Seduction advice needed

[EleanorLoves]

Hello,

I really need your help. I am very attracted to a man at work. He seems interested too but I'm not 100% sure. I feel like the sexual tension is building up between us.

My office has a very strict no relationships policy but fortunately he is leaving in early December for a new role elsewhere.

I'm looking for some sneaky tricks to get into his mind and under his skin. I already told him that I had a dream about him, and that seems to have helped. But I need more sneaky, slow burn ideas please! Little mind tricks...

Obviously I don't want things to peak too soon as I have over 2.5 months to fill.

Thanks in advance.

P.S. Ultimate aim is to make him mine, long term.

HalfDivided, you're right but the thought of dating someone else is just so horrendous.

delphguelph, your message got me all hot under the collar...!! 🤣😂

This thread is so frustrating.
I think you are enjoying the flirtation and just want to shag him.
Otherwise your instinct to take the lead would have driven you to act. If you want anything to happen just bloody ask him out.

My guess is he likes you, but is a stickler for the rules so won't act on it at the moment. I can imagine you getting a big confession of love at his leaving do
I say just carry on as you are, developing a deep friendship with him with a view to it progressing down the line.

tommytimmy, I'm frustrated too! I am enjoying the flirtation and would LOVE to shag him! If he hasn't indicated how he feels by the time he leaves then I will probably ask him out.

keepingbees, oooh, that would be amazing!

Ask him now. Why are you waiting?

It’s 100% fact that anyone who tells someone that they had a dream about them wants to shag that person. It’s not the act of having the dream that proves the sex magnetism, it’s the act of telling them.

Which you’ve done, so you’re off to a good start basically.

Is there banter or not? Definitely worth trying to catch his attention whenever appropriate too. See if you can get his number or email address as well (be careful here). Best of luck with your relationship.

Give compliments. Say hello.

Make small talk at company events too.

tommytimmy because we have a very strict no relationships policy at work which also fits with his preference. And he is leaving in a couple of months.

Dafspunk, ha! I wonder if he knows about this dream fact!!?

spinabifidamom, there is good banter, some flirting. I always chat to him. We make a beeline for each other. I have his contact details.

How about next time you have a good chat/laugh, you say 'Ah I'm gonna miss this when you leave, we'll have to keep in touch/catch up over a coffee sometimes?'
Test the ground. You should be able to see from his reaction whether he intends seeing you again once he's left and free?

Yes, that's a good idea keepingbees.

In typical crush fashion, I'm in the depths of despair tonight. I saw him today and had some sweet, tender moments. He's different with me than everyone else. He speaks more gently and has a tenderness about him. But I'm feeling really sad because I won't see him until Wednesday because I have to go to another city on Monday and Tuesday. And I'm feeling hideous, almost like I could cry/vomit, because I just want to kiss him and be with him. And I'm terrified that that's never going to happen and that he might just see me as a friend. I think I'm falling in love with him and it's terrifying me.

Please channel this angst into writing romantic fiction, OP. You have such a passionate nature, you could be banging then out (books, that is) and coining it in.

Hopefully he's missing you too. If he is, it'll prompt him to actually do something definite.

I'm starting to think he is enjoying the attention and ego boost but most likely has zero intention to take it any further.

He has nothing to lose by continuing to encourage you OP up until he leaves. You are falling in to his trap and potentially setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment.

If he is leaving anyway, the work policy on no relationships should not be stopping him making a move. Meeting someone one to one outside of work is not yet a relationship: it usually takes a while to get to that stage.

WhatsGoingOnEh, ahh, thank you. That's a sweet idea about the fiction. I suppose I am quite passionate.

Botanica, you might be right. But he did tell me that he met his last girlfriend at his previous company and it was also strict there. He had a one year contract and the day after he left he contacted her and asked her out. He strongly feels that work and relationships don't mix. It didn't work out between them but he told me this about the work situation.

Also, he cross examines me on everything about myself. Like last week I went to an art class after work and he wanted to know where it was exactly, what it involved, what I liked about it, etc. When I'm meeting friends he wants to know who they are, how I met them, where I'm going with them. Is that normal for a friendly, chatty, straight guy? Or is it more suggestive that he's interested in me?

I would be really grateful for anyone's opinions. Thanks

That degree of interest is definitely more than friends.

I don't find blokes in general that nosey - women could easily ask that kind of stuff of another woman without sexual interest, but men don't really care about that kind of information.

Unless those men consider themselves friends with you. I don't know either way as I only know what you've written but I have plenty of male friends at work who'd ask those type of things just because we're friends.

He's quite a chatty guy. But with other people he seems to ask less probing questions. Like where are you going on holiday? But with me he wants to know everything! Which is really flattering and is probably contributing to my feelings for him.

I think that level of questions sounds like he’s interested.