I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

I love your mum. I hope you are surviving today.

You’re Mum is a bloody

I’m so sorry you are going through this x

I don't usually post on these kinds of threads, but just wanted to say WELL DONE to you AND your mum!

This has to be one of the best ways of dealing with this sh*t that I've read on here.

You have handled this incredibly well. No messing. No listening to pathetic excuses. No second chances. No "explanations". Just bag of stuff and out the door.

You have been extremely brave and your mum is a legend!

and for you both. Keep strong. And get lawyered up.

Hope you are feeling ok, you did a good thing! X

Your mum sounds awesome. She's really got your back. Your ex sounds a right dick.

Your Mum is amazing (initially thought that when she went to get wine on route to yours, and the strumpet message made me love her more), and you are a chip off the old block!
Well done you!

What’s the betting that OW isn’t serious enough to want to break up her marriage and is now furious with your H for being so careless with his phone. H will then be out on a limb having lost everything.

To anyone reading this, you have a moral obligation to use STRUMPET in as many conversations as possible for at least a week.

Now they've been found out the novelty will probably wear off and they're both left with nothing, hope you're ok

This is one of the most inspirational posts I have ever read! The pain of finding out is immense, so you must be the strongest woman on earth to have enough balls to do what you did. You are absolutely incredible!!! Your mum too!! Can you bottle what you have and sell it to the rest of womankind?!
I imagine you are not feeling so strong now, but your mum has your back and every woman on here is right behind you. I really hope you are ok but probably need a virtual hug rather than a virtual high five (or bow down to!)
You will go down in MN history as a legend.

You and your mum are absolute stars for the way you have handled this OP, the future will suddenly be looking very different and I wish you lots of luck and positivity in navigating your way to how your new future will be

Your mum rocks. And so do you. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through just wanted to add to the voices of support.

Thank god a woman who acts rather than passively sits there with a storage unit and paying for an expensive gym club membership rather than get rid of the slimy little piece of shit. Good for you OP!

You are fucking awesome OP. I know you're hurting but I have such respect for you x

Taking your phone was the best thing she could have done. Please show her this thread, and I agree with the poster that said to screenshot some of the responses to boost you when you're feeling low. You have an amazing mum who had your back, and a internet load of strangers who respect the hell out of you both, and can hopefully provide you with some comfort and support at a really shitty time. MN at it's best.

What a woman!

Hope you’re holding up ok OP. Stay strong

Oh my god. Your mum is an absolute goddess. Please give her a huge hug from
me xxx

And agree with all PPs who say you're awesome. YOU ARE.

Your mum is awesome and so are you

I hate men.

OMG your Mum is so brilliant - I can see where YOU get it from - what a class act you two are! I am so sorry it happened - it is just the worst - what a selfish and horrible thing they did. Your H sounds like a spineless git (if you don't mind me saying..... )but seriously well done for getting this far and with your Mum's help I know you are going to be ok xx

With role models like you and your mum in their life, your kids are going to be absolutely fine.

You're an inspiration. Keep going, hold on to this strength and just take it all one day at a time.

You are amazing OP! you take no shit! your mum sounds pretty cool too 😎

This happened to me, almost four years to the day. I applaud your bravery and wish I’d had the same courage! He too made me think I was going mad!
If it’s any consolation, four years on I’m happier than I have ever been with a gorgeous new man currently enjoying a sneaky end of summer break, being treated in the way I deserve!
You’ve a long road ahead it’s true but with your strength and your lovely mum by your side you will get through it eventually.