I gave Tinder a try. Mainly because I promised on this thread that I would. I do get quite a lot of matches, but NO ONE EVER MESSAGES. Occasionally they don't message, say nothing, then a few days later, they remove themselves.
I had one date out of Tinder and it was the fetish guy who I decided not to see again.
All roads lead back to POF...
Has anyone ever met someone in real life and found them to be much better in person than their style of writing? Had a message from someone who has actually read my profile and seems vaguely normal, but I hate, hate, hate the way he writes. I'm such a pedant... I think sometimes the writing is even more a turn off than the photos.
@RunsforCake14 I'd offer to look, but I'm not exactly doing well myself! I'd take up Kinunir's offer of a male POV.
@Catmatrat I'd be wary too. I also want a man to be attracted to me, but if he's too OTT during the first three dates, then from experience, he's only after sex. Or he's trying to convince me that sex leads to a relationship rather than the other way round. Not for me.
@user1466783975 I think you're even more old school that me. Which is nice. I know I'm one of the more Victorian ladies on this thread - it's nice to have company! 
For me, there are very few boundaries once the trust is there, but it takes a while for me to gain that trust with a stranger (because experience shows most of them are pigs).
@gettingstherehopefully I accept that many people multi-date from day one (much as I hate it) and you're not exclusive until/unless you've had a conversation. But to me, talking about talking with other people is a bit weird and disrespectful. I think you should only bring up dating other people when you're both ready to say 'and I don't want to date other people' and just keep quiet about it until you get to that stage.
I can see both POVs - where I am in life right now, I could happily do away with everyday messaging. But I'd have to feel pretty secure to go for days without contact - and you're not at that point. You know he's talking to other people. When he's not talking to you, he's messaging other people. So I understand why you feel more of a need for regular contact - you want to be reminded that you're his best and most favourite option.
My limited experience of Frenchmen (I used to live on the other side of the Manche myself) is that they either don't care about you, or they're massively head over heels in love with you, with no in between. I think you have to declare yourself in or out, there's no 'seeing how it goes'.
How much do you like him? Take a risk.
@meowimacat I can't decide if one tick, two ticks, blue tickets is a great thing or the devil's work. Such a modern first world problem, eh?