I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

You fucking rock OP.

I'd be bloody proud if I was your mum

Wow. Well done you. Remember to take care of yourself. It’s not just about the children

YOU ARE AN ABSOLUTE LEGEND OP.

Well done! You’ve handled this all better than I ever could. I for one think you should go on to do motivational speeches about why we shouldn’t put up with filthy lying cheating scumbag partners. We could all learn a thing or two from you.

I hope you’re ok and glad your mum is with you. You have unbelievable strength, but it’s also ok to feel sad, cry, dream about castrating the twat. Let it all out, and one day soon, you will feel the happiness you SO deserve xx

Joining the standing ovation for you, OP. The biggest of unmumsnetty hugs. You are amazing.

Perfectly handled OP. Doing this will make you feel so much better knowing that none of them got away with it!! Kudos!

Well done, OP. Just watch out on joint bank accounts or credit card cards as pp said.

Oddcat, that rocked.

Plan for the future now and make sure he doesn't screw you over

Wow OP, what a strong woman you are!! Hugs to you, you’re well rid of the bastard

You are without a doubt an absolute rock star!!
Hope the wank was worth it, the pile of pus ridden, green knobbed bollocks.

You are well rid

Brilliant work, no fucking about with all that 'ducks in a row' bollocks, just got the job done!

Fair play to you

Just want to say how sorry I am and how brilliantly you've handled it. You're my hero x

Omg

Brilliant work, no fucking about with all that 'ducks in a row' bollocks, just got the job done!

Yup! Legend OP! Hope you are ok

Op well done, you are so strong

In the coming days and weeks, when he and/or your friend try to talk you round and minimise their affair as being a harmless fling, you should keep in mind the hurt, anger and betrayal you felt when you found those messages so that you aren't swayed by them...

Op you are a legend.. your kids will be proud of you, if you have daughters then they will see that you do NOT let a man cheat on you and stay with him...and if you have sons you have set them a good example too

Your mum sounds amazing and I imagine will be really supportive and proud.

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Wow! Another who thinks you are amazing! Well done, and big hugs.

Well done op hope you’ve had a goodnight sleep.

Glad your mum came over. Hope you sleep well

You are actually amazing and so brave. I hope your mum can stay with you with the children and help you process all of this as the dust settles.

THIS. this is how you deal with a cheat. And i say that as someone who's been through it. Op as painful as this is, you've done the right thing. Well done and stay strong

I’m sorry, I’m glad your mum could come round. And I’m glad you could act swiftly.

Hope you’re doing ok this morning OP!