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My Date Last Night. Help me make sense of it.

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Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:18

I recently met a guy on OLD. After a few messages, we exchange numbers and spoke on the phone. He then texted to ask if he could take me out on a date. I agreed, he booked a table at a very posh restaurant (his choice) and the date was last night. I arrived before he did and was taken to our table. When I asked where he was, he told me that he was stuck in the traffic but on his way. He was one hour late!

I was expecting an athletic, tall and good-looking man as described in his profile and the pictures that he sent before we met. Instead, a fat, short bald man walked towards me - I tried my best to keep my disappointment to myself. He was scruffy and before sitting down said he was going to the toilet (nothing wrong with that). I could not understand why he would conceal his disability before we met, not that it would have mattered.

As soon as he came back, he started eating the bread which was on the table - he was eating so quickly. When our main course came (went straight for main as I wanted to get out), he ate using his hands and sometimes cutlery, he was dipping bread into all sorts of things. After he had completed his own food, he asked if I had finished, I told him that I had had enough. He asked if he could taste. In the end, he took my plate and polished everything. When the waiters took the bread away he demanded that they bring the bread back.

If that was not embarrassing enough, I returned from the toilet to see him counting carefully folded notes all over the table. The money was folded up in a little plastic bag. I suggested him that we should share the bill. He agreed and asked him to stop counting the money as I would pay the balance on my card.

We paid and I couldn't wait to get out the place quickly. I think he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema.

Why would a person conceal their disabilities? Why would a person lied about what they look like if they actually wanted to meet?

OP posts:
NotTheFordType · 25/10/2018 15:32

Oh wait, what now? He must have mobility issues because he was able to park? 🤔

peekyboo · 25/10/2018 15:32

Maybe he was taller when he still had legs

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:32

Yes of course artificial limbs can count as a disability, the question is why do uou think he had them?

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:33

Who parks in Mayfair? I am not making this up - he was walking with lots of difficulties

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VintageFur · 25/10/2018 15:33

Maybe he WAS tall but his falsies were only available in short?

How do you know they were false? Did he get naked in between waving a greeting and hopping off to the toilet?

NotTheFordType · 25/10/2018 15:34

You could have just said at the start "He was mobilising with a walking frame/crutches/a stick" ya know.

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:34

You think he has no legs becayse he parked in Mayfair and walked with difficulty?

😱

VintageFur · 25/10/2018 15:35

I heard the DWP have trained their PIP assessors to add en extra points criteria for "parks in Mayfair".

Butterfly44 · 25/10/2018 15:35

OP you are really drip feeding here.
I don't think this is real

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:35

@NotTheFord, tall, fit and very good looking. He is one year younger than me, he looked more like 60 years old.

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NotTheFordType · 25/10/2018 15:36

It's far more likely that he has a disease or physical condition which affects his mobility than that he's a double amputee.

In answer to the question "Why would he conceal a disability" because many shallow people would go "Eww, he walks with a stick, who needs that."

Oysterbabe · 25/10/2018 15:37

😂😂
Is this the plot of a film? I'm picturing your date played by Danny Devito.

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:37

This is true 100%. I came back home gutted, we have not been in contact but I went back to his profile again.

I have n reason to make this up.

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Aquamarine1029 · 25/10/2018 15:37

Block and move on. You're not interested in dating him so why even think about it?

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:39

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shouldidoitspoilt · 25/10/2018 15:39

I park in Mayfair no problem ...

RatUnholyRolyPoly · 25/10/2018 15:39

Next time... don't sit through a whole dinner who has clearly lied on their online dating profile!!!

And hell, even before it gets that far, DO NOT WAIT FOR A DATE WHO IS AN HOUR LATE!!!!!!

Phew! Come on woman, you're better than this.

shouldidoitspoilt · 25/10/2018 15:39

I don't have wooden legs

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:40

Me waiting last night

My Date Last Night. Help me make sense of it.
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peekyboo · 25/10/2018 15:40

The allure of bread is probably the only real thing about this.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/10/2018 15:41

DO NOT WAIT FOR A DATE WHO IS AN HOUR LATE

Nothing else really matters in all this.

RoseOfSharyn · 25/10/2018 15:41

I keep imagining the episode of friends where the stripper arrives....

Oysterbabe · 25/10/2018 15:42

To be fair to him, it isn't that much bread really.

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:42

Op, what's thrown everyone is you think he has no legs. And struggle to articulate why past the fact he parked in Mayfair. And had difficulty walking. It's a rather unusual conclusion to come to.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 25/10/2018 15:43

@oysterbabe I thought Danny too Grin

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