I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

Nothing to add, but I hope you’re holding up okay.

Sending hugs for today op. Well done

Respect!

Jesus. I'm so sorry @MissMarpleMyArse

You handled it brilliantly though, well done. Good work on getting your mum round for support as well. Keep your head high and make sure you get copies of all necessary paperwork before you let him get his stuff.

Now the adrenaline has worn off I expect you feel exhausted and devastated. Surround yourself with supportive people, use Mnetters to sound off too and find practical advice. Swear, cry and do whatever you need to do to get through today.

I think you did the right thing telling her OH there is no hiding place for them. Even if you don’t feel strong or brave today remember that you are and neither you nor your children deserve this,

Fantastic work!

Well done OP
Hope you're ok

Well done op, now that bits over I bet it's going to hit you hard. Big hugs. Xx

I'm glad your mum is close by and could get to you quickly.

I wouldn't feel bad about how you told the bitchs husband. He needed to find out regardless, best not to ease him into it and basically just rip the plaster. Others wouldn't have bothered and that's not fair, he doesn't deserve to be lied to either so well done. Wish more people were like you.

You don't need your husband, you are way stronger than he is and a way better person. Doubt I need to say this but never feel like you need him back, not even for the children. They will manage just fine. They have you.

Legend

Op, the way you handled that was pretty blinking amazing.

I can't imagine today will be easy for you. We are all here offering you support.
Hope you are ok

Oh my goodness OP, so sorry for what you've just gone through!!! I admire your no bullshit approach!!

God I hope you're feeling OK today and still have some adrenaline left to get you through.

How are you feeling today, OP?

You're bloody amazing!!!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. But you sound so great I'm literally so emotional reading this thread. You will be just fine. What an absolute dickhead!!

OP, today is going to be a tough day. Reality of this will kick in. You didn’t ask for this and don’t deserve this. Keep hold of your sttrength. You’re amazing!

Do get your ducks in a row as suggested. As this was so unexpected of your OH, he’ll not have had time to hide anything from you (bank statements, mortgage statements etc). Gather as much as you can and make copies. Then put back.

You’ll need to think about practicalities too. Bag up the rest of his clothing and put downstairs, ready to be out outside for him to collect. Have someone with you when he does, but you don’t have to let him in to collect. Items can go outside.

See a lawyer as quickly as you can to get sound legal advice and to map out what you need to do to protect your and your children's interests.

You’re strong. Your actions last night show strong character.

Morning OP. Look at the support here for you! when the grief hits you know you are not alone. You have your lovely mum, and an army of MN posters in awe of you for starters! This thread will also help other betrayed women to be strong I'm sure. So many of them here. So many with their own stories and threads.

You rock!

I'm so sorry OP but well done being so strong.

If he tries to come back and apologise and win you back what you need to remember is that he’s not sorry he did it, he’s just sorry that you found out

Stay strong!

This is so awful, I am so sorry for you, but what an amazing job you are doing. Hope you managed to get some rest.

Hope you got some sleep. Sorry to hear what had happened to you. What a pair of selfish idiots they are!

Wow just wanted to say you and your mum sound amazing. Bravo! I hope you get this mess sorted soon.