Hi all. I haven't updated since the beginning of the thread - it's been a crazy couple of weeks with kids/work/dating :) I now have 2 of my 3 irons still in the fire.
My 3 irons
Mr Boardgames - we have had 3 dates now. He is still super lovely, and there is definitely chemistry developing. On our last date, he asked if he could kiss me, and it was lpretty special. I like him a lot, and even when I last posted about him, I said I only saw us being friends, I think that could be changing to at least a possible FWB+ (if he is open to that).
Mr SlowBurn - still very sporadic messaging from both of us, but interesting conversation, and we both acknowledge that we are both busy as single parents and it's a relief not to have to message incessantly every night. We finally met up! Very very informal drink at the local tavern (we both walked there), he walked me home, gave me a hug on the footpath and there was talk of maybe catching up again. We've messaged, briefly, since, but since we message so intermittently anyway, I have no way to gauge his interesting. I really liked him! He was easy to talk to. No huge sexual attraction, but more neutral.
Mr Books - we had our first date which was amazing ... so much to talk about and so much chemistry and I was very attracted to him. Our texting continued to be easy, free-flowing, fun, interesting. We met up for a second date where we knew DTD was on the cards (I invited him for a drink at my local, then back to mine to 'play scrabble'). We had a fantastic time, sex was amazing from my perspective, although I am always self conscious as I am overweight and look better with clothes on. He messaged me 30 mins later saying he had fun, then nothing for 2 days (unusual) when he claimed kik (like Whatsapp) had deleted all his messages, then all my messages went ignored for 2 days, then a further message saying he'd had trouble with his phone and how irritating it was 
I sent a few messages in reply, which remained unread for 2 days. When someone blocks you on kik, the messages remain unread, so I guessed that's what had happened. So I deleted my kik account (as he was the only person I was messaging on it). I feel really embarrassed, like he must have hated the sex, or hated the way I looked. He hasn't unmatched me on OKC, but he's been active on there and hasn't messaged me, and he popped up on my Tinder feed a few days ago (I resisted swiping right, have not swiped him at all). I feel unexpectedly down about it ... a mixture of embarrassment, and disappointment as I thought I'd found a great FWB+ ... heaps in common, heaps of fun together, and great sex. It's my first ghosting, and I'm having trouble not taking it personally.
Mr Meter - this is my 'not my guy' because he lives 1000 miles away and just travels here with work very occasionally, but whom I unexpectedly let myself feel a little bit smitten with because he was such a gentleman, great to chat to, and awesome in bed. We are still matched on Tinder, and I check his profile occasionally - nothing has changed on it, which means he must have it hidden, because it references visiting my location in August, which was when we met. He'd told me he doesn't do OLD in his home town. Anyway, when I was feeling down in the dumps about Mr Books, I got an unexpected message from Mr Meter, commenting on one of my new profile photos and telling me he liked it. He told me he'll be in touch next time he's in town 
. Neither of us had messaged since the morning after we met, so this is lovely that he's been thinking of me and checking back on my profile.