Are these things nice and normal, or are they red flags? I'm not used to this behaviour

[elephantsegypt]

New man from online dating, 7 weeks in. Met about 7 times but spoken daily on the phone and text, we both love chatting, it is fair to say it is not just him who has encouraged that. and usually, i wouldnt speak to someone that much at all, but we really have clicked.

however... he also does other things that i cant work out are nice or a red flag. worth noting that i have previously been with men who played games and werent particularly sensitive to my feelings, at least not consistently, so this sort of thing is new to me and i dont know if it is normal...

Things he does:

1. tells me if he has low battery/no signal/driving etc so that i know he's "not ignoring me"
2. often calls me if with friends to say he wanted to just let me know he now wont be able to speak for x number of hours and wanted a quick chat
3. when i say i am busy he totally accepts it and will stop messaging, go off the phone, cancel a potential plan without being moody - but then will contact me later on again
4. he's made it clear he hates games and so just says how he feels - tells me he likes me a lot and if i want to slow it down that is ok
5. i dont want anything beyond kissing at the moment and have been honest about that. he has accepted it without question.

not sure if relevant but he ended things with his ex of 4 years because he didnt want to marry her - this made me think he does have boundaries etc and is simply looking for the right person. his last relationship ended 8 months ago.

his consistency is what i always wanted in someone - but never found it in my exs who were very much up and down relationships...i know we are only two months in but there has been none of that here. no huge high or wondering if he will text or call, or whether he is dating others, no complicated issues to work through. i am out of my comfort zone - is his behaviour normal?

Hi ee - I'm usually a lurker, but wanted to chime in because I'm in the exact same scenario right now - except I'm 9 weeks in with my bf. He's been nothing but kind and consistent to me, and yet, the anxiety was intense, especially for the first 4 weeks. I kept expecting the other shoe to drop and he would change his mind about things (and me) the next morning after spending a lovely afternoon or evening together. What helped me was a lot of self talk - telling myself this isn't my asshole ex, this is M... I deserve to be treated this way...This is how a relationship should be...etc. etc. And for the few times when my anxiety got the best of me, I turned to a trusted girlfriend who told me to relax and enjoy things. I've been able to keep a lid on it overall and not let it affect how I interact or behave with him. When we have discussed our relationship, I've told him how much I appreciate his consistency and that it was very important to me. This has made him even more consistent, if that's even possible. He's recently let me know when his phone wasn't notifying him of messages and asked me to please call him if he didn't respond to a message. That simple act of courtesy was HUGE to me! What I'm discovering is that my overall anxiety over time has decreased significantly. I get an occasional wave of it now, but it passes very quickly. It DOES get better with time and with consistency, and it will for you too! Relax and enjoy this relationship because you deserve it! xo

just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted and responded to my thread. THANK YOU xxx

No problem, hope you have a good weekend with him x