I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

No, they haven't.

Or maybe they have.... as other characters lol 😂

it's ironic that people saying 'elements of this sound extreme/implausible' are getting deleted

while the people treating it like an episode of eastenders, which is ACTUAL fiction, are apparently fine and dandy

Choking!

How are things now OP?

You might think that, Sunflower, and I might too. We might be right or, we might be wrong and the answer is that posters haven't enough knowledge or energy to find new and different words to use.

What an uncreative bunch! Or, it could just be that poster(s) are posting from their phone and a foray into a dictionary could tip it into melt-down through overuse.

'Splendiferous' is one of my personal faves... I haven't seen that one yet.

Splendiferous is a fantastic word. I like long words that sound grandiose like poppycock, nincompoop and preposterous :)

@msoliphant - u ok hun? 😂

I don’t know wtf your problem is but whatever is described by OP is almost exactly what I went through myself and countless others. So that is probably where the female solidarity is coming from.

If this thread is helping OP or indeed any other woman go through the living hell I did then that’s ok by me and there is no need to be such an arsehole. You can move along and get on with your day.

That’s all.

I first heard it on 'Box Of Delights', an excellent children's drama.

I last heard 'poppycock' on Agatha Chistie's, 'Death On The Nile'. I've not heard the other two in a while but I must dust off nincompoop ready for my next site visit.

Anything with poop in it has got to be fun.

Goldilocks, I wouldn't use 'hole' if I were you, that's a bad word. 'Arse' is ok though, I think...?

It's hard now but you'll be so pleased you did out later on. Stay strong.

Goldilocks is absolutely right. A very similar thing happened to me last year, I wish I'd had OP's cojones and dealt with it so neatly. I posted because I wanted her to know that I was amazed by her strength, and frankly I think many others on this thread have experienced similar and want her to know that.

My, the trolls are certainly out tonight.

OP - when you’re back on line, know that you’ve got supporters. Trolls have been out since the Reddit post. Ignore, they’re just more slow wankers.

I agree with a previous poster, yes - one for classics. Helping to empower women who find themselves in similar difficult situation.

MissMarple ignore the grumpy ones, maybe they’re jealous of your superb handling of the situation. and and for you and your fabulous mum

Sending support and admiration from across the oceans. So sorry this has happened to you though

@MissMarpleMyArse doesn't have her phone - her mother has it. That's my understanding. So she might be unable to update us right now.

I thought that @MissMarpleMyArse had logged into her husband's FB account from her own phone.

And joined his Facebook conversation with OW whilst logged onto husbands Facebook account from her own phone.

Did I misunderstand?

She then created the Whatsapp group for the four of them and shared the Facebook messages with everyone

That's what I thought had happened

@bubbles108 OP's Mum took her phone after all of that

Miss marple I wish I had your strength, I’m still stuck living with my lying, cheating husband until he finally moves out in a week.
The one thing I will say is 9 weeks in I have learnt that my emotions are still so up and down and as much as I won’t let him see it I have accepted it, it’s the cycle of grief and right now I’m hoping feeling angry and hurt will get me through till he leaves.
Your nun sounds like an amazing support, even I she does make u feel like you 10 when she takes your phone.
Don’t let him back, he sounds like an arsehole who will continue to drag you down, gain strength from your children, your family and your friends and take each hour as it comes x

This would have been a supportive thread if it wasnt for the troll hinting, "hope you are ok" place marking and bunfighting.

As it stands i cant be fucked to wade through it all. 30 pages and the OP has posted a handull of times.

Thanks to whoever mentioned the Reddit thread.

It has been quite illuminating to have a look (and it didn't seem remotely chavvy)

Anyone got a link to the Reddit thing please?