Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Cold I’m sorry, but any man who uses the word “tinkle” better be in a Carry On film talking to Kenneth Williams in a hospital. Or referencing urination. With a small child.
Your not interested response sounds fab. And yes, exactly. Do unto others etc.

Maggie currently I’m only on POF. But I have Sapiophile as my description and will search on that term when I get round to searching.
Or go niche, but I do think all the guys on paid sites are also on free ones. And probably POF.

cover 😂😂😂😂 Brilliant rundown!

Vet you’re welcome. Are we still running off together if things get desperate? Oh hang on, Rule 10, doh 🤦🏻‍♀️

I know but yes, yes we are.

So I saw Mr DM online on WhatsApp last night. First time I've seen him show as online since he stopped communicating. He didn't read the two messages I've sent in the last couple of weeks, they still have grey ticks. Either he has deleted our conversation or he's just ignoring them. I know I keep saying it but it's just so fucking weird. At least I know he's not dead so I can legitimately hate him.

I just checked my 'Viewed me' on POF... saw one bloke who looked vaguely familiar who had looked at my profile... so I clicked on him..

IT WAS MY EX BOYFRIEND

OOoh as I was typing that, Mr Shiftworker has just replied saying "Busy, just having a quick tinkle"...

My bits would shrivel up permanently just reading that phrase from a potential love interest 😣🤢 I could be messaging Ryan Reynolds and if he said that I'd pack him off back to Blake Lively.

OOoh as I was typing that, Mr Shiftworker has just replied saying "Busy, just having a quick tinkle"...

My bits would shrivel up permanently just reading that phrase from a potential love interest

Especially as the opening text of the evening. Ah well no great loss then. The thing is, I had to persuade myself to fancy him because he sent me a photo of himself and he had an awful beard but I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Why do I care that a bloke I didn't really fancy that much to begin with has now lost interest? Is my self esteem that pathetic?

The poem on page 1 is ‘Cowboys and Angels’ by George Micheal! Cheeky bugger, ripping off lovely George.
Just wanted to let that poster know in case they get more lyrics 😁

I think it's human nature to want someone to want you, even if you don't want them! He sounds like no loss though - dodgy beard, not fanciable and sends cringy texts... you can do so much better.

Thanks, oily, that was me. The sad sack has it also as his only profile information. He has been plonked firmly in the basket-looking folder and the lid on. Sitting on the lid for good measure.

2 meet ups coming up this week - coffee with Mr Book and lunch with Mr City. Both seem nice, Mr City much more on my wavelength and is making quite a long and expensive trip to my nearest city to meet up. But Mr Book is v erudite and will be interesting too. Onwards!

Two is the limit and i’m worried I will get them mixed up, so bravo, kin for your three plus objective!

Forza to all OLDers, this is a time consuming endeavour in the evenings. I’ve only signed up for a month and I think that this little first foray will be enough for a while.

Back from date 2. Rerun of date 1. Two rounds of drinks and pleasant chat. Home before 10.30 including the 40 min drive! No loo update as I didn't have enough drinks to actually need a wee fgs.

Enjoyed going out, I think I looked pretty good (for me), getting no vibe but my radar is so rusty could be me. Not sure if I fancy him either mind but not getting much to go off.

Thought he might have messaged to check I got home OK but no.

Jury is out.

Well I had a good date despite the fact I was 40 minutes late! (road closure)
He was lovely, definitely fancy him (mind and body) and already arranged second date on Thursday. Will need to make sure I don't over invest!
Hope others have some good dates this week.

@nokia that’s lovely 😊
Tell us about him....

@kin can’t remember when your dates are this week.
Any goss to share yet? Those of us with no dates have to live vicariously through
others

Nice one ignoring - what are you doing to ensure you don't overinvest?

Cover and Saint - three is only a small gathering, and four is probably my limit. A Whitehall farce would definitely appeal to my warped sense of humour though .

Maggie - OKC is the best if you like wordy profiles.

Mum - sounds like a meh date to me and why didn't he check you got home safely? That sounds like poor form to me.

Any goss to share yet?

I had a brilliant all day date with Miss Deep yesterday

Am currently on the phone to Miss Picnic who I saw briefly last year - when done, I may share her story (if anyone is interested) of serious over investment with a guy who lives in another country, and how she's gone ga-ga over him, despite never meeting in person...

kin all day date sounds lovely. 😊 It seems I can only manage 2 drinks. I shall henceforth call him Mr2drinks. Yeah I agree, it would have been nice to check I got back OK. That's not even a man /woman thing. I messaged him to say thanks for coming out to see me when I got home last time as he'd made the effort.

Meh! Indeed.

Just casually POFing at the moment, have had a few messages but mainly from people I have chatted with before. One possible new iron, shall call him Mr engineer, talked to him last night for quite a while and exchanged numbers, he does have children which is usually a no no for me but he seems nice. Won’t be dating anyone for a few weeks anyway as going away next week. A few messages from weirdos (not my type) and a message from a really fit muscly man (I’m too scared to reply).

Morning, woke up to a lovely message this morning, I'm hoping I have found a real gent.
Hatty as you asked I will happily talk about him, can't in real life as it's too soon yet so great to be able to here. Physically he is my ideal, tall broad, fit, couple of tattoes and a beard! Mentally he is clever, discussions were wide ranging and funny, similar tastes in music and did I mention he has beautiful eyes? Yes Kin I really need to not over invest (from someone who's husband moved in the night they met and stayed 15 years!)
In response to your question I have a date tonight with someone who seems really nice, I will go but feel a bit like I should cancel as not fair to him when my mind is elsewhere.
Cold sounds like you are well rid of shift worker, was it funny or awkward seeing ex on site?
Cover that was quick work having three lined up *although number 2 seems totally unsuitable! you don't want to be designated driver)
Margo Good on you with the bikini shot, we all need to be more body confident and appreciate just how amazing being fit and healthy is :) I see a lot of ill people through work and think we take health for granted until it's gone, we should all be rocking the bikini's (I do!) and when I am old I shall also wear purple (Jenny Johnson)
Have a great day everyone :)

Why scared Love? Do you find him attractive? if so send a message, he obviously likes you :)

nokia I have over invested already for you. You go ahead and be cool (I like the sound of this one :)

Yes Kin I really need to not over invest (from someone who's husband moved in the night they met and stayed 15 years!)

In response to your question I have a date tonight with someone who seems really nice, I will go but feel a bit like I should cancel as not fair to him when my mind is elsewhere.

Go anyway ignoring - it will stop you over investing and meeting new people is never a bad thing.

Lol Cold - I live in fear of seeing anyone I know on OLD! Hasn't happened so far but it probably will at some point given I will probably be on OLD forever.

OMG Kin you had an amazing all day date - tell us more. Are you seeing her again?

Congrats nokia on good date & second one lined up. Fingers crossed for that.

Oh Love have caught up and sorry to hear things went tits up with Mr Camper.

I like to be messaged first too Cover so will join you for the tarring and feathering, if that happens! . Which OLD site are you on now?

She's a FWB Margo - I'll get shot if I tell you more on the thread

lol, I didn't mean salacious details Kin. The FWB thing always blows my mind a bit. I don't know how you can have a day long lovely date (even if lovely is a euphemism for hot sex) and not want it to be more!

Well, I call it FWB+ which means it's more than just hot sex (we had a lovely pub lunch), but not too much more. I think, for it to work, openness, honesty and simply being on the same page are essential.