Seduction advice needed

[EleanorLoves]

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

Best advice I can give is lots of eye contact. And the odd smile. Also if you have eye contact with him then very slightly smile with you eyes, IFYSWIM 👀 but not with your mouth. Feels intimate

No, he can't make the night out due to family commitments which I respect. He's babysitting for his sister and I know he won't let her down. He's just not like that.
I'm sure there'll be more drinks. Certainly his own leaving drinks 😢 and I will definitely do the definitive calf test if we've both had a drink!

I have been doing plenty of eye contact. And I think he's responding well to that.

I like that he is looking at you when he thinks you aren't looking!

Let him get settled into doing that as a little work hobby and then "catch him at it" you need to just do the tiniest look of surprise and acknowledgement, so he knows you know!

BUT until you do that, that time is where you do the touching, just to guide his gaze into appreciating your pretty thumbnail on your lip or you check that button on your blouse, or take that hair out of your eyes

:o

I saw him this morning and he came straight over to say hello before a meeting. He gets better looking every time I see him. How is that even possible?!?!

A good sign! Let him continue the chase from here. You've given the encouragement he needs so time to make him work a little!

Asking people out is something I'm new to but just the other day I asked an old flame if he wanted to hang out some time then actually did a come hither look with hand gestures. Worked a trick in the moment but alas no hang out has been arranged.

Really when it come nearer the time just ask him out or vague drink suggestions

Worked a treat*

I'm feeling a bit frustrated. I really want some developments. I know I need to let things happen in their own time but. I'm also feeling a bit like I really want to tell him how I feel and do it soon. A friend of a friend died unexpectedly today and it's made me feel like life is so short. I don't want to waste any time. But I want him to really desire me.

Your advice is helping me so much. Please let me know your thoughts on what I should do?

Seriously? I'd just get on with it. If he likes you, great. If not, you'll stop wasting your time. All this talk of wanting him to desire you, wanting him lead. Do you just need a little ego boost?

It is what it is!

I have no tips but aww I do hope it works out for you!

Slutdrop?

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slutdrop

youbrokemytwatometer, I don't need or want an ego boost at all. I just REALLY like him and I want to maximise my chances of having a relationship with him. Everything I have read suggests that it's more likely to work if he's the one leading. Every relationship that I've had where I've chased the guy has been a disaster.

Thank you Trialsmum

Same here. Sounds like you therefore need to learn patience and chill out.

It's not easy when you're in the grip of a crush but now is the time to chill out and let yourself concentrate on other things, a new hobby for example. Something that demands your concentration so you can break the habit of thinking about him and the crush, even for a short time.

There are also lots of good resources online etc. Have a look at YouTube dating bids, some stuff in the rules and the new rules might help (not saying to follow it religiously or anything but the mindset could be helpful). Also 'why men love bitches' is good for mindset.

Dating vids!
Corey Wayne mainly aims at men but some of the stuff is relevant to women. Some of 'engaged at any age' is ok.

merville, I remember the Rules from when I was 20! And I have read the new Rules too. I do try to abide by them! Thanks for the tips.

Are there any good online resources for the rules? I can’t find any

I'm feeling a bit frustrated. I really want some developments. I know I need to let things happen in their own time but. I'm also feeling a bit like I really want to tell him how I feel and do it soon.

Giving up chasing also means giving up control. It's not easy! You will get frustrated. You'd do better to channel your frustration/impatience into controlling other things: join some dating sites, find a singles night, join a gym, start a new hobby/project at home...

A friend of a friend died unexpectedly today and it's made me feel like life is so short. I don't want to waste any time.
I'm very sorry about your friend's friend. But that's no reason to declare your feelings. It is honestly just your brain searching desperately for reasons to chase him. 😆You're trying something new this time, right? You have said loads of times how your relationships haven't worked when you've taken the lead. So drop the reins!

This is like starting a new diet. Every cell in your body is telling you to eat crisps. But for it to work, you have to resist eating the crisps.

Eventually you won't want crisps any more.

He might not be that into you. If he's not attempting to get you out on a date with him, The Rules would tell you to get out there - find men who DO want to date you.

I would honestly focus on dating others OP. He knows you’re interested. If he’s interested he’ll ask you out. Dating others will stop you obsessing over this guy and getting hurt if he’s not into you, and it might make you more attractive to him too if he knows there’s competition.

He probably doesn't want to bite too soon as it will be awkward when he then leaves.

Say you slept together and for some reason it was a disaster, then you had to work with him for another month or whatever? Fuck me, that'd be embarrassing for the pair of you!

PurpleCurtains, not really. I downloaded the new book.

WhatsGoingOnEh, I know you're right but it's so hard to relinquish control!

WhatsGoingOnEh, as more time passes I'm more convinced that he does like me. Today he seemed pleased to see me and got a little flustered, said he hadn't seen me for ages when we had actually seen each other yesterday. He seemed to seek me out later in the day too.