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My Date Last Night. Help me make sense of it.

228 replies

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:18

I recently met a guy on OLD. After a few messages, we exchange numbers and spoke on the phone. He then texted to ask if he could take me out on a date. I agreed, he booked a table at a very posh restaurant (his choice) and the date was last night. I arrived before he did and was taken to our table. When I asked where he was, he told me that he was stuck in the traffic but on his way. He was one hour late!

I was expecting an athletic, tall and good-looking man as described in his profile and the pictures that he sent before we met. Instead, a fat, short bald man walked towards me - I tried my best to keep my disappointment to myself. He was scruffy and before sitting down said he was going to the toilet (nothing wrong with that). I could not understand why he would conceal his disability before we met, not that it would have mattered.

As soon as he came back, he started eating the bread which was on the table - he was eating so quickly. When our main course came (went straight for main as I wanted to get out), he ate using his hands and sometimes cutlery, he was dipping bread into all sorts of things. After he had completed his own food, he asked if I had finished, I told him that I had had enough. He asked if he could taste. In the end, he took my plate and polished everything. When the waiters took the bread away he demanded that they bring the bread back.

If that was not embarrassing enough, I returned from the toilet to see him counting carefully folded notes all over the table. The money was folded up in a little plastic bag. I suggested him that we should share the bill. He agreed and asked him to stop counting the money as I would pay the balance on my card.

We paid and I couldn't wait to get out the place quickly. I think he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema.

Why would a person conceal their disabilities? Why would a person lied about what they look like if they actually wanted to meet?

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YelenaSabra · 25/10/2018 15:20

Oh dear, that sounds like a terrible date. Can't make head nor tail of it I'm afraid but sounds like you're well shot of him!

BitOutOfPractice · 25/10/2018 15:21

His disability?

Rednaxela · 25/10/2018 15:22

People are weird

Hth Grin

twoheaped · 25/10/2018 15:23

Have I missed something Confused?
Disability?

PhaedrasChocolate · 25/10/2018 15:23

What disability? You haven't said what it is.

Sallygoroundthemoon · 25/10/2018 15:24

I'm amazed you stayed for the full dinner. People are wierd sometimes. Move on and forget it.

MabelFurball · 25/10/2018 15:24

What disability?

Franwith2and1 · 25/10/2018 15:25

I would recommend first dates in costa at lunchtime. That way you can get away quickly. Actually met my current partner at lunchtime and then met again later as we liked each other a lot!

VintageFur · 25/10/2018 15:25

Is being short, fat and bald a recognised disability?

Sounds like a shit date mind.

SparklyMagpie · 25/10/2018 15:26

What was his disability ? You missed that bit out

TheEmmaDilemma · 25/10/2018 15:26

What disabillity other than lying about looks?

Orlandointhewilderness · 25/10/2018 15:27

Sounds crap!

Shoxfordian · 25/10/2018 15:27

What disability?

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:27

I think he has artificial legs... I am not sure. He was able to park in the centre of town. I never asked him about it.

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Butterfly44 · 25/10/2018 15:28

Yep OP...we are all wondering what you mean about disability?

As to the looks....that means he posted fake photos? That is a thing on OLD unfortunately. One to suss out before going on an actual date.

LEMtheoriginal · 25/10/2018 15:28

Disability?

Bananalanacake · 25/10/2018 15:28

at least he let you pay half, I hate it when they pay and expect sex in return.

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:29

It's hard to help you make sense of it because it makes no sense to us. Snag disability did he have? Being short fat bald and scruffy isn't a disability, and I'm sure you didn't mean that?

LEMtheoriginal · 25/10/2018 15:29

Howdo you lnow aboit the legs?

shouldidoitspoilt · 25/10/2018 15:29

Omg

Stop
This has to be a joke
You think he has artificial legs because he parked in the town centre 😂😂😂

Butterfly44 · 25/10/2018 15:29

What makes you the no he has artificial legs? Did he use a wheelchair or crutches? Or was it obvious in any way?

It could be he was embarrassed to talk about it? In any case, it was a terrible date. He isn't an open person, has issues and happy to lie!

NotTheFordType · 25/10/2018 15:30

What were the photos on his profile? Do you think they were him but from years ago? Unfortunately that's quite common, as is lying about height (for men - women are more likely to lie about age.)

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2018 15:30

Why do you think he has artificial legs?

Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:30

False legs... does that counts as disability?

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Conway007 · 25/10/2018 15:31

His profile stated, "Athletic, professional, fit, tall..."

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