I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

Well done ladies, take it all day at a time OP 💐🍷

Oh my gosh OP! You're fucking amazing!! Strong and decisive. Wish I'd had the courage to do that to my ex all those years ago.

You're a hero(ine)!!

Probably doesn't feel like it though. You probably feel like crap after that adrenaline crash. Lots of wine, lots of pampering and good food. Surround yourself with family and friends. And stay strong for those beautiful little ones.

You and your mum are amazing!

You're fucking brilliant op. Good on you.
Your mum sounds fucking brilliant too.

I wish you much luck with the fallout of all this shit. Keep on keeping on xx

Wow, well done you. What a great support your mum is. I wish you well xx

Oh shut up @MsOliphant - she needed her Mum, and she came to be exactly what she needed. There is nothing wrong with that. Her mum prevented him from filling her head with bullshit and likely gaslighting excuses, and I'd have done the same thing. This is what good mums do for their kids, no matter how they are, they will always be mum's baby.

Frankly, it sounds like she's definitely her mother's daughter, from the way she handled this with no nonsense and prompt action even though it hurt like hell.

@TownHall - to echo what many others are saying, you and your mum are fantastic, and most people here are behind you 100%, and also here to support you with the aftermath. Let Mum take care of you and handle what you need her to handle as you try and recover slowly. I'm sorry he is a monstrous wanksock, and I hope the OW's husband can get the support he needs too. 🌺

You’re amazing OP (and your mum)

Hope you’ve managed to get some rest today as well as packing his stuff up, you must be exhausted.

When the dust has settled, the psychological peace you’ll feel will be amazing. Of course he wanted you to think you were going mad, that’s what they all say.

I haven't read through the thread, only the OPs posts, but I did scan through a couple of shitty posts putting PPs down for being "cheerleaders" and having a go at Mum for taking OPs phone. So fucking what? If I'd have had half the support this amazing OP is getting right now, I'd have left my abusive ex a lot bloody quicker. Nice one OP. ..you and ur mum rock

God I would have loved to see the look on that scumbags face when he came out of the shower. Bastards the pair of them!!
OP - your fucking amazing. And so is your mom. You also sound like a fantastic mom, how you kept calm and didn't shout I will never know.
Hope you are doing okay today

Just another message to say you and your mum are both flipping amazing. You should both be proud to be such strong women that refuse to take men's shit!!

I'm so impressed by both you and your mum. Can see where you get it from. Perhaps show her this thread?

The way you've done this, is the way I wish all the other posters would react. I read the threads and will them to give a short sharp shock. And I especially will them to tell the OW's husband/partner. Best wishes to you OP

Well I am not ashamed to be a 'cheerleader'. Well done OP and mum. 'strumpet' indeed

I hope things get better from here.
Your mum sounds amazing!

Amazing OP and mum! Hope you’re okay

So sorry you have had to experience this shit OP but you will be fine, as you have a Mum as strong as you onside.

I went through the same 3 years ago. It's horrible but you will be so much better soon

This thread is a bloody inspiration. I'm very sorry that it's happening to you OP your H is one hell of a thundercunt.

But still. You handled it masterfully and your mother is someone to aspire to.

Well done OP! You handled the situation soo well and it sounds as though your mum is am amazing source of support to you. I found out my ex of 5 years had been cheating via Facebook so know how awful it is. Just remember he is the lowlife who doesn t deserve you and don't let any of his bullshit excuses go to your head. You are a strong, wonderful women with lots of love and support who deserves better than some scumbag that betrays you. Good luck and hope you are ok x

You must be in such an exhausting place, head spinning.

I wish I’d done this and been this brave. Well done OP.

Bravo Miss Marple

Op and op`s lovely mum, I have been through what you are going through and have came out a lot stronger at the other end xx my mum is always there for me and I would not know what I would do without her xxx I love her so much you will get over this and will lead a happier life like me and my little girl xxx