Dating thread 140 - Why????

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I'm just checking in, things have been totally crazy but I saw someone on the last thread asked where I was, Mum I think. Well, I'm back in Canada 😄 and this time hopefully not leaving! I came over and spent 10 days here a few weeks ago and we decided that this was it, we had to be together and give it a proper shot so I basically packed up my life in 3 weeks and now I'm back again, for at least 6 months but hopefully indefinitely. I was very lucky with work in that I was able to leave at short notice and I could go back if I need/want to. It's crazy but we're both so ridiculously happy. He's amazing and it just feels so easy and right. I can't believe how lucky I've been and nor can he - our lives have changed beyond all recognition in the space of a couple of months. When you know you know and we're both in this for the long haul. You have to take a chance, my Mum said to me that she always knew that when it happened for me it wouldn't be anything normal or run of the mill 😂😂

I really want to say thank you to Mr DouchebagDM for ghosting me in July and making me go back onto the sites, and thank you to Tinder for delivering a more perfect for me man than I could have dreamed of myself 😄

Aww vet how wonderful. I wish you all the happiness xx

Tell us when the wedding is! ;)

Pookie you have to end it as he is just sucking the energy out of dating which should be fun. Don't feel responsible for his happiness. He needs to work on himself.

Vet Wonderful, amazing news. Everyone on these threads super delighted for you 😍

Vet - thank you for the fabulous update 😍 so amazing and beautiful to hear a story as crazy as this.

When you know you know - that is absolutely certain xxx

Wonderful news Vet - seize the day - best of love and luck.

That is the most fantastic news Vet, followed your story from the beginning, congratulations, gives hope to us all!!

Vet - wonderful news.. hope all goes well

Pookie - definitely agree with Kitty.. you should be having fun..

Vet - that is one happy and beautiful story! I’ve been looking for updates from you and this is amazing. Wishing you both lots of happiness. Right, I’m going to Tinder.

Thanks all! It is totally nuts and I can't quite believe it but it's also amazing. If anyone is thinking that nobody could be this crazy or it couldn't happen like this I'm on WhatsApp with a few people from here who can verify that it's all true! 😄😄

Vet wow!! What a fantastic update. Wishing you all the best for the future.

Checking into the new thread, I decided against my potential FWB he asked a lot of questions, so currently I have a few favourites on POF but that's it.

Hello all! LOOONG time lurker. I have loved following everyone's dating journeys and had to de-lurk to say well done @VetOnCall for being the Urban Myth come to life!

I myself packed in OLD earlier this year after 5+ years of narcissists/cheaters and sex perverts. I could write a book. I moved 300 miles to the countryside, turned 40 and got a second cat, resigning myself to spinsterdom.

And then 5 weeks ago I met a man (on Happn! Long story... I downloaded it at Xmas to see if there were any single men at my company work do -there weren't- and forgot about it cos I have a million apps and it was the only dating app I missed when deleting everything!)

I noticed it and opened it out of curiosity. There he was. I cannot emphasise how unusual it was we'd crossed paths 18 times as I live in a tiny village. And yet he was there all along. He is my dream man and even though it's early days I am unbelievably happy after being single for almost a decade.

So it just goes to show!!!!

Sorry about the essay all! X

Such a romantic story Vet, hope it continues to be bliss!

MrMilitary actually messaged me the day after our long sexy chat and we have made plans to meet next week. I'm still thinking this will never work as he lives quite far away but the banter is fun and I would actually like to meet him face to face, plus I think he is only interested in something physical despite what he says. Still hoping for more irons so I don't overinvest in just one.

Pookie sorry to be a long time lurker first time poster jumping in with unsolicited advice but your Mr Anxious sounds so, so much like a man my good friend wasted four years to.

She tried to break it off with him multiple times but always took him back because he'd threaten to kill himself. In the end she had to move all her stuff out and leave whilst he was away. I was genuinely worried for her safety.

Get out early, it doesn't sound like you're having fun.

63, single, widowed..looking for true love..I believe love can find you anywhere ...

Can’t emohasise enough how lovely it is to read such happy stories. Divorced in April and I’m feeling like I’ll never meet anyone and so these stories do give me hope.

My date last night went better than expected. He knew we'd been set up so we had a laugh about it. Conversation flowed easily and time disappeared quickly. But I don't think he's someone I could date.

Some superficial reasons - shorter than me, a comb over to hide his bald patch. But more importantly our lifestyles are not really compatible. We would struggle to find time to meet. He has a child who lives with him full time. Some other issues, not red flags but don't work for me.

And he was spotted on POF within minutes of our date ending. I don't have a problem with him chatting to other women. But I don't like it that he was so quick to get back on there. I'm waiting to see if I hear from him again.

Meanwhile the bloke who sent me the dick pic recently contacted me to apologise and ask if we could meet for a drink. I haven't replied.

"And he was spotted on POF within minutes of our date ending."

But weren't you on there too in order to see him?

Loving all the success stories.

Feeling a bit deflated this morning, not sure what is happening with Mr Kayak, hardly messaged me since yesterday, he asked if he couple pop over to pick up the thing he left here but that’s was it, no real talk about the amazing MB we had yesterday , no good night message and he hasn’t replied to my last text (saying what time I’m home today so he can pop over). I’m not too bothered but it’s going to feel awkward when he does pop over.

My other irons have also gone a bit quiet.

Dan no I wasn't. A friend of mine saw him on there. She asked why he was online when she thought he was out with me

Runs I wouldn’t worry about him being on POF, TBh it sounds like your not that taken by him anyway so it might be a good thing if he’s also not that interested? Not everyone’s comparable, I find it hard to find anyone who I’m slightly comparable with.

Morning everybody!

Pookie that's sad but you always knew and said there was a risk he wouldn't work out for you.

Vet - just, wow!!!!

Unhinged, oooh what an inspiring story!

I finally had the courage to end it with mr penpal. He took it really well, I was terrified that he wouldn't cos last time I ended something (early on) with a guy he lost the plot, and I'm clearly still carrying baggage from that

Taking a break from OLD. Life is hectic at, the mo and I don't have the spoons mentally to deal with dating too.

Thanks all. I haven’t properly spoken to him yet. Is a bit cowardly but I will

Love hearing lovely stories!!