Who gets the engagement ring?

[Ta77Blonde]

When a couple break up because the man was an abuser, who gets the engagement ring?

Thank you all ladies for your help in this matter! Thanks to Mumsnet for existing and I hope and pray for all to have safe, healthy lives.

I sold all my jewellery and used the cash to pay for the therapy to get over my abusive ex/family.

I agree that capitulating won't end things, and you are not obligated to return a thing to him.

I'd block him, get a non mol to include direct and indirect contact and get as much on the system about him and his abuse as poss

then perhaps the police may warn any other unsuspecting victims he tries to draw into his web

Why would him being an abuser make a difference to that?

Why would you want to keep it if he abused you?

Also if your children have been victims of domestic abuse due to this man you need a solicitor and to report this.

No offence but that should be a bigger priority for you than what to do about a ring

My ex said he wanted the ring back every time we had a minor disagreement, I eventually gave it him back when he started acting like an arse on Xmas day. I went to see my family and when I got home he had packed and left. Best Xmas present I could have wished for!

I have reported him to the police and they have the details etc of the children involved.

Actually, given the diamond was sold to you, heavily discounted, due to YOUR contact and you designed it together, I wouldn’t give it to him. There’s no ‘back to him’ because it wasn’t ‘from’ him. Keep it for now and later on get it redesigned into something else.

I'd send the ring to the solicitor.

But I'd have the diamond replaced with paste first.

Disclaimer - I have no idea of the legality of that