Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

margo I use to love seeing people I knew on OLD, I don't mean people I knew well but acquaintances. I always swiped right to see if they did also had. led to some very funny conversations.

@kin I have resurrected my FWB+ this week. Have decided it is definitely the way forward. Dinner, fab evening in cocktail bar and long lovely night.....

Date 1 of the week done. Definitely warmed up as we went along. He made me laugh a lot (though we drank far too much too quickly). Agreed we would see each other again in a few weeks time but probably as friends.

One v funny moment when he described how he had used his 'give someone an extra 24 hours to message' to someone who he really liked and he thought it was me. It wasn't and I told him . He went soooo red. Almost sure (99%) we will only end up friends but it was ok. Have I mentioned I hate first dates? I know we have to do them but grrr doesn't stop me hating them.

Seeing number 2 tonight. This is the one I'm most fond of. Though am getting a dull ache in groin which I suspect is from the activity with FWB on the weekend fgs! Argh!

And I must admit, margo cover I am getting bored on bumble of messaging first. But the first messages I get on POF are dire in the main!

Definitely warmed up as we went along. He made me laugh a lot. One v funny moment. We will only end up friends but it was ok.

Your mission, Daffo, is to find someone you like. This date will self-destruct in 5 seconds...

Daffo glad you've got some dates lined up. Have you got your settings on POF to ensure that the first message has to be over 50 characters? I found that improved the quality slightly.

I know kin. I promise I am trying! This is my week of effort. Next week is out then I'm back to FT work and I might as well consign myself to bloody spinsterdom!

Grrr sodding online dating

Ooh Margo didn't know about that. I will go and find that setting!

My problem on POF is the 25 yr olds. I get loads of younger kids wanting a MILF. But that just doesn't work for me. Weirdly men my age just don't seem interested! Perhaps I need a bikini shot!

Deffo I honestly cannot believe the difference the bikini shot made! I was literally besieged. I didn't change any of the other photos or my profile description, just added the bikini photo which was taken a few weeks ago by my daughter. It is a very modest bikini, 1950s style so it is not as though I have boobs or arse hanging out and as I said I am no Elle Macpherson! I believe they say that men are more visual than women!

I want to be a FILF - I think I would be very good at it - almost everyone I meet says I'm filfy.

FILF

I have a day off work tomorrow and I’m stuck in all day (van in the garage) so I will probably end up on POF attracting weirdos.

Great that so many of you have dates, I thought things would be quieter during the summer holidays but I guess people have time off work in the summer giving them more time to date?

I hate first dates too, find them awkward, I don’t get as nervous before a date now and never get my hopes up. Always feels awkward when they ask if they can see you again and you don’t want too.

Just had a thanks but no thanks message from Mr2dates. I feel surprisingly shit but I do have raging pmt!

Mumteedum is that the guy who didn't message to ask if you'd got home ok? If so, he doesn't sound like much of a loss. Remember you are a prize!!!!!

Mum just feel greatful that he told you and didn’t just vanish into thin air. I hate the feeling of rejection but would rather know early on by a honest text. It’s is a horrible feeling but just keep yourself busy with other irons and you will soon forget him.

Thank you love and margo. Yeah that's him. He obviously knew he wasn't interested. I appreciate the text. It's just surprised me that I feel upset.

My Exh was mentally abusive so I still have the voice that says it's me that's not good enough. I know that not true, but with pmt I'm not feeling it!

Haven't got any other irons really. Nobody has replied to any messages and the ones who have messaged me are not my cup of tea. Ho hum... I'll get back on the horse. I guess this is just the first time since my husband that I've even tried, so more of a big deal than it should be.

Aw Mumteedee, we’ve all been there. All had the first date after a relationship and for some of us it sucked. My first was married- just swapped his ring to the other hand, the fucker, so he ended up with a lap full of white wine and the sight of me storming off into the night!!!!

Which OLD site are you on?

Match.com and okcupid. I'm due to dump match.com next week though cos it is stupidly expensive and I'm skint. Okcupid is a bit dismal tho

If you’re skint definitely go for the free sites. There’s nothing wrong with them. I use POF mostly but have tried OKC and Tinder too - as well as paying for Match every now and then too. I think most posters here use the free sites.

I got some great tips for my profile on one of this thread ‘s many predecessors and that helped me attract more of the men that I’d like.

I'm too scared of pof! lol. I figured okcupid is gentler although maybe I'm talking shit as there is a man dressed as a pig into some weird shit who it claims is 75% compatible with me!

About to go on date 2. Forgot how loud the bar is that I arranged to meet him in lol. I'll be lucky to hear a word he says - perhaps this is how to do it ;)

mum I had one date that sent me a text like that and I was quite upset as I had liked him. No one likes rejection but rather know now than having it strung out for months and then being told. You need to get yourself back out there. Best way to get over it x

FUCK just sent him a message to say I was here and called him the wrong name

KILL ME NOW

POF is the only site I get dates on. It is a bit scary as there’s lots of people on there. I get loads of messages, mainly from people who have nothing in common with me and are not my type but I stay on there because of the traffic.

Daffo I am laughing, I know it’s not funny 😂 good luck

Oh no Daffo. Snorting with laughter! Dying to know how you came back from that!

Oh god Daffo that's not good

Still nowt from Mr DM. Mr Hotel And Mr Brazil both asked for second dates this week but I have one free evening - tonight - and I'm knackered. Will definitely see Mr Hotel next week, not sure about Mr Brazil, he's lovely but not my type. Also got Mr Posh lined up for next week, he sends great messages. Started talking to Mr Canada on Tinder yesterday and he seems great... Unfortunately he's going back to Canada on Friday but he's moving home to the UK again soon, he's been here sorting things out. We have loads in common so I'm hoping he does come back soon!