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My Date Last Night. Help me make sense of it.

228 replies

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:18

I recently met a guy on OLD. After a few messages, we exchange numbers and spoke on the phone. He then texted to ask if he could take me out on a date. I agreed, he booked a table at a very posh restaurant (his choice) and the date was last night. I arrived before he did and was taken to our table. When I asked where he was, he told me that he was stuck in the traffic but on his way. He was one hour late!

I was expecting an athletic, tall and good-looking man as described in his profile and the pictures that he sent before we met. Instead, a fat, short bald man walked towards me - I tried my best to keep my disappointment to myself. He was scruffy and before sitting down said he was going to the toilet (nothing wrong with that). I could not understand why he would conceal his disability before we met, not that it would have mattered.

As soon as he came back, he started eating the bread which was on the table - he was eating so quickly. When our main course came (went straight for main as I wanted to get out), he ate using his hands and sometimes cutlery, he was dipping bread into all sorts of things. After he had completed his own food, he asked if I had finished, I told him that I had had enough. He asked if he could taste. In the end, he took my plate and polished everything. When the waiters took the bread away he demanded that they bring the bread back.

If that was not embarrassing enough, I returned from the toilet to see him counting carefully folded notes all over the table. The money was folded up in a little plastic bag. I suggested him that we should share the bill. He agreed and asked him to stop counting the money as I would pay the balance on my card.

We paid and I couldn't wait to get out the place quickly. I think he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema.

Why would a person conceal their disabilities? Why would a person lied about what they look like if they actually wanted to meet?

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Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:05

@AnyFucker, less than £100

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RoseOfSharyn · 25/10/2018 17:05

You went out on a LIMB for him. Maybe he wouldnt get you any wine in case you got LEGLESS. You should have put you FOOT down and demanded wine.

ThunderInMyHeart · 25/10/2018 17:07

Less than £100 at Scott's? Did you not have dessert? What a travesty!

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:09

@ThunderIn, went straight for main course and wanted to get out as soon as possible - no dessert or coffee. He had some kind of fruit cocktail, I just had the water.

When I asked if we were having wine, he said no.

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Welshheart · 25/10/2018 17:09

I met my now bf & was about 30 mins late & he still waited! But then he is very patient..

SD1978 · 25/10/2018 17:09

Maybe his legs shrunk in the wash? 🤔😂😂😂

ConsumerUnitNotTraceable · 25/10/2018 17:11

Should've asked him to go dancing after....

starrynitelight · 25/10/2018 17:19

Blimey Halloween Grin

Brandnewshit · 25/10/2018 17:26

How have you decided he has a disability you keep avoiding the question ?

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:32

@Brandnew, yes, he has a disability. I am not avoiding the question. He could only use the Disabled Toilet and the disability was so obvious. Special shoes etc. I noticed it straight away.

To be honest, I wanted to get out as soon as possible. Hence, we went straight to main course, no dessert or coffee. We came out together and I got into a taxi and could see him struggling to walk back to where he had parked his car.

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PhaedrasChocolate · 25/10/2018 17:34

Right, at NO POINT in your OP did you say that he had special shoes, or could only use the disabled toilet....

And there was nothing preventing you ordering your own glass of wine?

Coconutspongexo · 25/10/2018 17:35

You seem to just be adding to this now Hmm

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:36

@Phaedras, you're right. It was already a bad date and a glass of wine would have made it worst. I wanted to be sober and have one course with him and get out.

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FuzzyShadowChatter · 25/10/2018 17:38

Sounds like calling it a painfully awkward date would be an understatement.

There are many reasons why someone might have difficulties walking and have medical shoes other than prosthetic legs. There quite a few other disabilities as well as even injuries could cause it. I'm surprised the reason didn't come up in conversation - I don't list my disabilities on a profile but I tend to preempt concerns and comments on such things as obvious as that early on.

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:40

@Dipping, there are some disabilities that are so obvious and others are hidden. His was obvious - I was sitting facing the door and observed him as he was walking towards me.

I did not want to emphasise about the disability, but he could have told me in nutshell - not the full story.

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RaininSummer · 25/10/2018 17:43

I dont know why this so funny but it is. So weird telling such huge porkies if you intend to meet people.

Hezz · 25/10/2018 17:45

Did you follow him to the toilet then?

PookieDo · 25/10/2018 17:49

I am supposed to be working but this is making me heave with laughter about the legs. And the plastic bag. So did he pay you back?

Greyhound22 · 25/10/2018 17:50

If someone turned up to a date with prosthetic legs I would be fine not having been told before but if they were a completely different person from the photos they had sent I would just walk out to be honest.

MarthasGinYard · 25/10/2018 17:53

'AnyFucker, less than £100'

I'd hope so with main course only and no wine

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 17:55

@Pookie, I asked him to stop counting. The money were carefully folded up into small pieces, He stopped counting and I paid the balance using my credit card then we left.

Tbh, after returning back from the toilet, I had to do a double take to see if I was seeing right.

Think of unwrapping a sweet - that's what it was like - the wrappers all spread out on the table.

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Coconutspongexo · 25/10/2018 17:57

It’s weird that you’re mentioning all this now though

SummerGems · 25/10/2018 17:59

Presumably he said no when you asked if ”we” were ordering any more wine because he was driving? He didn’t say that you couldn’t order wine unless that’s yet to be drip-fed? Hmm.

Other than that, he ate the bread, (big deal) finished your main course because you didn’t and happened to have cash in a plastic bag (again,big deal,),and yet you’ve assumed that he had false legs because he walked awkwardly? [Hmm.

The picture being fake should have been an automatic deal breaker, but apart from that, you’re not coming out of this looking particularly great either OP.

Katgurl · 25/10/2018 18:00

Ah the poor man. He wanted a date and eitger falsely advertised himself or is deluded. Every man I know believes themselves to be around three inches taller than they actually are. He probably played rugby at school thirty years ago. And he could look way older than he actually is

That said it is the height of stupidity.

I have a friend who was four stone heavier than her pics. Why put yourself through it?

ShesABelter · 25/10/2018 18:01

You said he had a fruit cocktail and you had water.

Then you said "hence we went straight to main course, no dessert or coffee"

So did he have a fruit cocktail or not?