressure getting to know vibe. If they like you and you them - plenty of time for flowers later

If someone gave me flowers on a first date I would cry and throw myself at their feet eraser. Not sure that's the reaction you'd be looking for! I've felt the same in response to singing and poetry

I was quite thrown by the flowers but he is so normal and funny that it made me go all weak at the knees!!

We met for coffee and a dog walk. He turned up with 2 coffees and a bunch of flowers. Roses which we had been joking about in our messages, I wear a rose based perfume and we were joking about me coming up smelling of roses, so it was continuing the joke.
He has kids, as do I and his previously relationship when belly up because he has his kids a lot and puts them first. This suits me perfectly. I just want a decent guy who I can meet for coffee, see whenever I can get a sitter etc but there will be no overnghts etc for the foreseeable future due to my own circumstances with dc.

He seems so decent. So funny. Trying hard not to get too invested. The only other guy I met and dated for 8mnth, I was always quite cool about. He was older and was always the keener one. This is already completely different. I'm reminding myself of the dating rules but jeez this guys chat is like heroin.

cool What happened with Mr Geek and your kissing? I missed that story! And the carrotcock too!! What on earth??

@midcenturylegs I think if you find a "good un" then you can relax about it but of course it is still natural to be apprehensive...I read a few articles and forums online before he came round where the subject matter was "Do me really care about your wobbly bits" and the majority of answers seemed to reflect that men didn't care, by the stage of having you naked they are just happy that they are about to get their leg over and can be preoccupied with their own insecurities. I was nervous but I kept telling myself if he doesn't like it then tough, this is who I am and if he doesn't like what he sees, he won;t be back but I will have had my itch scratched until i meet someone worthy lol.

i have been all sorts of sizes ranging from 8 to my now 14/16 (depending on where I shop it's disheartening sometimes) but having been previously really into healthy eating/exercise/weightlifting I know that i can be what I want my body to be, it's just giving myself that kick to get it moving....actually what I miss most about exercising is having lots of stamina, I hate being out of breath reaching the top of the stairs!!

Hmm maybe a compromise of a single rose... or failing that incorporating it into a magic trick and pulling them out of a hat depending on how it's going

coolcahuna No dates lined up yet , just wondering in response to inmyshoos post.

I think the wobbly bits are definitely not what anyone is thinking about at the getting naked stage. And men are definitely worrying about their own perceived issues rather than critiquing your body. Just like you are really.

It’s all about how it feels rather than what it looks like anyway. 😁

I also think that being confident about how you look, or at least appearing comfy in your own skin is so attractive. Not arrogance, but perhaps a bit of humour and a general feeling of both being a bit vunerable goes a long way in my experience.

eraser I binned both men who bought me gifts on a first date. I hated it!

@eraser, the reason I asked was to see what kind of date it was. I think a second or third date, flowers are lovely.

@shitwithsugaron Ultimately all I want is a shag so how the hell so I go about this? I imagine he will be delighted - just flirt your arse off and make it clear you're keen for an overnighter soon. Lucky you!

@inmy - he sounds like you've really clicked. I'm reminding myself of the dating rules but jeez this guys chat is like heroin that's how I'm feeling about my bloke... chatting is just so easy and fun. What's your next move?

@cool - men who disappear like that, I've had a few. I think they just lose interest, or one of their other irons has taken off and they just drop you like a stone. I had this with one of my previous ones. We were chatting loads, had moved onto Whatsapp, I thought we were getting on ok although the conversation was always a little stilted I guess looking back. We had been chatting for weeks, and had agreed on a date once he was back from working abroad. One day I sent him a lovely photo of the mountain view from my dog walk - he replied "I've seen better", I replied "Oh well I thought it was nice" and that was that - never heard from him again. Weird. I think he just got bored / had someone else on the go and couldn't be bothered being nice. Lucky escape.

My date with Mr Lovely is this afternoon. We messaged all last night, and he's been messaging this morning, despite him being at work! I'm still worried about not fancying him but I'm trying to see it as meeting for coffee with someone who I get on really well with, who makes me laugh and I'd like to get to know more..... wish me luck!!!